Week Three : The Fringe Hours – Prioritizing


Week 3 a Time, that magic word…. we either love it or find it haunting us.  We either feel we have enough or are lacking a lot. 

“One always has time enough, if one will apply it well.”   Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Ouch, I don’t think I really like that quote, only because I think it rings true.  I do waste a lot of time on unproductive things, which could in turn be used on good things – like self-care for me!  I find the issue of breaking bad habits hard, how about you?

I really loved this first section of the chapter as well….. it resonated with me immensely. 

“The prioritization of our passions benefits us in every way – internally (spiritually, mentally, and emotionally) and externally (in our relationships with other people and how we interact with them).  We are more fulfilled, which leads to greater joy and peace.”


Part 3, Maximize

Chapter 7, Prioritizing Your Activities

Chapter 8, Using Your Time Efficiently


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Week Two – The Fringe Hours – Finding Your Time


Week 2 Chapt 6

This is YOUR time for a new beginning….. how does that make you feel?

  • Are you inspired?
  • Deflated?
  • Uplifted?
  • Significant?

For me I feel all of those things.  I love to come up with new plans and be inspired for a new routine, but to be honest I tend to allow life to squeeze right back in where I tried to make a u-turn.   Follow thru is not a big strong point for me, but I know one day there will be a shift so I continue to push forward.  ðŸ™‚

I have gotten out of my habit of rising early – I used to get up before 5:30 AM and it has slowly shifted to 6:30 AM – UGH!!  I miss it.  I need to be more disciplined to get back to my routine…. so that is my goal this week… to slowly shift my alarm 15 minutes earlier each day.

I also have never tracked my time.  I will be doing this task as well.


Part 2, Discover

Chapter 6, Finding Your Time



Are you a morning person or do you love the evenings?

Did you download the Time Log mentioned from the last post?  Do it!

I look forward to the conversation in the Private Facebook page – you all have been amazing at sharing your heart and being supportive of others situations.  I love that!

Week One – The Fringe Hours – Letting Go

We are reading the next two chapters, which cover our Self-Imposed Pressures and Eliminating Guilt and Comparison.  Boy, I need help with these areas!

I tend to place completely unrealistic expectations on myself, and often towards others too.  Then when I do not meet those expectations I carry guilt and condemnation like it is a trophy.  So much emotional stuff tied to this area.  As Jessica says, “Guilt is wreaking havoc on women’s lives and preventing them from taking care of themselves.”

I so agree, and I am one of those.  With a husband that travels out of town 3-4 days a week I feel guilty to take time away from if I were to do something on my own when he is in town.  So unless I really find a way to use my Fringe Hours – I am left empty again.

“The first step in eliminating feelings of guilt for investing in yourself is to give yourself permission.”    

That is my prayer – to allow myself permission to use time for things I enjoy and not be focused solely on my to-do list.  But today, as I write this post, my expectation for the day didn’t go as planned.  My great plan, was flipped upside down, as most mom’s can totally identify with.  I just spent the last 5 hours on a project that was not in my plan, thus taking away any white space I had in my day to enjoy time for me.  

That happens and tomorrow is a new day, thank goodness!


Chapter 2, Letting Go of Self-Imposed Pressures

Chapter 3, Eliminating Guilt and Comparison


I look forward to the conversation in the Private Facebook page over the next few days discussing these two chapters.  I know as we share, we are able to help each other overcome!

Week One: The Fringe Hours – Balance


Chapt 1
Here we are to kick this book study off!  I know many of you have already been reading – it is so good!

Self-care is not a ‘new’ topic – I’ve talked about it here on the blog many times, discussed it with moms I’ve coached and tried to implement in my own life.  But, it often gets neglected when we get out of routine or chaos begins to overrun our lives.  It goes to the very bottom of the list and then as with many things at the bottom, we never get to it.

Most of us have trouble juggling.  The woman who says she doesn’t is someone whom I admire but have never met.   Barbara Walters 

Pursuing Balance is our focus today.


Before We Begin

Part 1 – Explore

Chapter 1, Pursuing Balance  (pp. 13-36)


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What resonated with you from the video?

10 Secrets Every Mom Should Know



Trust Your Intuition

My biggest secret tops the list!  So many moms are overwhelmed with trying to fit in everyone else’s advice and afraid of doing the wrong thing.  I get it – it is a constant struggle.  We feel we are under a microscope all the time.  You were given unique gifts as a mother and the intuitive wisdom of moms is not an accident.  I cover this more in my book, “Becoming the Confident Mom You’ve Always Wanted to Be.”

Counting to TEN is okay

Face it – we lose our tempers, unless you have exceptional control and temperament.  I struggle with maintaining my calm when things get a little dicey.  Over time I have learned to ‘stop the train‘, count to ten and then respond to the situation at hand, unless its truly an emergency.  This has been so helpful for me and made for much happier days.

Do-Over’s are Encouraged 

Okay, so I am not the perfect mom so I often will take a “do-over”.  I believe they are totally fine for me as well as my children.  We all mess up and when you have the chance to try again, it helps the learning process and gives opportunity for forgiveness too.

Be Flexible

I love me some routine, but I have also learned that as a mom you are FAR better off to go with the flow at times.  Being in a place where you can allow the schedule to change and you can adapt is truly important to helping your kids develop those skills.  If they see you freak out over and over with small changes, then they will learn to do the same.

Playing Matters More than Work

I admit, I still struggle with this area, especially as the work at home mom of two businesses. Whether you work from home or managing your home is your full time job, we all can relate.  My word this year is MARGIN, which means I need to carve out that time I need to enjoy all the other things that make life enjoyable.  Not just work.  I want to enjoy getting down on the floor with the Lego’s – even when it would not be my first choice. 🙂

Be a Yes Mom

This is a Jill Savage saying and I love it.  Instead of always being the fuddy-duddy mom saying no to those messy projects or tasks that require just a bit more, why not say YES?  It will make your day a bit more interesting I am sure and give your kids a surprise!

Delegation is Good

In other words, it is okay to ask for help, not only ASK for help but be specific with what you need and who can do it.  This can entail your children helping around house to asking a friend to stop by the store for you.  When you reach out to ask for help it does not mean you are weak, it means you just could use some help right then.  Be willing to not only ask for help but offer it when you can as well.

Intentional Joy

There are days which are harder than others, but when I stop myself and decide to seek out the joyful parts and focus on those, my demeanor changes as well as everyone around me.  The mom is the thermostat of the home…. so be careful to choose Joy – seek out those things that lift your spirit and be intentional.  I have my secret weapon of JOY – and when I diffuse it in my family room it is amazing how everyone else’s attitude changes too!

Be Selfish

In other words, take care of yourself.  You need time to re-charge your mom battery for everyone’s sake.  You cannot take care of others when you are feeling exhausted,  worn out and completely drained.  I know this is a tough subject, but you are your best advocate, this sacred space you need will not just fall in your lap.  Be creative in ways you can nurture yourself.

Receive Grace

Out of all the secrets here, this is the biggest and hardest for a lot of us to receive is grace.  We are the hardest on ourselves…..never giving ourselves a break when we mess up.  I expect a lot of myself and I am my worst critic.  But I am learning, the the wonderful reminders of my husband to give myself grace.  Tomorrow is a new day and it sure is a glorious thing!