I am hurrying to write this post, pack my bags, and get a schedule written down for my mother-in-law who so kindly came to stay with my little guy so my husband and I could go enjoy the trip I earned to Hawaii – don’t worry I will be sharing much more on my trip when I get back – it will be too great not too!!
This post and the timing of my trip is impeccable, as God always seems to place things, huh? I am going to be spending 5 days with my husband and trying to focus on relaxation, conversation and connection, without writing blog posts or spending too much time on social media. Very hard!! I am going to try to live out what we have been reading this week and I feel truly blessed to have this opportunity.
I don’t want to disappoint anyone, especially my wonderful ladies who come to my site each week to find encouragement, but this week my husband gets to win. I likely will be away from social media and attending to comments until I return.
I found it again interesting to me, but no surprising that PRIDE comes into play. It did in week two as well, why is this such a big part of issues we may encounter?
“Pride is at the core of so much marital strife. Pride believes our way is the right way – the only way. Pride says you are more wrong than I am. Pride says I’m you are more wrong than I am.”
I am horrible with regard to my pride getting in the way of my marriage relationship, and this was the wake up call I needed. This is a constant struggle for me and I need to ask God to help me each day – seriously, adding this to my prayer for each morning.
I really was touched by how Jill explained her personal journey with her husband and how she asked God to help her know how to love her husband during his time of depression and distance. It just became clear to me that I need to continually ask God to direct me and He will. I can easily remember that I need to do this with regard to my children and parenting abilities, but I forget when it comes to my husband.
Replacing Pride with Humility
This is where I am weak….my pride can overtake my mind and my spirit and humility is no where to be found.
“Pride keeps conflict unresolved. It keeps us from owning our own stuff. Pride separates, hurts, and even destroys.”
I will be praying about adding more humility in my day, taking the time to evaluate myself more and owning my own part of the ‘stuff’ instead of thinking it is always “his” problem.
We’ve had a rough couple of weeks in our home, for a lot of different reasons. I’ve had plenty of conflict to deal with and am always looking to blame someone else it seems, and it usually ends up being my husband. He’s a good guy, a GREAT guy….and I need to Thank God more for him.
I did do the motherhood gig alone for 8 years, I do know what it is like in that arena…..it is not easier, in fact it is a lot harder – and overwhelming. I need to remember what I have and be grateful – working on my pride issue and what I bring to the scene, which I often create into a messier scene, anyone relate?
So as I get ready to jet off with my hubby for 5 days, I am remembering this:
“There are no perfect husbands – just imperfect men who make mistakes along the way and give you the opportunity to learn to love in ways you never knew you could.”
Write your husband a love letter. Tell him what you love about him. Affirm him. Tell him what he does well. Even if you are in a place in your marriage where you wouldn’t give it to him, write it out – you never know how doing this exercise can impact your heart and add humility. I am doing it!
Begin reading Chapter Six – see you next week!