New Years Resolutions for Moms

30
Dec
2013

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Do you like having a fresh start or do you dread it?

For me, having a regrouping at the end of a year is rather refreshing and exhilarating – I truly enjoy looking at what has happened behind me and consider what things could be going forward.

It is the end of 2013 and it is time to consider some resolutions for 2014.  Having set goals and expectations for yourself as a mom, wife and woman will help keep you focused and driven rather than just floating along with no real measurable progress.

If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else.  ~Lawrence J. Peter

That quote is so true, if you allow things to just come at you, you will be subject to just float along.

Here are some tips and ideas on what you can consider as you set some goals for 2014. Tomorrow, come back because I will be specifically focusing on how to care for your body….and ladies, it is not all about losing weight, although that seems to be one on everyone’s list each year.

Pray it through

The worst thing one can do when setting a goal is to be hasty when making it. Take the time to truly pray about what God may have in store for you and allow Him to reveal areas that He thinks should be a focus.  We can always come up with our own plan, but often times it is just that, OUR plan….not Him working in us.

You can spend a lot of time working toward a goal that perhaps isn’t really where God wants you to spend your time.  I know I have a lot of great ideas, but if they aren’t truly goals that are from God, then I can sit spinning my wheels and get no where.  I end up frustrated and feeling less than because I did not involve Him in the process.

Be reasonable

Another reason a lot of people don’t achieve their New Year’s resolutions is because they set unreasonable goals that aren’t practical.  I know for me, I can set some pretty lofty goals and then when I do not see any progress I tend to get real discouraged.  Examine whether it is truly the season for you to focus on a certain goal.  We moms can do a lot, but you cannot do it all – all the time.  

Instead of setting a goal of getting some exercise in 7 days a week, start with a smaller increment and move up.  If you have little ones at home, it can be literally impossible to set aside that time to do it every single day, but perhaps carving out 30 minutes three times a week is more manageable?  If you are just starting a new morning routine devotional time, instead of starting with an hour 5 days a week, pick a smaller goal.  You can always go up from there!  How about 10 minutes, 5 days a week?

Yearly Word

I love this one!  It is my favorite and I think last year it became a bit more popular and I joined in.  Picking a word that is your “theme” for the year is one simple way to have a focus.  I felt led last year to pick the word  PERSEVERANCE.  

Not only so, but we[a] also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;  perseverance, character; and character, hope.  And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. – Romans 5: 3-5  NIV

Let me just say, last year was a year that was like no others.  I was met with many obstacles throughout the year like never before and I know the Lord helped me pick that word and also I dove into finding scripture that would help me walk through troubles and live it out.  It was hard, often overwhelming….but if I had not had my word of the year…..I think I would have gone a bit whacko!  It was something solid I could grasp onto when I felt things tumbling down around me.

So what will your word for 2014 be?  I am praying about mine now!

Start small

As a mom, you understand what it means to start small. We do this all the times with our kids, but we can often forget that to is okay for us to start small too.  I mentioned this above about taking baby steps towards goals instead of biting off big chunks.  It can be very overwhelming to feel like you need to begin a morning devotional routine, lose 20 pounds, declutter your bedroom and start a home based business all at the same time.  So take some of those ideas (after you have prayed about them) and break them down into truly bite size pieces.  Then you can cross off smaller goals and feel accomplishment along the way.

When small goals are set, and met, we can stay motivated.  We all love the feeling of success and celebrating!

Make a plan

I know you’ve heard the phrase,  “Failing to plan is planning to fail?”

Well, it’s true!  Especially, when setting goals. And, it’s even more true for mothers making goals. There are so many factors that have to be considered by moms when they set goals for themselves because they don’t just have themselves to worry about. They have the entire family to worry about too.

Therefore, if you want to make some New Year’s resolutions for yourself, and achieve them, you need to make a plan. Look at your family’s schedule and figure out when you will be able to carve out time for yourself so you can work towards your goal. For example, if losing weight, getting fit or eating better is your goal, you are going to have to make time to  exercise, plan meals and shop with more determination.  This can be difficult with kids, but it’s still possible when you look at your schedule and purposely schedule time in to accomplish and work toward a goal. 

As a mother, it doesn’t matter what your New Year’s resolutions are, you have to have a plan for achieving them or they will never be more than goals. Why? All of the life stresses (kids, spouse, bills, busy schedules, etc.) you are constantly dealing with will continue to get in the way of you reaching your goals.

However, if you purposely make a plan and carve out a little time every day to devote to your goals, you will make your New Year’s resolutions a reality!  Not sure where to start?  Read this post I shared last year for a few ideas!

If you’ve already chosen your word for 2014, I would love for you to leave a comment below as to what it is and your inspiration for choosing that.

Having Grace to Change

25
Apr
2013


We all want things to change – we want to change our kids, our spouses, our homes, our body – it can be endless.  There is something to be said for being ‘content’ for sure, but when you find the real desire to change behavior or a situation, you can only focus on yourself.  We can spin our wheels by thinking we can change other people; in reality we can only change us {with help from The Lord!}.

However, desire to change is just not enough. Deciding what changes need to be made, setting goals, and taking action steps are all required in making real changes that last.  It takes time, prayer and an attitude of grace with ourselves to move forward and tackle frustrating situations and/or behavior. [Read more…]

Goal Setting for Moms

7
Mar
2013

As a mom, it’s natural to be more concerned about your children than you are about yourself.   I mean, it’s what we are programed to do!   But it’s important that we take time to reflect on ourselves regularly as well.
 
 
I try to take a yearly retreat to organize my thoughts, examine my goals and take the time to re-charge  {um, still looking at the calendar for a place to do it this year, I am thinking that nice little beach house I’ve been waiting for will be my perfect spot….soon!
 
If we do not take time to think about our hopes and dreams and set goals and actions steps to get there – nothing will ever change.  Did you catch my blog post from Tuesday, Organizing those goals?  Little baby steps ladies!
 
We all have areas that we would like to see change in.  Let’s touch on a few areas where you could dig in a bit deeper to try to make positive changes that will influence your family for the better.
 

Family Goals

Family is among the most important things in a mom’s life, so it is important to set goals pertaining to our marriage and children.  Whether there is something you would like to change about your parenting style or an area of your marriage that could use some work, working on family dynamics can make life happier and less stressful.
 
Of course family goals do not have to be that serious.  Maybe your family has never been on a real vacation, and you would like to do that this year.  Consciously setting goals for such things is the first step toward making them happen.  I love sitting around the dinner table talking about vacation ideas, this is the time of year to do this!  Come up with some ideas for a summer vacation that you can set as a goal for your family.  Get everyone involved if it involves planning, saving money and getting excited about it.  Even if it is a camping trip, get everyone involved.
 
Family goals are not just for our spouses and children.  We may also wish to set goals pertaining to our relationships with parents, siblings, or other family members.  If you don’t see your parents as much as you would like or have had a feud with a sibling over the years, you could set goals to correct these situations.  Realizing that we make choices everyday on how we interact with others and that it is a choice to hold grudges and feelings of betrayal – I know, I’ve experienced this type of pain for years until I decided to allow it to go.  Search for the right path for troubled relationships and allow healing to occur.

Individual Goals

Setting goals pertaining exclusively to ourselves is something that many moms don’t take the time to do.  By working on aspects of our lives that are important to us and perhaps we are frustrated with, we can feel better about ourselves.  When we feel good about ourselves we have better attitudes, and that makes us better parents and wives.
 
I decided a few weeks ago that my daily routines needed to shift, I needed to make some decisions about what need to change instead of just allowing things to continue as they were.  I know have shifted my days to getting up at 5:15 AM, working out first thing in the morning after my devotion time and allowing myself a nap in the afternoon.  Big goals for me and I am being successful because of small steps in the right direction.
 
Setting goals is important for moms because doing so helps us change things in our lives that are not as we would like them to be.  Defining goals that pertain to both ourselves and our relationships with those who are important to us can result in changes that make our lives happier and more fulfilling.  Isn’t that what you want for 2013 and moving forward?
 
What is at the top of your list? 

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The Big Question

11
Oct
2012


Welcome to Day 11 of 31 Days of Mom Mojo – Tackling Time Management.

If you don’t know where you are going, you’ll end up someplace else.   Yogi Berra

I’ve been in a quandary about where exactly to insert this particular topic into the series, so I just decided that today was the day.  We’ve already talked about to-do lists, starting your morning right, and taking action rather than just complaining – so instead of continuing today with more focus on getting more done with different tips and strategies, I want you to decide what is really important to get done.

It’ time to get YOUR BIG picture!

As moms, we are focused on caring for others, we all know this – but sometimes we need to be reminded that we matter outside that role too.  We’ve talked about this many times.  We tend to lose focus on perhaps things that matter to us, personally.  We know we want to care for our families ‘better’.  Or learn better ways to parent different challenging situations, but what about you?  [Read more…]

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