Keeping It Real

4
Dec
2013

 Keeping It Real in the Home

Chapter Twenty One:

Wow, can you believe we are at the end?  Well….it may be the end of the study, but it certainly is not the end of the process.  We have a lot of tips, strategies and the like from the book that can be revisited over and over again, keeping us on track – or getting us back on track!

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“I want to leave you with encouragement from the Word of God for the challenges you will face to bring order and pear into your life

“Insecurity plagues the most confident woman at times.”

“Only with God can you start over more than once with an unblemished, untarnished, 100 percent, still-intact potential.”

The big one for me:

“To stay on course and live a life or priorities, order and peace, we will need strength beyond ourselves.  many don’t believe that and are certain of their own power.  I know – I lived that way for many years.  Believing in your own strength keeps you walking on a path parallel to a life of victory.

I think for me one of the areas I am left with as a continual battle will be one of the things Glynnis talks about during this last chapter – Learn to Finish Well.  I am not the best finisher – in fact today, I got home after dropping my little guy at preschool knowing I had a set agenda for what “work” items I need to work on, and I felt the need to clean my carpets.  I have a procrastination problem at times and then will procrastinate finishing!

“Great intentions are easy, but establishing consistent follow-through has taken years of work.”

This is an area of great diligence ladies.  We must focus moving ahead and changing bad habits.  What does that look like for you?

Remembering that it is not our call to do it all – “For every yes there is a no.”  Remember that.  I have to – even in the midst of wanting to please others.  What do I need to remember:

  • Keeping my commitments simple and within my realistic ability.

  • I need to finish something before I start the next – this will solve a lot of my problems – self-discipline.

  • Realizing that I do not have to be perfect and not allowing what others think of me to jeopardize my self-confidence.

Getting over the hurdles – I especially loved this section, as I am right now going through a hurdle time in my life, but I can take heart knowing that I can learn to overcome, or the other option is to allow it to consume me.  When given time to think about it, I know I want to overcome, not sink.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • What is your biggest lesson from reading this book?
  • How can you challenge yourself in the weeks to come to stay on track and conquer more areas?
  • To finish your race well, what needs to happen?
  • What goal do you have for yourself – what can you start doing today to make it a habit?

I did mention on the Facebook page that I am considering another study after the New Year.  I would love your input, suggestions and ideas on how to do this again.  I was very happy with the success of my first online study and look forward to serving you in this way.  I currently have started reading, “Choose Joy, Because Happiness Isn’t Enough” by Kay Warren.  I think it would be a great focus to begin 2014.

Taming Technology – the Big Beast

19
Nov
2013

 Taming-Technology-Busy-Moms

 

Chapter Fourteen:

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“I want to work smarter and consider who technology can assist, not hinder, my mission in life.”

Keeping it in its place (technology) as a tool, not a  temptation, takes work.  Yet its potential for keeping us on track and efficient is worth the effort.”

“We need less consumption of technology and more unplugged activities, like reading and getting into nature.”

The big one for me:

“Could an inability to sustain focus be hindering your ability to bring order and balance in your life?”

“Even though it may seem like you are saving time by multitasking you’re not as efficient or effective as you might think.”

 I am the biggest multi-tasker out there – seriously!  I think I used to brag about it, but I began to realize that it is not the best thing I could be doing.  I shared more on the dangers of moms multi-tasking in this blog post.  I do feel that often times my tasks take longer because I am trying to do more than one thing at a time, resulting in less effective concentration and not truly being present with the task at hand.  

I find it extremely hard to sit on hold, for example and not start another task while waiting.  This happened just yesterday as I was waiting on hold for the airlines…….I was waiting and then decided to start another task and then when the operator came on for me to choose a prompt to direct my call, I missed it.  So I had to wait and listen to it all over again.  This happens a lot.  I hate to admit, but sometimes I even get disconnected and will end up having to call back – completely wasting my time!

I could certainly use some help with digital planning and I loved Glynnis’ tips here.  I have a simple to-do list, but it could get more specific and I could break down tasks into different groups.  My husband is very effective with his to-do list, something I have “put on my to-do list” to have him show me what he does! LOL

I do love having the Apple system for our family – combining all our family schedule together and using iCal for lists, calendars and more.  It really is helpful for a family our size and easy.

There are many more suggestions to conquering computer tasks, email and tricks, make sure you highlight this section!

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • Do you set aside a specific time each day to check email?
  • What area of technology is your biggest ‘Beast’ right now?
  • Are a multi- tasking mama?   Did that section touch your heart in a way where you need to make some changes as it did mine?
  • What is one goal you can set for yourself from today’s reading?

Disorganization – It’s Complicated

5
Nov
2013

Disorganization-Motherhood

Chapter Seven:

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“Unfortunately, when I settle for ‘good enough’ consistently, I learn to live with mediocrity.  And accepting mediocrity is far from where God wants me to be.  You see, finishing what we start is more than a good organizational or home management skill.  It’s also a spiritual discipline.”
“There are times when needs or situations require the emotional energy or time we would normally distribute more evenly through the rest of our lives.”

The big one for me:

“I wonder how many truly brilliant, original, life-changing ideas have disappeared because their creators lacked follow-through.”

Situationally Disorganized

I loved this from Glynnis – you have most of the skills and smarts to bring organization to reality, we simply need to adapt to the current situation – or give ourselves grace to just ride it out!  We can all relate, those incidents and events in our lives that throw us for a loop – you all have shared a few on the Facebook page, how things seemed all good, until _________ happened.  Fill in the blank.  

“It is better to live with a messy house than to regret missing any of life’s magnificent moments.”  Glynnis

But, at some point we do have to get things back in order….or else things just slowly decline to a place of complete despair.  Maybe that is you now.  I love that the Lord is there to offer himself to us…..His comfort, wisdom and strength.  Ladies, we don’t have to do it on our own!  Allow His grace to cover you in the midst of the mess…….your own harsh self-judgement will not help in anyway at all…..it is rather debilitating, honestly.

I know many of you can say “yes” to many of the questions Glynnis asks in the  Are You Situationally Disorganized list.  It’s been that kind of season for you.

Chronic Disorganization

For some of us we lack certain skills or characteristics to overcome the disorganization alone.  If you feel there are underlying issues that are preventing you from moving ahead then you may fit in this category.

If you have tried to change on your own and have failed many times, you might need to seek professional help to overcome  unique challenges, such as ADHD, chronic illness, depression or perhaps other emotional or physical issues.  Do not be ashamed, seek out the help you need in order to not stay stuck where you have been.  I look forward to sharing with you the call next week in our series, Conversations that Spark Change with Nikki, a professional organizer who will have some great tips to move those who might be stuck in this spot.

Lack of Follow-Through

This one hit me and really resonated with me as an area where I find frustration with others.  I have a tendency to always follow through with simple tasks, like her hanging up the robe.  But sometimes when I am met with certain challenges I do not follow through.  For example, I have a wreath project that I have had going on now for probably 3 months.  I’ve completed part of it, but am now stuck with purchasing a few more supplies to complete it.  So there it sits on tops of my TV cabinet in my living room, undone and cluttering up that area instead of being finished and hanging on a door.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • Have you had a big event in the past 3 years which seemingly threw off your normal routine?
  • Would you say you are Situationally Disorganized or have an issue with Chronic Disorganization?
  • Do you find yourself mentally tired from having to make decisions everyday?
  • Is there a project that you have left ‘un-done’ because of your lack of follow through?
 

  

I Used to Be So Organized Book Study – Week 3

4
Nov
2013

I-Used-To-Be-So-Organized-Study-Main

We are making progress ladies – small changes really matter and I am so thrilled with the comments I am reading on the facebook page – it is amazing – take a look at a few of these:

“This book is setting me free! It’s so nice to know I’m not alone in my struggles. I’m learning it’s ok to not have to keep all the balls in the air alone. I can (and should) ask for help when needed and I can let some fall if necessary. Every cause is not my cause. I need to pray and then LISTEN for God to answer with His plan!”

 

“I just finished listening to the conference call with Glynnis and Susan. What a wonderful chat between these two ladies. I realized that there is more to just cleaning and organizing. I know that being in God’s will is most important. I do spend each morning with my Father, and lately I’m just praying and reading a few verses rather than an indepth Bible study. Praying that God will continue to change and mold me as I work through this book. Thanks for the study!! I love it!”

 

“I just finished reading chapters 4-6 and I have to say this book and study is a Godsend!!! I am amazed at how much I was unaware of what I am holding onto in my heart. If I got nothing else from this study other than what I just got out of the last three chapters I would be ok, my heart is taking change and God is giving me peace for the life I am living right now! I am so so thankful for the truths I have read and the freedom it is bringing. No, my house will probably never be perfect but my heart is what is important and my priorities need to follow suit.” 

I am humbled with how I can be used to help bring about change for so many women……I was hesitant to do this study….what if no one wanted to do it, what if I only had 3 people on the Facebook page….what if…what if…what if….doubting…..always doubting.  But I did it anyway and lives are being changed!  

Glory to God!!!

 

Week-Three-Bible-Study-Verse

Find a way to throw off the things that are hindering your growth and change – He wants and desires so much more for you!!!

Week Three Reading Assignment:

Read Chapters 7, 8, 9

I will be posting my thoughts on Chapter 7 on Tuesday,  Chapter 8 on Wednesday, and Chapter 9 on Thursday.    

Setting Reasonable Expectations

30
Oct
2013

Realistic-Expectations-Moms

Chapter Five:

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“When I should have been enjoying the happy chaos and accepting my life as it was, I kept trying to regain my old life and slammed into daily frustration.”

“Becoming a woman who sets healthy expectations for herself based on reality will bring a greater sense of acceptance, peace, and hope to your life.”

“Staying connected with God is crucial to finding balance and perspective during challenging times.”

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