Manners Matter

7
May
2013


Everyone wants a well-mannered child. But, what do they need to know for this to happen?

Parents have so many responsibilities. Two of them are to teach their child right from wrong and how to act. It’s the latter that has parents looking shocked and embarrassed in front of other adults. Your child says or does something unexpected and everyone blames you.

The cold, hard truth is that children learn from imitating their parents. If you want them to practice appropriate mannerisms, then they need to observe them first.   Here are five of my top ones to make sure you have on your radar!

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Please and Thank You

A Word of Greeting

Answering the Phone

Practice selflessness

Waiting your turn to speak

 What would you add to the list? 

 

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No Fail Parenting Phrases

14
Mar
2013


With kids, especially teenagers, you might think that they were born to be lawyers. We tease my older son when he begins to “lawyer speak” us and use terms and suggest we aren’t specific enough.  We can laugh now, but it was often very frustrating!

They can seem to turn your words around on you in a second. If you are dealing with this issue, I’ve got some relief!

Below you will find out ways to phrase your words so that there is no mistake as to what you are saying to your child.

The truth of the matter is that often kids can call parents on something that they say because we, as parents, aren’t sure what we are really saying. Have you ever felt that way? It’s not uncommon.

Parents want to be friends with their children. But, as a parent, we are called to be something more – their teacher. As such we are not their friend, at least not while they are growing up. It is our job to make the hard decisions that might annoy them now, but profit them greatly in the future. In that way, our words have to be sure and purposeful as often as possible. [Read more…]

Holding Your Tongue

26
Feb
2013


No one would bite their tongue if they could help it. The title is figurative.  Although at my house we have a lot of tongue biting going on from one little 3 year old who is often very anxious to eat and things just get carried away, but that is another topic!

Sometimes, when speaking to our kids, they might say something that makes us want to speak, but we know that doing so would damage the relationship we’ve built.

What do you do in these situations?

It can be hard to know when to speak and when not to. That is a struggle for all of us. It can be even more of a struggle when you are talking about your kids. We only want the best for them, but sometimes that means not saying our piece.

Today I will share six reasons to hold your opinion for the sake of  your child

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Their friends are around

They are emotional

The consequence is bad enough

Children will make their own mistakes

Criticisms

Impacting their opinion

It can be hard to bite your tongue, but knowing when to can make life better for you and your kids.

Do you intentionally ‘bite’ your tongue?

 
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7 Steps to a Better Marriage

14
Feb
2013

7 Steps to a Better Marriage

Marriage is hard work and at times you hit bumps in the road or find that you’ve lost the spark of years past. Never fear – even the happiest and most romantic of couples hit rough patches now and then. What makes relationships survive long-term is how couples overcome the hurdles and work together to improve their relationship.

In honor of Valentine’s Day and it’s important part of celebrating the love in your life, I wanted to share some relationship secrets and tips that can help build your relationship all year long. It can be easy to get caught up in the daily mundane routines and forget to care for your marriage, so consider small changes and choices that you can make starting today! If you love these, you might want to read this post I shared a few months ago today.

Let the Small Stuff Go

If your spouse is messy, squeezes the toothpaste in the middle, or some other minor annoying habit, just let it go. Consider how fortunate you are to have your honey by your side and what a small price it is to pay to be with the person you love. You can also be sure that you have a few annoying habits that drive them crazy too!

Be There

We live in such a busy age with tons of distractions. Cell phones, computers, kids, neighbors, and work seem to soak up most of our time. One of the most important gifts you can give to your spouse is your time. Respond positively when your husband reaches out to you, even if you aren’t feeling your best. People in happy, healthy relationships stay focused on the here and now as much as possible, instead of dwelling on things of the past or worrying about the future.

Show More Affection

As couples become comfortable with one another, they tend to be less affectionate. Every day, make an effort to show your partner affection. A simple touch, holding hands, or an affectionate look can mean so much. A hidden love note in an unexpected place, a casual photo of you two tucked into a purse or wallet, a surprise flower, gift, or dinner are great ways to show affection. Last week my husband surprised me with notes hidden all through the house. They made me feel special and let me know he cared, even when he wasn’t there with me.

Communicate

It doesn’t matter if you’re talking about the events of your day, sharing random thoughts, dreams, and wishes, or even being a sounding board for your husband, communication is vital to a happy and successful relationship. Not every talk has to be on a serious topic, but regular communication is a must.

If you feel your communication skills are lacking, consider reading How We Love by Milan & Kay Yerkovich. My small group is studying this book together and I can tell you, it has changed how I view my marriage and how MY actions can change it. Remember, it isn’t so much about your spouse, you can’t change them. But you can certainly change yourself, so learn more about how your patterns of behavior were formed and what you can do to meet the needs in your relationship.

Work on Developing a Deeper Friendship

If you talk to couples who are in long-term relationships, they’ll tell you that not only are they partners, they are also friends. Spend time doing things you both enjoy while working towards deepening your friendship and you can’t go wrong. Men connect by “doing” activities – so why not find an activity to share with your husband? Hiking, golf, tennis, working out – the ideas are endless. Even if it is not your first choice, just do it!

Compliment One Another

It takes no effort to tell someone how beautiful, smart, or talented you think they are. Compliments don’t have to be mushy; they just need to be truthful. Be free with your compliments and you’ll both be glad you did. I bet if you gave compliments more freely to your husband, they may in fact come back to you more frequently too.

Agree to Disagree

Accept that relationships are not perfect and sometimes you will disagree. During these times, have an open mind and hear your husband out even if you disagree on the subject. By listening without interruption, you are showing them that you care. I’ve learned (the second time around) that disagreeing is just part of being a couple. You cannot possibly agree on everything and allowing it to rest sometimes is the best for everyone.

A marriage is like a two-way street where both spouses have to share in making it grow and become deep-rooted. Even the smallest gestures can make a big difference when you approach them with an open mind and a loving heart.

How can you express your love to your husband – even after Valentine’s Day?

Six Ways to Encourage Communication

12
Feb
2013


Sometimes, prying information from your child is like trying to open a can without a can opener. It just can’t be done. Before you pull your hair out, learn how to get your child to come to you and talk when they need a listening ear.

Effective listening is really a learned skilled, but how can you encourage your kids to share with you?

Today I will share Six Ways to Get Your Child to Open Up – sit back and take note to see if you can make some small changes and open communication up!

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