I have been reminded lately of how much my self-care is needed – I must make time for me so I can be the best for others.
Seems that I was doing well on making decisions after going through The Best Yes study we did several months ago, but I truly lack self-care for myself.
I mean, I get up early to have quiet time, which is a BONUS and I just need that – so at leastI get that in. But I had fallen off caring for myself physically with moving my body. Exercise was placed on the back burner because there were seemingly other more important things. In addition, gathering with friends and enjoying my family has fallen off. I feel the need of completing my to-do list and checking on everyone else more and it is not a good road to be on.
“Women are often so busy caring for everyone else’s needs; they don’t have time to care for themselves. They’re drained, sucked dry of emotional, physical and spiritual energy.” – Kathy Peel
For years women have been fed a bunch of lies making us feel like we need to be sacrificing ourselves for the sake of our families. In fact, if we are not sacrificing ourselves, then we are selfish! I can tell you – if you are sacrificing yourself for your family, both you and your family will end up losing. I have discovered that, my sense of peace has dwindled and I needed to refocus.
I know if I am struggling – there are others that are as well. I think a misconception we have with the term self-care is that it needs to be a big grandiose, time consuming venture.
But I think we have it all wrong.
In order to be taking care of yourself in a way that is manageable, we moms need to find things that refresh us in small amounts of time too. It is not all about spending a day at the spa, (although very nice on occasion) the practicality of that is pretty slim that it can happen as often as we would like.
I would like you to take a look at ‘self-care’ from different perspective. Try figuring out what refreshes and refuels you in small time frames. Identify what re-energizes you and carve out time to make it happen, however that looks for you and your day.
Several years ago I started lists on note cards that I kept handy so that I wouldn’t have to think so hard on how to fit this into my day. I broke them down into 5, 15, 30 and even 60 minute time frames. This made it much easier to schedule these “breathers” throughout my day or if I had a spare 5 minutes that I could easily take advantage of that time for myself, rather than letting it slip by.
I encourage you to try it out. You may be surprised at how easy it can be to fit in things that lift you up and help you be better for yourself AND your family.
To get you started creating self-care habits, I have offered up some of my favorite ideas.
Make a cup tea
Light a candle in the area you are working
Sit quietly with your eyes closed
Lay down on the sofa and start the diffuser with some Peace and Calming
Play a favorite song on your IPOD
Read an encouraging verse
Walk around the block
Call a friend
Savor a nice long shower
Take a book break
Do an exercise DVD
Cut some fresh flowers and arrange them
Take an Epsom Salt Detox bath
Sit and read a book with your child
Do some stretching and deep breathing
Get out and walk the dog
If you need to schedule time in your day to make sure you fit some of these in, then do it. I just began a hot yoga class and I have to put it on my calendar in order for it to get done the following day. It is the best thing I have done for myself and my family!
Self-care will not happen by chance, you will need to be intentional and proactive to carve out the time needed to take a little time for you. I know if I put something on my ‘to-do’ list I have a much better chance of it happening. So, starting today…..put “YOU” on your ‘to-do’ list and make it happen. Your family will thank you for it!