Not considering her priorities
When you know what your top priorities are in your life you are able to make daily decisions with those key areas in the forefront of your mind. If you are not considering your priorities before making decisions or you do not know what your priorities are, something will always end up suffering. Most often you will lead a life feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and frustrated due to feeling overstretched.
Living up to the expectations of others
Constantly trying to meet the expectations of others is exhausting! The pressure of trying to meet what others think you should be, could be or would have been is very damaging to your self-esteem. Mom’s today face an incredible feeling of ‘peer’ pressure like at no other time – find ways to be comfortable with where you are and what you are doing.
Doing everything by yourself
You are not meant to do everything on your own. Running a home, managing a family and perhaps working outside the home are all very demanding. God created the family unit to work just as that – a unit! Ask for help, delegate, or assign duties to those in your family.
By working together, you will be far more capable and powerful than you ever could have been alone – plus happier!
Worrying about what others think
Are you constantly making decisions based on what others will think of you? Do you find it extremely hard to raise your children by your standards in a society that is always comparing, criticizing and analyzing?
Don’t let the opinions of other stand in the way of you making decisions that are best for you and your family. What they think and say about you isn’t important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.
Doing the same thing over and over again
I don’t know why this is a battle, but we continue to do the same thing over and over again – even when we are discouraged with the results.
Why is that?
We think that one day something will magically change the outcome. The likelihood of that is very slim and we all know it.
Expand your horizon and try new approaches to those irritating problems or dilemmas you are facing. Remember, change is good! If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting.
Filling your schedule with commitments and activities
This has become an epidemic among families today. The pressure to be doing something all the time has created children who are unable to relax, enjoy down time and use their imagination. It is okay to have nothing on the calendar and be able to sit, relax and breathe.
This will teach your children something they will never learn anywhere else.
Putting your own needs last
A biggie for us moms! We are always doing for everyone else, yet at the end of the day there is nothing left for us.
You need to fit “you” into your day rather than waiting until everyone else and everything else is done – Yes, it is important to help others, but help yourself too. Take time to shower, exercise, sit down to eat, make a coffee date with a girlfriend. These things keep you refreshed.
Waiting until the last minute
Procrastinating never helped get anything done. By planning ahead you keep the stress level down, which is good for everyone in your home. Decide how you can conquer those things you tend to let slip and wait to accomplish. Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.
Having unrealistic expectations
We expect too much of ourselves. It is a fact. I see it over and over again with the mom’s I work with – too many things on the to-do list and not enough time to do them, resulting in an unsatisfied and mediocre life.
You always feel behind and “not good enough”. Re-examine this topic and see where you in fact are expecting too much of yourself. Remember – you are human!.
Making promises you can’t keep
As moms we want to tell our children what they want to hear – so we often commit to things that may in fact be rather unlikely. When you tell your child, or anyone else for that matter that you will do something and then you do not follow through, you are breaking a promise.
This hurts the level of trust in that relationship and if continued will truly damage that relationship for the long term.
Remember, it is okay to say “maybe” or “I will think about it” or “perhaps”. Don’t always feel obligated to lock yourself into committing.
Can you relate to any of these? What other mistakes would you add to this list?