Finding Restoration and Renewal


I was overwhelmed with your kind responses after reading my post yesterday.  I honestly had trouble sleeping Sunday night because I was wondering if I shared too much.  It is scary to reveal your heart to the whole world.  The easier approach would be to continue on my way, showing you only the side of me which is all perfectly lined up and straight, which is not much of me, mind you!  But instead, you met me with your words filled with grace letting me know you feel my pain and you in fact might be in the midst of your own.

I thank you for being that kind of community here.  That is what Christ wants, us to build relationships and to share from our hearts and I want that to be this kind of place, even more so when we mess up.

For those of you who responded to me, sharing that your hearts were feeling much of the same as I was, I wanted to give you some steps to move forward and help get out of the pit.  

I am still in the midst here, but am working hard on making things right and moving forward.  It’s great to share feelings and know that others feel the same, but if I can’t give some concrete steps to help others move out of the mess, than I am not supporting you all the best I can.


I have not been a big journal person.  There have been different times in my life where I have kept more of a diary , but gave up this type of exercise because I felt I didn’t have time for it.  Honestly, I think that was my lame excuse.  I don’t really feel I am much of a writer either, but the thing is, when you journal you should not be worrying about the writing per say, but rather just getting stuff out on the paper. 

Over the past five or six months as I have been incredibly faithful in my morning devotional time (thanks for the HelloMornings group I am a part of) I have kept a journal.  Some mornings I write 2 sentences, sometimes it is just a verse that touched my heart, other times it is 3 pages of stuff overflowing from my gut.  This has been my tool to unwind emotions, frustrations and find even the simple joy in the seemingly unimportant when I otherwise wouldn’t see it.  Being the task orientated person that I am, I often find these types of ‘ways to explore my emotions’ as a waste of my time.  So far from the truth and I am sure a way of the enemy to keep me from digging deeper.

Morning Quiet Time

This will have been beat into your head and mind forever!  I can tell you over the years I have been very faithful in my morning devotion time and also a big fat “loser” in making sure this happened.  But I will say, and I know it to be true – when I spend the time in His word and allow Him to work on me first thing – before I start anything else, it makes a difference.  I can find hope, even in the midst of my sinfulness and frustration.  I can be recharged and encouraged to keep pressing forward.  

When I miss the time or am in bed thinking I will just sleep a little bit longer, like I did this morning, my body now actually begins to ache knowing what I will miss out on.  I know I will not get what I need in order to fulfill the needs my family has for me to serve.  Even in the midst of my bitterness and discontentment, I can find bright spots to carry me forward and it comes during this special time each morning.


I enjoy being surprised!  If you have not discovered YouVersion, an app for your phone or iPad, get it.  You have a wonderful array of different bible studies that you can choose from and they are all free!  I usually have three or four  different ones going at the same time, add that to the verse and passage for the day, that everyone else reads who is doing YouVersion, you are all set!  I love that it seems whatever comes up on my screen for the day is exactly what I felt God needed me to read.  I also am doing a Joyce Meyer 365 day devotional – Promises for Your Everyday Life, one on Serving, Hopelessness and Attitude.  Um- hum….yep, I need all those areas right now – BIG TIME!


Taking time each morning to pray for myself, my husband and my family has made a big difference in my attitude and my ability to serve.  I admit, some mornings when I am feeling quite discontent or frustrated, it is hard to pray, but I force myself to do this out of faithfulness and obedience.  I found that when I write out my prayers in my journal it can be helpful – I can go back and review what I’ve prayed and can be so encouraged to see how The Lord has been working, even when I cannot really see it.   Because He is!!

In His Word

You have to be in His word – period.  However you choose to make this happen, do it.  His word has the ability to change – and I can honestly say that when I am at my most frustrated the last place I want to be is curled up on the sofa pushing pages in the Bible and seeking His truth.  But I know that is the enemy revealing in his success of taking me away from my Savior.  The one who gave it all so I could live – if Satan can succeed in keeping me out of God’s word, then he has won half the battle.


Find scripture that moves you and motivates you.  Write those down on 3 X 5 cards and place them everywhere.  Be reminded in the midst of your day that He is here with you.  I have felt such relief with these scriptures:

But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.  They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.   Isaiah 40:31

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”  Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.  2 Corinthians 12:9

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  Romans 8:37


I find myself calling out to God more and more during the day.  instead of having this feeling like, I can handle it all, I realize I cannot and need Him even more.  If I do not call out for Him to intervene with His wisdom and guidance, then I am really on my own and portraying a mindset that I can do it all, which is not the case and arrogant to say the least.


Yep, I found myself in church Sunday just crying. I couldn’t say exactly why, but I felt relief.  I am an introvert and I keep things hidden and inside.  I think it makes things so much easier, but that is not always the case.  Find a place to be vulnerable, let emotions flow and allow His healing to emerge.


Yep, keep doing this over and over – it is an ongoing process!

I pray that The Lord will meet you wherever you are, in whatever mess you find yourself.  It is never too late or is it too overwhelming.  Know that I am praying for you all – we are a community of moms trying to do this whole gig right.  It is hard and we need each other nearly as much as we need Christ.  Give yourself GRACE ladies – GRACE!

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Empowering Wellness Support for the Body with Valor


Empowering Wellness Support for the Body with Valor

I shared several months ago about how I overcame my hopelessness and changed my future by using Joy essential oil. I also use a couple other oils in combination with Joy, and Valor is one of those.

I wanted to share with you a bit more about Valor because it has some great uses and truly can relieve many issues that can be frustrating, especially for women (emotional balancing support).

Valor essential pil has been referred to as a Chiropractor in a bottle”. It has been given that nickname because it aligns our physical, mental, and emotional bodies electrically in the body. When things are aligned you are more apt to take on new things and you are also better equipped to release old patterns that are not working for us. Yep, that is help that I need daily! Changing my emotional patterns and my behavioral patterns – it all takes work and can be overwhelming for moms.

I love the smell. It is very soothing and calming!

What Is in Valor?

There are four different oils in Valor, each listed and described below, which are mixed with almond oil as a carrier oil:

  • Rosewood Essential Oil – Has a lovely woody, floral scent that is comforting and soothing. It has a steadying and balancing effect on emotions and may help to uplift feelings of despair.
  • Spruce Essential Oil  It is refreshing, invigorating, and strengthening. It is supportive of the respiratory and nervous systems. Spruce essential oil’s aromatic influences also help to open and release emotional blocks, bringing about a feeling of balance and peaceful security. 
  • Frankincense Essential Oil – Is an ancient essential oil used to support the immune system. The high sesquiterpenes level stimulates and oxygenates the limbic system of the brain which elevates our mood and helps us relax.
  • Blue Tansy Essential Oil – Supports the nervous system by relaxing and easing stress and irritation.

Your Secret Weapon

This oil allows us have the courage and self-esteem to allow us to overcome those things that are holding us back. Remember that when we are overwhelmed, worried, or have increased chaos, we are creating imbalance in our bodies that may manifest in our body.  

How Can You Use It?

  • Use neat (undiluted)
  • Apply several drops (2-4) to chest, base of neck, bottom of feet
  • Rub a drop or two on wrists to ease anxiety and yield confidence (this is my favorite spot to apply)
  • Add several drops (2-4) to bath water
  • Apply to Vitaflex points
  • Directly inhal or diffuse (I will be adding this to my diffuser and interchange with Joy)
  • Dilute 1:15 with vegetable oil for body massage, or
  • Massage 1-2 drops of Valor essential oil blend on your temples or neck to ward off negative energy and increase inner strength
  • Add Valor essential oil blend to your back following a massage for an uplifting experience
  • It also comes in an easy to use roll-on applicator, which is perfect to carry in my purse!

If you are struggling with emotional balance issues in your family, I urge you to give essential oils a try. I cannot say enough about the difference they have made for me personally, as well as helping situations with our children, including compulsive tendencies, emotional regulating issues, and sleep support. You will be doing yourself a huge favor! God has blessed us with natural remedies for our bodies. When we use the resources we’ve been given I know it brings relief to many.

To learn more about adding essential drops of LOVE in your home with essential oils, click here for FAQs and more information.

*These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. I am just a mom sharing my experience in order to help others!