Supporting Your Emotions through the Holidays


Supporting Your Emotions through the Holidays

This time of year is glorious, but it can also be filled with grief, family dynamics that can overload, and incredible amounts of stress.

I have shared my story of successfully supporting my emotional well-being naturally and it has helped so many other moms who struggled as I did. I could not get a grip and relied on methods to help which were truly not the best for my body. Can you relate?

As we enter into this last week of celebrating Christ’s birth, I wanted to share with you how I use essential oils to support not only my own emotional wellness, but also other family members (who may not even be aware)!

During the Christmas season I struggle with grief because I miss my mom who is not here to enjoy the holidays. I am also dealing with blended family issues which make our holiday even more tricky, and the typical family drama that seems to stem even when we try hard to stifle it. This just comes to the surface and if we are not careful – we can blow really easy.

Why Are Essential Oils Effective?

When you inhale an essential oil, the molecules travel up your nostrils to the olfactory cortex, which is embedded within the brain’s limbic system and amygdala, where emotions are born and emotional memories are stored. The olfactory bulb then transmits impulses to other parts of the brain, including the amygdala and other parts of the limbic system.

Because the limbic system is directly connected to those parts of the brain that control heart rate, blood pressure, breathing, memory, stress levels, and hormone regulation, essential oils can have a profound physiological and psychological effect. This has been my experience…dramatic changes within seconds, as when you inhale an oil those molecules have entered your bloodstream very quickly and will begin to impact the brain.

Wonderful Essential Oils for Emotional Support

What Do I Use?

Joy – This is my first love for emotional support and well-being. It is powerful with helping the heart, soul, and mind. You will find Bergamot, Ylang Ylang, Geranium, Lemon, Coriander, Tangerine, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose in this blend.

Christmas Spirit – This is a purifying blend of evergreen, citrus, and spice – perfect for the holidays! You will find Orange, Cinnamon Bark, and Spruce. It will inspire joy, peace, happiness, and security.

Stress Away Roll On – This is an amazing blend that brings a feeling of peace and tranquility to all who use it. Say goodbye to occasional stress, tension, and nervousness, plus increase your mental response – love that!

Sacred Mountain – This is an incredible blend that is empowering and grounding. It is a unique blend of Spruce, Ylang Ylang, Idaho Balsam Fir, and Cedarwood.

Peace and Calming – This promotes relaxation and a deep sense of peace and emotional well-being. It is a must for my six year old! It has Tangerine, Orange, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, and Blue Tansy.

Valor – This is one of the most popular oils for emotional support. Fabulous blend of coconut oil, Spruce, Rosewood, Blue Tansy, and Frankincense. It is wonderful for balancing energies, inspiring courage, and confidence.

Harmony – You will often find this one in my diffuser necklace. It does just what the name entails – brings harmony and can help dissipate feelings of discord. It is very uplifting and elevating to the mind, helping to inspire a positive attitude. It’s a blend of Sandalwood, Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, Orange, Angelica, Geranium, Hyssop, Spanish Sage, Spruce, Coriander, Bergamot, Lemon, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose.

How Do I Use Them?

My first line of emotional support is to apply the oils topically to myself and also use a diffuser necklace. I love the beauty of the necklace and it keeps it handy – yes, I can be seen sniffing my necklace from time to time!

I will apply oils topically on my wrist, neck, or spine. I have found that many people love the scent of the oils I choose to wear, and I know that I often get asked for a second hug! I threw out my chemical filled perfumes months ago and chose this natural method for smelling good, because it truly is beneficial for all.

But, one of my top ways is to diffuse essential oils – because I can get the molecules all around my home, so everyone can smell them! This makes creating an environment that is calming or uplifting (whichever I am going for) super easy. And even for those stubborn family members who don’t want to apply oils to their skin, they are breathing in the oils – which as we learned, makes a difference in their emotional balance!

Think about that when you are getting ready to host a big family dinner with lots of different personality types – some Joy or Christmas Spirit diffused in your family room area will help keep the peace. I can almost guarantee it. I have heard sorry after story of family meetings that have went off without a hitch because a knowing host began diffusing before guests arrived!

Click here for details on how to purchase therapeutic grade essential oils! You will also find other posts that I’ve written about essential oils and how we incorporate them in our home.  🙂

*These statements have not been evaluated by the FDA. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

Why I Ditched Donna Karan



You know how you can recognize someone by their smell?  We often have memories brought back to our conscious by certain smells; our brains are very powerful and our bodies are amazingly woven together emotionally and physically.  In my journey of learning to use less toxins in my home I am learning so much and becoming empowered. 

I am amazed at what I didn’t know and just went about doing, applying all types of toxins to my skin, washing my hair with toxic shampoos, moisturizing my body with lotions full of chemicals and using chemical ladened hand sanitizer.  And the big one for me, which I ditched about a year ago, synthetic perfume

Fragrance is now considered among the top five allergens in North America and European countries and is associated with a wide range of skin, eye and respiratory reactions.  SOURCE

YIKES!  This really shouldn’t amaze me, but it does.  

For over 15 years I was known by my smell – (at least it was a good smell!!).  I could come into a room and everyone would know I was there because of my Donna Karan Cashmere Mist perfume I wore.  I loved that perfume. 

As I met my health challenges “head on” with new approaches to dealing with my symptoms, I decided to examine all things – and synthetic perfume was one that hit me upside the head.  Why on earth was I intentionally spraying myself with chemicals that I really had no idea how they could be affecting my body?  There are major health risks of those chemicals in fragrances. 

According the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics a few popular perfume tested for safety contained an average of ten unlisted chemicals each that are associated with allergic reactions like asthma, wheezing, headache and contact dermatitis. Additionally, perfumes tested contain an average of four chemicals known to be endocrine disruptors, which impair normal hormone development and have been linked to a range of health issues including sperm damage, thyroid disruption and cancer. 

So I decided to take a look at my fragrance, Donna Karan Cashmere Mist Body Lotion and it’s CMBLingredients:

Ethylhexyl Methoxycinnamate – is a synoym of Octinoxate which has moderate health concerns per EWG’s website – it says:

Other HIGH concerns: Biochemical or cellular level changesEndocrine disruptionOther MODERATE concerns: Persistence and bioaccumulationOther LOW concerns: Enhanced skin absorption, Ecotoxicology, Organ system toxicity (non-reproductive)

DIMETHICONE –  Moderate concern with Organ System Toxicity  SOURCE

METHYLPARABEN – Other HIGH concerns: Endocrine disruptionOther MODERATE concerns: Biochemical or cellular level changes;  SOURCE

That is just the lotion.  That was enough for me.  So it was ditched, thrown out and never used again.  This has been 10 months ago.  If you are curious about other forms of toxins in your personal items, I would examine your toothpaste, shampoo, deodorant and more.

So what do I use now?  All natural Essential Oils, which not only smell fabulous but have benefits which are profound for my body!

Did you know that because of the molecular structure of essential oils they are rapidly absorbed by the skin.  When applied topically, it takes 2-3 minutes for an oil to reach the bloodstream and 20 minutes to affect every cell in the body.  AMAZING!  Plus, when an essential oil aroma is inhaled it causes the olfactory bulb to send messages to the limbic part of the brain, which activates memories and emotions.  When inhaling, it takes only 22 seconds for an oil to reach the brain.  The only way to reach the limbic system is through smell, which is why oils are such a great option for those needing emotional balance and mood stabilization.  I have shared about my journey dealing with both.

I will say I get even more compliments on how I smell now than I did when I was wearing my toxic perfume.  One example…. I purchased a lamp at a local store and unfortunately it didn’t work out, so the next day I ran over to return it.  I had the same check out gal return my item as I had when I had purchased it the day before.  She promptly mentioned to me that I smelled so good and that she wanted to ask me what I had on the day before but held back.  She said I still smelled good, so I told her my “scent” and she was really surprised!  I think people expect you to smell like a hippy or something if you use essential oils!!  It makes me laugh.  I constantly have people asking me why or what I have on that makes me smell so good.


My favorite oils to use as my perfume now which support my emotional side as well are:

Joy,  an amazing blend of Bergamot, Ylang ylang, Geranium, Lemon, Coriander, Tangerine, Jasmine, Roman chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose.  

Harmony, also a blend which contains Royal Hawaiian sandalwood oil,  Lavender oil, Ylang ylang, Frankincense oil, Orange oil, Angelica, Geranium, Hyssop, Spanish sage, Black spruce, Coriander, Bergamot, Lemon, Jasmine, Roman chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose. lotusThis is a powerful emotional blend for me and I apply several times a day.  I also wear it in my diffuser necklace, which is a fabulous way to have an oil aroma constantly available to inhale, plus be a bit stylish.    I got this one from diffusing mama, if you use the referral code 150125  upon checkout it will let them know you found them thru my blog too!  I have the one with a silver chain and it dresses up even just a t-shirt and I love it.  There is a small leather disc inside that you drop your essential oil into and it will smell great for days!

Sacred Mountain, another incredible blend which contains only a few oils, Spruce, ylang ylang, Balsam fir, and cedar wood. I love this one applied to my ears – yes of all places!!

Valor, one of Young Living’s most popular blend oils – it is amazing for emotional support and lifting your spirit.  It is a blend of Spruce, rosewood, blue tansy and frankincense.

I encourage you to take a real look at what toxins you are using in your home and more importantly on your body that just are not necessary risks.  I am a firm believer that what we are using and applying to our largest organ (our skin) is having dramatic effects on our health.  Why take the risk when there are other options?

If you know you are ready to jump in NOW – then jump over to my information page and learn what you can get in your Premium Starter Kit.  I would love to join you in your journey – you will love our supportive Facebook private group too – love these oily mamas!!  We encourage each other daily!

Replacing My Manipulation with God’s Goodness



What a great chapter!  It is refreshing to read about parenting and realize I am not alone in the disappointments I have with myself and also my desire to do the right thing or be the best.  But striving for perfection will only bring disappointment.

Over the course of my parenting seasons, I have learned a lot.  (Remember, I have a 21, 17, 13 and 4 year old – oh BOY!)  I know my actions are extremely important and honestly, a lot of the time it is not so important what I say, but how I say it.  My body language speaks volumes and when I sit back and respond rather than react things go much better.

I am not sure I look for repentance in my children as much as I should.   In many situations, I am more interested in just getting them to do what I think they should do rather than it truly coming from their heart.  I was reminded in what Sue said, that “ultimately we are not the judge of what is completely right and wrong.  The Ultimate Judge is our parent.  Our loving Father in Heaven….”

I think many of us can fall into the spectrum of parenting, at least early on, where we are under this false idea if we do just the right things, then everything will be great.  I was certainly under this false pretense in the first few years of my parenting, but I can see how I have changed in both my approach and my expectation with my now 4 year old.

“Our teaching had moved from being grace-based and Spirit-leg to being fault-finding and condemning.”

When Sue shared this sentence in the chapter, I felt a twinge of guilt.  Yep…..I truly feel I am still working my way toward a more grace-based parenting method.  Do you feel that way too?  Curious what others think of their parenting strengths and weaknesses.  We all have them and we all will struggle with the “right” plan for our kids.

This chapter was a great reminder on how we need to re-evaluate our parenting every single day!  I think back to my ScreamFree Parenting training several years ago.  Most parenting methods are controlled or manipulative methods with our kids and honestly, is that really what we want?  No, we truly do want our kids to change their ways and learn to make better choices on their own, rather than us forcing it by manipulating and control.

Being open to learning and growing as parents is what God desires.  We are not perfect, we need to change and each of our children are different, we must adjust.  They challenge us beyond what we think we can bear, but He is there.

“He will show you times to be firm and times to show mercy.  At every moment of every day the fruit of His goodness is available to you.” 

I love that quote and I will be reminded to seek His will more often through out the day.  I admit, I am terrible at really asking Him for help during the day, or at least as often as I should.  I am a “do-et” and often just want to get through the moment, rather than slowing down to listen and hear from Him.

That is my focus this week, (I’ve made other realizations in the past, writing is a great way to come to conclusions for sure!) in the midst of the seemingly overly frustrated and exhausting…..I shall stop and ask Him to help me in the moment.