No Fail Parenting Phrases


With kids, especially teenagers, you might think that they were born to be lawyers. We tease my older son when he begins to “lawyer speak” us and use terms and suggest we aren’t specific enough.  We can laugh now, but it was often very frustrating!

They can seem to turn your words around on you in a second. If you are dealing with this issue, I’ve got some relief!

Below you will find out ways to phrase your words so that there is no mistake as to what you are saying to your child.

The truth of the matter is that often kids can call parents on something that they say because we, as parents, aren’t sure what we are really saying. Have you ever felt that way? It’s not uncommon.

Parents want to be friends with their children. But, as a parent, we are called to be something more – their teacher. As such we are not their friend, at least not while they are growing up. It is our job to make the hard decisions that might annoy them now, but profit them greatly in the future. In that way, our words have to be sure and purposeful as often as possible. [Read more…]

12 Great Reminders for Moms


I shared a bit about some resolutions on Tuesday during my audio blog.  It is never too late to incorporate changes into your parenting routine, so I thought I would share some great ‘reminders’ for the New Year.

We all have the same struggles – we nag our kids too much, over-react when they mess up and we regret not spending enough time with them.  We are all in that boat – at one time or another!  Don’t be too hard on yourself, guilt gets you no where.  Not only is parenting the world’s hardest job but children aren’t born with owner’s manuals so we tend to rely on trial and error a great deal.  Even I have bad days {remember my facebook post last week, ARG!}

It is always good to re-evaluate and make changes to our behavior.  Remember, we cannot control our kids, but we can certainly control our own actions.  Making small changes really does make a difference to the big picture.  Be realistic and choose one or two to add to your list of “work-ons” for 2013. [Read more…]

Being Realistic


Welcome to Day 31 of 31 Days of Mom Mojo – Tackling Time Management. WOO-HOO – we made it!

When you aim for perfection, you discover it’s a moving target. ~George Fisher

As I wrap up this 31 Day series I thought it best to tackle the topic of perfectionism. It could be very easy for you to come away from this series thinking that it is all about doing everything perfect and 100% all the time.

That is NOT what I want you to leave with.

Perfectionism has been defined as when someone strives toward goals that are usually impossibly high but won’t settle for anything less. If it’s less than perfect they view it as unacceptable.

That is me – I struggle with perfectionism and will everyday of my life. But I have come to understand that I have the ability to recognize it and make choices that are better for me and my family.

You see, my perfectionism has led me into depression and often into extreme procrastination due to the fear of not doing a job or task “good enough”. For those who struggle with perfectionism, you may be able to understand. For those who do not, probably think I am a little whacko! {There are probably many who do think that anyhow! LOL} [Read more…]

Disconnecting to Stay Sane


Welcome to Day 18 of 31 Days of Mom Mojo – Tackling Time Management.

Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.  Barbara de Angelis

With the advent of email, instant messaging, cell phones, blackberries, etc., we’ve become accustomed to always being available to anyone and everyone at all times. In many ways this is great, but when you want to spend time with your family, or spend time relaxing by yourself, being hooked up, tuned in and turned on can be a liability.

It is critical to your well-being, as well as your family to find time to be quiet, to hear less noise, and to enjoy your own company.  The constant input of stimulation keeps us on a road of high sensory input and it is not the best for creating an environment which is calm and peaceful in our home.   [Read more…]

10 Quick Time Tips for Moms


Welcome to Day 9 of 31 Days of Mom Mojo – Tackling Time Management.

“Don’t dust your knickknacks if your kitchen counters are still dirty.” – Peter Turla

I shared today on my Blog Talk Radio Audio Blog 10 great time tips for moms. A couple are ones that we’ve covered already, but most are ones that you’ll want to take note of.  One of the tips was to multi-task, but only when appropriate.  So, while listening to this audio blog what can you do that is somewhat mindless, while you focus in on listening?  (Hint – cleaning counters, wiping the frig, dusting your main living areas – some of these tasks are from today’s list in the Weekly Household Planner, so you would be killing two birds with one stone!) [Read more…]