Reflecting on God Weaving My Story



I have been at a loss about what to post today – for several days my mind was blank except for one topic.  

Foster care and adoption

I’ve shared my heart and my story a bit here on the blog in hopes of opening up the eyes of everyone – to find that little spot where you can make a difference in someone’s life.  I have said it before and I will continue to say it….. not everyone is meant to adopt or even do foster care, but there is always somewhere you can lend a hand – there is a need to fill.

As for everyone, this time of year is busy.  I wanted to slow down this season and focus more on the important…. I am trying, but it is still a work in progress.  I’ve been a bit under the weather and keeping up with regular tasks in addition to the extra things that come with the holidays has taken it’s toll.  I have been hearing a whisper in my ear to remember this season and what happened to us four years ago.

You see, four years ago during this time we were introduced to a precious little boy looking for a forever home.  My life was thrown a curve ball and it was, as I reflect, one of the most treasured times that I can remember – with it being Christmas.  


As I look over some photos of when Jacob first arrived in our home, tears form and I began to not only remember but FEEL that time, deeply.   (I managed to dig up a few, sorry they are a bit blurry).  Sometimes we really need to take the time to let our hearts open back up and feel.  I can be really good at stuffing things, thus not allowing good or bad to flow out or in.  It is something God is working with me on.

I remember getting to know this 12 month old little boy, playing with him on the floor, adjusting to his behaviors which were a little different than what I was used to, listening to Christmas music in the background and eventually helping him transition into our home full time.  I would never in a million years imagined I would become the mom of a little 12 month old.  I had no idea what God still needed to develop in my life, and still don’t.

I shared the complete story in a blog post and you can read that if you missed it before.  God weaving an amazing story that I often take for granted and unfortunately forget.

As a mom who has older kids, this time of year can honestly get a bit more tedious than joyous.  I hate to admit that, but I am.  The chore of decorating for some reason this year has become overwhelming….. I am thankful for a husband who is willing to push ahead when I am worn out.

So I truly believe that God is whispering into my ear to slow down, focus on what it was like four years ago.   The wonderment of a new person entering our life, the incredible grace of our God to bless me with this little boy who challenges me everyday to be more of who God wants me to be.  

I need to reflect…. to slow down…. to remember.  God is trying to weave my story even more with His influence and amazing grace, if I just listen and respond.

Is God trying to whisper in your ear – are you ready to listen?  Or are you like me and being a bit stubborn?  

How can you take some time to allow His voice to be heard in all the busy and overwhelm?

Making a Difference with Compassion



I was thrilled to open three letters this week – all from the compassion girls we sponsor here on The Confident Mom, with your support through making amazon affiliate purchases.  I can hardly believe that we are ready to take on another sponsor child!!  WOO HOO!

For those who are not familiar, a few months backs I felt the urge to allow this blog to make a difference in another way by providing support for a sponsorship of a Compassion child.  I attended the Hearts at Home Conference back in March and it all began there.  Our first girl from India, Shine.

As I shared that challenge to use the amazon affiliate link when shopping on amazon, our amount earned each month grew – in just a short time we were able to add two more girls to the sponsorship!


Well, I have exciting news again…… you all have AMAZED ME – and we are at the point where we can add another Compassion Sponsorship to The Confident Mom’s little “global family”.


Judith Sheeba

She is from the same area in India as the other girls, which is really a blessing.  She is sixteen and her birthday is in March.  As soon as I learn more about her I will be sure to pass it on.  So excited to be sharing more blessing with this village!

It is the season where people tend to do even more online shopping (or is that just me??  I hate going to the mall!!)  So in your regular purchasing or gift giving, when you are looking to shop on amazon if you would take a minute and click through this link or the graphic on my homepage, you will hep add to this amount and be helping sponsor these girls.  It is amazing how we can all help and make a difference with just a few addd seconds of our time.

Purchasing using this link does not cost you any more, it does not add anything to the price of the items you are already purchasing, but it does have the impact to make a much larger impact in the world.  I know these girls are thrilled to have you sponsoring them.

Here is the update on our girls:


Reading books, playing football and playing hide and seek are her favorite things to do.  She recently had a birthday and we were able to send a birthday gift amount and she purchased a “trolly-bag” and NIV Bible and some chocolates.  (That sounds like a perfect gift to me!!)


Her school recently had a sports day where they had many events to participate in and also danced.  She also had a birthday recently and was able to purchase 2 sets of slippers, a hand bag, a pouch and some chocolates.  (hmmm…. I see a trend!)  She also sent a beautiful picture on the back of her letter.


She was sharing how her cousin recently had gotten married and had a baby, which she sounded excited about.  Her favorite Bible verse if Psalm 91 –  (love that!!)  She shared a bit about the sports day as well, which is fun….all three of the girls to know each other.  There was also a nice drawing on her letter too.


Thank you so much for taking the time to use the amazon affiliate link so we can bless these families on the other side of the world.  It is amazing how we can each do a little bit to make a bigger impact!

If your family is interested in sponsoring your own family, here is information to make it quick and easy.  I  know you will find it just as rewarding.


It’s a Wrap and a Surprise!!



So, we’ve come to the end of the books study, No More Perfect Moms – I love happy endings, but they are also sad.  I know from conversations on the Facebook page that you’ve seen growth, identified areas that God wants to show you and realized that we do not need to be perfect in ANY area – God is not asking that of us.

I hope you will hold onto this book and read it each year, refreshing your mind with truth and what is important.  Keeping your mind aligned with what you know to be powerful and real.  I will be doing the same.  Even though this is the second time I’ve read through the book, I still gleaned a lot!

So I have a surprise for you too, some may have already seen it on the FB page, but most have not – that silly Facebook is not showing anyone any updates!!  But, before I share that with you, I thought it would be fun to watch the blooper video that was put together from all the takes done to create the wonderful videos for the study.

If you are reading this in your ‘in-box” you will need to click through to the blog to watch – 


And now, for my other surprise…..

The Confident Mom is now sponsoring a child through Compassion!!!

Here is I was at the Hearts at Home Conference right after I signed up to be Shine’s sponsor – I was pretty darn excited about that!

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I am pleased to introduce to you Shine Eirene Andrap, who is 8 years old and lives on the plains of the Dohnavur in India.  I am pretty darn excited and feel this is one way we can unite together to share God’s love.


{Isn’t she gorgeous!!????}  

I felt my heart tug when I sat watching Jill Savage share about actually meeting her Compassion child in a video segment at the Hearts at Home Conference.  It was very touching.  After the segment, they began passing brochures that had children available for sponsorship, you’ve probably been to a concert or event where they’ve done this, you know how it goes.  When the stack came to me, I was really pulled to look through the pile, and now I know why.

Our family personally sponsors children and have over the years, but it came to me that it would be a great community feeling to share in the sponsorship of a child through my blog.  It was like a light bulb went on for me.

I was almost taken back when I began looking through the stack given to our row to review….they were all children from India.  My heart skipped.  I have a huge heart for India which began back when I was in high school.  I was selected to go on an international adventure to a Girl Guide House in Pune, India when I was a Senior in High School.  I was in India when Indira Ghandi was assassinated, back in October of 1984.  It was pretty incredible to be there while such an emotional event impacted the country.

Several years later I went back to India through an opportunity with the YMCA to attend a Leadership event in Hyderbad, India.  I experienced even more of the country and loved every minute.  There started my love of a country that was very different and very far from my home.

A few months back I was offered the chance to review a movie, Mother India about the overwhelming orphan population in India and I shared about it here on the blog.  It touched my heart deeply.  There is something magical about this country, so very far away that ignites something inside me.

So, when the packets being distributed in our row where of children living in India, I knew…… this was a calling.  An opportunity.  I looked through and picked a little girl who I thought was just adorable…..Shine.  How perfect!

I have yet to write her my introductory letter, but will be soon.  I am excited to share with her that it is not only me sponsoring her, but thousands of other ‘mamas’ from all over the world.  I am thrilled to use this blog as an avenue to make a difference to you, but also to a little girl half-way across the world.

You have often seen me post links to amazon products or books – well, you also likely know when I do I make a small commission on those purchases.  Every time you click and make a purchase, even if it is not the product you clicked through on, this blog gets a bit of changeto make a change.  

Here is my heart and my goal – this may be just the start, but I hope to grow sponsorship to more than one little girl.  If the amazon commissions generate enough money to sponsor more than one child on a consistent basis, then guess what?  We will do another!  If it goes beyond that….then we will do another!

I will be creating a graphic button that will appear on my home page on the right side bar with Shine’s picture that will link right to amazon.  If you are shopping online and can remember to click over to The Confident Mom first before placing your amazon order, then you will be adding to that fund!  It will cost you nothing more than a few seconds to do a few extra clicks.

I am excited to share and see where this challenge takes us!!  Know you can make a difference in the life of a little girl and perhaps another as we move ahead with this journey – pray for Shine when you remember, ask God to bless her and her family, to shower her with His love.

We can do this – YES we can!

The Real Story


I am pleased to share with you my daughter’s perspective on our family journey of fostering to adopt.  I did not edit anything she wrote and did not bribe her either.  This is from her heart and I hope it may help another mom who might be struggling with what direction to go.

I was 16 when I first heard that my mom and stepdad were considering being foster parents. It was the last thing that I expected to hear during a dinner conversation while we were on vacation in Hawaii. They asked all of our opinions about it and I was very up front about my opposition.

A Full House Already

I initially felt extremely unimportant. Already our family consisted of 3 kids including myself, why did we need to add another? At the time, this seemed like just an idea and not something that I honestly thought would actually happen since I was so against it. I thought that my mom and stepdad would value my opinion about adding another person to the family. I was incorrect. [Read more…]

Its a Family Affair


This week I’ve been sharing information and my heart for serving children in foster care.  We’ve talked about the incredible need and also the options to be a part of the solution – for everyone.  Today I wanted to touch on what it may mean for your family, most specifically if you have other children already in the home.

After Monday’s post, I received a note from a mom who was concerned with making a choice to foster and what the impact would be on her other children.  I decided that if she had this concern, it was likely a concern for others as well and I wanted to share my thoughts on our journey as well as things to consider.

If you’ve read our story of fostering to adopt, you are already familiar with the struggles we had with our oldest and her willingness to share in the desire to foster or adopt.  I thought I would share a bit more, tackle some concerns other moms may be having and also let my daughter, now 20 and away at college give her perspective now that she is older and our family dynamic is different.  I will be honored to share her post tomorrow, so come back for a special Friday post! [Read more…]