9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Seven

14
Jul
2014

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We begin week seven of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.  

Week Seven

Read  Chapter Seven – Replacing My Manipulation with God’s Goodness

Trait 1:  Goodness

I am sure this chapter will bring up some areas in our life that are painful.   We try so hard as parents to do “just the right thing or make just the right decision” and honestly – our kids are in control of their actions and choices.  It can be so frustrating and defeating.  I hope we all can explore this area throughout the week.

“Hope in the Goodness of God”

God is good and remembering that can be hard when you are in difficult situations.  Like when your child is diagnosed with a brain tumor, or you lose your home to bankruptcy or even when disaster strikes your small town.  It is hard to remember and feel His presence – I have a very difficult time in those situations for sure.  I want to grab hold no matter the circumstance and know – truly know deep down how good God is.

I will be back tomorrow with a quick post on my thoughts about Chapter Seven and will introduce some questions through out the week on the private Facebook page.  

If you haven’t printed out the prayers that are covered in the chapters click HERE on Sue’s website.  Here is this trait for Goodness!

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Chapter Seven Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Seven and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!

Overcoming My Negativity with Kindness

8
Jul
2014

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This particular chapter really spread to a topic that is ever dear to my heart and often misunderstood.  Adoption.  I found it quite interesting that Sue chose this chapter to share about her experience with adoption, and especially an adoption that was not ‘easy.’

For those who may not know part of my story, I had never thought in my ENTIRE LIFE about adoption, up until about 6 years ago.  Then my life changed, as God revealed His heart to have me be a vessel to care for one of His children.  I had never once wanted to adopt, thought of adoption and did not truly believe that my heart could love another child that I didn’t give birth to.

Now that may sound a bit harsh, but it was a fear I had – even after God put the thought of adoption on my heart, that I would be able to care for physical needs, but to truly love another child that someone else gave birth to was a real fear.

“As mothers, we have the unique privilege of partnering with God to give life to our children.”

I will say God works when we need Him too for sure – as he worked in my heart and overcame my fear for me.  🙂  

Back to the negativity that creeps in….the tones that sneak around the corner and come from nowhere.  I relate – too easily.  What hit me when I read this chapter is this quote:

“As a mom I have been too results-oreinted and not enough process-oriented.”

I tend to not give as much attention to the process or maybe how I get them there.  This is a weak area for me.  I want kids that can do what they need to do, but I can often forget that their feelings and who I teach them to manage tasks and teach abilities are also equally important.

I think this was brought home to me even more when this little child was brought into our home at the age of 12 months and I realized that I didn’t have the history to know what his little heart had been through before I met him.  I have to consciously stop and think what he has seen or experienced that I am unaware of.

I need to remember that I am here to love first and teach second, a different approach then I perhaps had with my previous children.  Thankfully I am older and I hope just a bit wiser to know that I can be more aware of these needs of his – which is precisely why God waited so long to put the thought of adoption on my heart.

I needed to mature in His ways.

And I still am maturing and will continue till I leave this earth.  I have many negative parenting traps that I have to constantly ‘nip’ so that I can re-direct my path.  I apologize and reframe my requests.  I am a work in process.

I need to consistently show kindness to my kids – well to everyone – but especially my kids and I know I can’t do this in my own strength – hardly!  My mind can play tricks, repeat bad verbiage in my head and create bad patterns.  I need HIM everyday to help guide me.

My biggest takeaway for this week:

“How much are you affirming your kids’ value?  It’s probably easy to affirm and rejoice in your children when they are making positive choices.  It is easy to let the light in your eyes delight over them when there is a positive connection between you, but what about when your relationship is strained?”

oh, okay and one more goodie!!

“God’s kindness will lead you into adventures of faith.  The good news is that He equips those He calls.  There is more than enough grace to receive God’s promise.  Embrace God’s path for your family.”

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9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Six

7
Jul
2014

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We begin week six of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.  

Week Six

Read  Chapter Six – Replacing My Negativity with God’s Kindness

Trait:  Kindness

“Kindness is love in motion.”

I love that simple definition for Kindness.  How I wish I could remember that all the time.  I think I will write it on sticky notes and post it in key places so I can see it, read it and embed it in my heart.

I find that I get busy and can easily get short with my kids and my husband.  I tend to get stressed and anxious, which heightens my inability to actively share kind words and actions.  UGH!  I hate to remember all the times I have fallen short.

Feel free to begin the questions in the Study Guide, which can be found in the back of your book, Lesson 6.  Have a journal you can write down your answers and reflections to the questions – be honest and spend some time here ladies.  Have you taken the time during the study to thoroughly visit each trait and actively allow God to work?

I will be back tomorrow with a quick post on my thoughts about Chapter Six and will introduce some questions through out the week on the private Facebook page.  

If you haven’t printed out the prayers that are covered in the chapters click HERE on Sue’s website.  Here is this week’s trait of Kindness – it’s a good one! 

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Chapter Six Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Six and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Five

30
Jun
2014

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We begin week five of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.   

Week Five

Read  Chapter Five – Replacing My Frustration with God’s Patience

Trait 1:  Patience

This one is always a tough one for moms, I am not sure there is ONE mom out there that feels they are patient and have this one down!!  If you do, please tell!!

As I contemplate my areas of growth in how I can become a more Life-Giving Mom, this is certainly at the top.  I often lose my temper, feel frustrated and hopeless.  It is tough.  I know this topic will provide a lot of discussion and sharing this week as we learn and grow from each other.

I will be back tomorrow with a quick post on my thoughts about Chapter Five and will introduce some questions through out the week on the private Facebook page.  

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Chapter Five Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Five and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Four

23
Jun
2014

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We begin week four of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.  

That dreaded word….anxiety.  Why does it seem it is more prevalent today than at any other time?  Or is it that we just manage to talk about it?  Was it just as common, but just not talked about?

Week Four

Read  Chapter Four – Replacing My Anxiety with God’s Peace

Trait 1:  Peace

Anxiety is no secret to me – seems that the older I get the more issue I have with anxious feelings and recognizing when they begin to rise up.  Worry can go hand in hand with anxiety as well as insecurity and lack of confidence.  I can struggle with these emotional issues at different times.  But the one thing I need to remember is God is there, and He knows what I am feeling.

What can I do differently to hand off whatever I am concerned about to trust Him completely.  My anxiety issues are better than they used to be, but I can certainly learn to allow Him to be present more and prove the peace that He promises.

If you haven’t printed out the prayers that are covered in the chapters click HERE on Sue’s website.  Here is this week’s one for Peace – it’s a good one!

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Chapter Four Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Four and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!