Mommy Burnout: A Real Reality

25
Jul
2016

Mommy Burnout: A Real Reality

I thought the day was starting out like all others, but shortly after I was up last Friday morning, my reality began to disintegrate. I read this article written by blogging friend Kelly Richards over at Mrs. Disciple and it resonated with me. I felt like summer break was eating me alive this year, and I have only one child at home that I am responsible to supervise. {By the way, if you don’t follow Kelly’s blog, do it today – it will refresh you, inspire you, and give you hope!}

I read the article and my heart sank. I was tired – well, actually beat down exhausted. I sat back with another warm cup of coffee and read through some of God’s word and was met with:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. James 1:2-5

Oh my, it spoke to me as I was feeling weary. I was trying to manage on my own strength, yet once again. I needed to ask Him for His strength and to show me His plan for my day.

I had been in a three week period of travel – which can be good, exciting, and fun, but for me as an introvert, it can put me in overdrive and exhaust my soul. I was spending some days as a single parent while my husband was gone working out of town, which is not unusual (I experience this weekly) – but the combination of travel, caring for my family on my own, managing my household, two homebased businesses, going through a second round of the 21 Day Sugar Detox, and having recently sold our home and starting the process of selling a majority of our personal belongings had my head spinning, my heart aching, and honestly, I was on overload with nothing left to give.

I had yelled at my son the day before and we cried. I didn’t want a repeat of that day, and I knew my patience had not been magically restored. I needed rest.

I posted this on my personal Facebook page Friday morning, in desperation of sharing that I was struggling to get some prayer but also to be genuine and honest with those in my influence to show that we all end up burned out when we don’t take care of ourselves.

My Mommy Burnout

I felt relieved sharing. I was encouraged by so many wonderful words, and also the comments by other moms who were experiencing the same thing. It’s community – if we don’t share all aspects of our life, we can easily be seen as perfect or fake. I never want to be seen as either.

So what did I do to bring a turn around? Here are a few simple things I did that I hope can encourage you when Mom Burnout arrives, because it will. We all are guilty of burning the candle at both ends, allowing our to-do list to run our days, over-committing, and losing our patience. But mama, there is hope and restoration.

Get in the Word

I spent the morning reading my Bible, catching up on some devotional material, and journaling. I rarely set the time aside to do more than 15-30 minutes, so this filled a hole in my soul.

Easy Meals

Since it was just my son and I, meal preparation was simple for the day and I tool advantage of it. I blended one of his favorite smoothies up and he had that for breakfast. It took three minutes and he was happy! We had leftovers for lunch and I threw in some chicken breast in the Instant Pot for dinner. It didn’t matter that they were frozen solid – that is the beauty of the Instant Pot!

Declare a Jammie Day

Yep, I didn’t get out of my pajamas and neither did my son. It was glorious and refreshing. I snuggled in my bed all day and my son snuggled on the sofa and watched an overload of Winnie the Pooh, Veggie Tales, and Tarzan. I watched HGTV, read, texted some friends, used a lot of essential oils to support my rocky emotions, and just plain had no agenda. It was perfect.

Be Honest

I shared with friends how I was struggling, but I shared with my son – I was having a rough mommy day and you know what it helped each of us. I told him I needed to rest, I could really use his cooperation, and that tomorrow would be a new day. It is amazing how when we are honest and vulnerable, especially with our kids, how it can be transformational.

And you know what? God brought a new day and new energy to my worn out body the next morning!

So how’s your summer going?  

Are you surviving?  

Are you on the verge?  

Don’t wait until you are completely worn out – please, set aside your own day to “reset” and “restore”. I can see how it works much better to be proactive than wait until you are forced to do it.

I will be evaluating my expectations during this transitional season. I am not Super-Mom and I never want to be mistaken for one. Please know, you are not alone when you struggle and feel like a failure. It’s when we fail that we truly see how much we need a Savior to help restore and redeem our life.

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