Week Two: Focusing Your Energy Effectively

21
Mar
2016

Free 5-Part Video Mini Series - Part 2: Focusing Your Energy Effectively

Welcome to Week 2 of The Opening Act

Becoming the Calm, Cool and Confident Mom You Want to Be!

 Putting It Into Practice Handout for Week 2

A note on the printable PDF handout – you may type directly on this handout or you can print it out to handwrite your answers. It is completely up to you.

We are talking about Focusing Your Energy Effectively – in other words, Self Care. This is a common topic for moms to chat about, but do we really understand how critical it is for us to have success in our motherhood journey?

I have shared many times on the blog before (one in particular) because I need to be reminded that it really is a non-negotiable item on our to-do list. And I shared a post which created a little controversy around my title!

Video for Week 2

Week One: Shifting Our Focus

14
Mar
2016

Free 5-Part Video Mini Series - Part 1: Shifting Our Focus

Welcome to Week 1 of The Opening Act

Becoming the Calm, Cool and Confident Mom You Want to Be!

I am so glad to have you here. My prayer is that over the next five weeks I can help you develop some new habits to enjoy motherhood in a different way. One of the best parts of this journey will be that it is FREE – it will cost you nothing but your time investment – but after all, isn’t your family worth it?  

Putting It into Practice Handout for Week 1

Each week I will have a short video for you to watch, as well as a Putting It into Practice handout. It is that simple!

A note on the printable PDF handout – you may type directly on this handout or you can print it out to handwrite your answers. It is completely up to you.

I mention the book ScreamFree Parenting by Hal Runkel in this video. It was critical in my shift of thinking and I suggest you grab a copy to supplement your journey over the next few weeks. 

Video for Week 1

Please share what resonates with you in the comments. Your sharing will encourage others. Come back during the week to check in too. I’d love to hear how it’s going.

Becoming a Calm, Cool & Confident Mom Series

7
Mar
2016

FREE 5-Part Video Mini Series: Becoming a Calm, Cool & Confident Mom

It’s been one of those days and you are quickly losing all your patience. Your kids are not cooperating, you’re not sure what’s for dinner, and you’re about to lose your cool.

Sound familiar?

I have had plenty of those days – until I learned a few key concepts that really helped me turn my frustration and guilt into responses that actually could be helpful (rather than more damaging).

Are you ready to learn some concepts that will help your daily journey as a mom?

I am excited to share a 5-part video series – complete with a “Put It into Practice” action guide – to help you truly grasp some new skills.

Over the next five weeks, we will be covering these topics which will help you respond rather than react in your home:

Each Monday for the next five weeks, I will post a 5-minute video with some helpful tips and steps. You will grab your printable action guide and use it to incorporate this new focus during that week.

This format will be easy to use, considerate of your time as a busy mom, and will make a difference in your parenting! Jump-start your journey to intentionally focus on what you can do to become the mom your kids need you to be and you so desperately want to be.

For those who may have went through this material before on my site, I have made all new videos – so you won’t want to miss the update!

Here is more on what you will experience. This video says you have to sign up, but you don’t – all the material will be here on the blog!

So get ready to get back on track starting next week! Please feel free to share with your friends too. They can come back to the blog or subscribe to have my blog posts delivered right to their inbox, making it super easy. I will also be sharing on The Confident Mom Facebook page.

I am excited to share how I struggle in this area daily. I am not the expert, however I have learned a lot in my parenting journey and want to share it with you!

6 Ways to Nurture a Grateful Heart

9
Nov
2015

6 Ways to Nurture a Grateful Heart

We all want to help our children grow to have grateful hearts, but I admit – it can be incredibly hard in our society. We have to try harder to block the excess and the “entitlement” attitude and allow tenderness and mercy to seep in. The Me, Me, Me Epidemic: A Step-by-Step Guide to Raising Capable, Grateful Kids in an Over-Entitled World by Amy McCready has been very helpful in opening my eyes and helping me find ways to parent more effectively in this area. 

As I journey through this “second” season of parenting again with a five year old, I am reminded of the little things I can do each day to help be intentional in teaching gratefulness.

Set the Right Example

I was convicted of this and have been more intentional in my speech. We want our children to say “please” and “thank you”, so shouldn’t we model that? How many parents do you see saying “thank you” to there two or three year old children? It is through example that kids learn best, and teaching gratitude is no different than anything else in that respect. Children do learn what they live.

Teach by Showing Them How to Be of Service to Others

Even something simple, such as holding a door for an elderly person, is a small way we can show them how others appreciate us and our actions. It is also a way to put a smile and a lift into a stranger’s day, which always creates a good feeling within the person who is doing the kind act as well. You would be surprised how many times a simple gesture like this can occur in your normal day-to-day activities, in places like grocery stores, school, or shopping trips.

Make a List

This is on my list to begin during our dinner time, creating a simple list of what each person is thankful for. During this Thanksgiving season you could even make this Thanksgiving Tree decoration to help visualoze all the things your family is thankful for.

Teach Gratitude While Going Without Things

What can your family go with out? Whether it is intentional or not, like losing power for a day, you can take opportunities to bring in some reality to how life is for those who are not as blessed as we are.

Show Them How to Be Thankful for the Little Things in Life

We can easily forget how the simple things really are things to be thankful for. Having food to eat all the time, friends to play with, and having plenty of toys and school supplies are items to truly appreciate. Kids have no concept, especially if having these things are normal and they have never been without.

Teach Them to See the Good in Someone They Don’t Like

This is one I need to be reminded of often – so when you are having to go through it yourself, it provides the perfect opportunity to share that with your child. Being an adult is hard – but being a kid these days can be just as difficult as we learn to respect others and respond to others in kindness. This is hard when they’ve been mistreated, I totally know that. We have had the opportunity to talk about situations that have happened and share how we can respond better and with God’s love rather than how our spirit wants to respond.

It is all about developing character. If we want our kids to grow up having grateful hearts, it all starts with us and how we portray that in our homes.

Praying for Your Children’s Love of God

15
Oct
2015

Praying for Your Children's Love of God

As a parent who has journeyed through the stages of parenting full circle, this is by far one area that I have not been diligent enough in – praying for my children to LOVE GOD.

As I learn to train myself in new habits, I certainly want to pass along how you can impact your children in the most powerful way.

Often times we feel that we have all the power or control in how our children turn out. I have learned the exact opposite. Our energy is better spent praying and releasing control to Jesus rather than getting uptight and overworked on managing behavior and freaking out.

Do not get me wrong – it is our job to train our children – however I have found in my years of parenting, both as a married couple and as a single parent, I have not been as diligent in my handing over my children to God and His control as I could have been.

It is clear when you read the verses in the Bible about raising children that not only are we to pray for our children and pray for their love of God, but we are to also set a good example to our children. We want them to see what a Godly life is like, why it is good, and how to accomplish living such a life.

The example that Jesus Christ gave us is clear.

Jesus lived a life without sin, and was punished for our sins, so that we might live. What better example is that about how we should strive to live and be for our own children?

When Christ was dying on the cross, He prayed for the people. Jesus said, “Father forgive them, for they know not what they do.” This is an example of how God would like us to pray for our own children. We can be in prayer that not only that our children grow to love God and appreciate His gift to us, but that they be forgiven for what they do not know. In addition, while we cannot be perfect like Jesus, we can strive to be like Jesus – living without sin as an example to our children.

When we falter, and we will, we can point out to our children that we are not perfect like Jesus was, but that we strive to be like Him. Jesus was love personified. He was full of love, slow to anger, compassionate, and gracious. This is what we, as parents, should strive to be like. I need constant forgiveness for my temper and lack of empathy with my children. I have received grace and one of the biggest life lessons my children can see is me asking them for forgiveness when I have sinned and become angry.

Love is easy when it comes to our children, but slow to anger is not as easy. But, that is how Jesus behaved and how we must strive to be, while praying that our children love God with all their might.

The thing is, if we set this example for our children there is no doubt that they will grow in love for Christ because they will see His true nature within your behavior and your actions. Your children are watching. When we can live out completely what we believe it is more impactful than any lecture, discussion, or consequence.

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