Homemaking Accountability ROCKS!

23
Jul
2015

A few months back I was contacted by a mom, Bonnie in my community who wanted to provide some additional support for other moms who used The Confident Mom Weekly Household Planner.  She had a brilliant idea to create a Facebook page.  So Confident Mom Cleaning was born!  It is a Facebook page offering accountability for those who are following The Confident Mom Weekly Household Planner.  She shares a lot of encouragement for you and lists the tasks for each day as well.

I wanted to highlight this little known feature – many have no idea this exists – so thought it would be fun to share in it’s own exclusive blog post and allow you to get to know Bonnie just a little bit better.

Tell us a little about yourself.
 
My name is Bonnie and I live in Nebraska with my husband and toddler.  I’m mostly a SAHM, but I also am a Norwex indpenedent sales consultant and am in the middle of studying to be a pre and post natal fitness specialist.  I enjoy spending time with family, reading, being outdoors, and blogging (www.lifewithyou1222.com).  While cleaning house isn’t always my favorite thing to do, I enjoy the ideas and methods that make it more enjoyable.  Plus having a clean house afterward is always great. 😉
 
Why did you decide to start the Facebook community?
 
I was tired of feeling like my house was constantly getting the better of me.  I had tried the Confident Mom planner last year and really enjoyed it.  Things got busy and I fell off the bandwagon, but I decided to pull it out again.  Since things are always better with accountability, I thought a Facebook page would help! 
 
What types of things do you post in the group?
 
I typically post twice a day.  In the morning, I post the specific tasks for that day, as well as the weekly tasks.  In the evening, I have a check-in post (usually accompanied by a funny or inspirational picture just for fun) as a last-minute reminder to get the last few things checked off the list.
 
How could having a larger community help influence others in their home management?
 
Positive peer pressure!  Surrounding yourself with people with a common goal rubs off on you.  Facebook pages aren’t always the greatest way to build relationships and check in, but the knowledge that there are a couple hundred other ladies working on the exact same tasks with the exact same goal is pretty encouraging and motivating.  And then when you have a friend who says, “Hey, how is your house always so clean?” you can say, “Let me tell you about the Confident Mom Planner….” 😉

To join the page just GO HERE!  You will find a wonderful community who will cheer you on each day.  

If you are still juggling caring for your home without this FREE planner – be sure to go grab a copy now!!  Just print the portion left of the year – it gets you started and I know you will not be sorry!

Love the Home You Have

2
Apr
2015

Love the Home You Have book by Melissa Michaels

Do you struggle with finding Joy in your home?  Looking around at the mess and being thankful or even inspired with the mishmash of furniture you’ve collected?

I can tell you for years after my husband and I got married I looked around at the “stuff” and it was overwhelming and I had no inspiration.  Being a blended family has many challenges, but combining two homes into one is a challenge many do not talk about. 

I was challenged.  So for over 7 years we just “made-do” and lived in a transition stage, which felt very much far from the home I dreamt of.  Recently I have made some changes and been inspired and I feel so much better about my home.  So when I began reading the first few pages of Melissa Michaels (The Inspired Room) new book, “Love the Home You Have,” I almost burst.  She was speaking to my heart, the one which was clogged up, uninspired and discouraged with the state of my home.

I know there are others moms who feel the same as I do, who are not combining two homes, but rather are feeling guilt from the Pinterest Perfect pictures we see of immaculate homes, kitchen counters with white marble counters void of clutter and beds made perfectly with matching pillows, sheets and dust ruffles.  It is discouraging and creates anxiety in me.  It can be too much.

This book is for you – and for me and the timing could not be better!

I have read Melissa’s blog for years and I love her style.  If you haven’t taken a peek at her blog before you are in for a delightful surprise.  Not only do I love her style, her love of Doodles and coffee, but she is a local Puget Sound gal too – kindred spirits!!

If you are not sure if this book might be for you  – take a minute to watch this short trailer for her book = HERE.    Wasn’t it great???

I have only began reading the first few chapters, but I am hooked.  I love that she asks engaging questions in the book to really get your heart involved – and space to fill them in – right there in the book.  Her writing style is completely real, authentic and motivational.  I feel like I have a new outlook.

I need to shed some things in my life so I can add the things that matter, remember my word for 2015 – MARGIN?  Yes, I am still working for that, and this quote from the book spoke to my heart on a deep level.

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I want to be more creative in my home, in my friendships and with my family.  I know it is often stifled because of my obligations and commitments – which can be all good, but lately it has become too much.

We have already picked our next book study, but I think this one – especially with it’s 31 day Challenge at the end of the book would make an excellent one in the future!

Grab a copy today and join me.  I am on a little vacation at the beach this week and I have my copy ready for some cozy reading.

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Mary & Martha Giveaway

11
Sep
2014

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A few years ago, I was involved with a fun direct selling company called, “Blessings Unlimited” –  you may remember them, they were part of DaySpring and gave moms the opportunity to share products for the home and family through home gatherings.  It was fun and I did it – to be honest to get a lot of cute stuff for my home!!

They recently changed names and are now, Mary & Martha and I was thrilled when a reader of my blog, Jenny wanted to offer me a few products for review and do a giveaway!  

Mary & Martha is a division of Hallmark and Dayspring companies.   They are a Christian company dedicated to empowering women to share their love for God and make a real difference in people’s lives. They provide shared experiences and inspiring products that welcome, serve and connect people while bringing them closer to each other and to God.  Love that mission!

Now, remember, I only ever share products with you that I would buy and I find helpful.  Your time is valuable and your money is too, so know that I do this with a very careful heart. Jenny kindly offered me a few different items – which included some beautiful decor for the home, but I chose two items from their “For Kids” line – the ABC Magnets and “God’s Light in me” for boys.

My 4 year old was very excited when a box arrived for us and I told him the items were all for him!!  

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Here is what we got:  

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Each has a letter and corresponding faith-building word and quote to creatively remind them what God wants them to be. 26 magnets.  These were a hit – he has enjoyed playing with them on our dishwasher and will use them to spell words.  I really love the words that accompany the letters – for example on the letter “C” it has Caring as the word and a definition “Show love in little ways”.  Very fun way to engage and have conversation around characteristics  I would love for us all to have in our home and outside.

God’s Light in Me – for Boys

God's Light in Me BThis board book is made just for boys.  It is full of  biblical principles, captivating illustrations, and rhyming encouragement and we had fun reading it.  It is a great reminder that even the most rough and tumble little boys have God’s light shining through them.   I did think it was a bit on the pricey side for a board book, at $18 – but it certainly was quality and would make a wonderful baby gift from a dear friend.

Here is my guy playing with the ABC Magnets – he really has enjoyed them!

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Are you interested is having an online party to enjoy and share some Mary & Martha goodies for your home?  You can contact Jenny through her website >>>>  CLICK HERE  – hit the CONTACT ME link, or give her a call, her phone number is listed.  

If you happen to live in the Southwestern Missouri area, she would happily chat with you about the possibility of  doing an in-home gathering for you and your friends.  Perfect for the upcoming Christmas gift giving season – what better way to save some money by hosting a gathering and earning some free products!  They have great hostess benefits – so you’ll want to check that out!

Now, enter to win your choice of ONE copy of one of the three books shown above:  God’s Light in Me (for girls), God’s Light in Me (for boys) or God Made Just One.  Please use the rafflecopter entry below.  Retail giveaway amount $18.

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I was given a copy of the board book, “God’s Light in Me – for Boys” and the ABC Magnets for an honest review.  All opinions are my own and were not influenced by the compensation.

Healthy Living Made Easy

10
Sep
2014

uhlb-buy-600x345 We all want to make better health and lifestyle decisions for ourselves and those we love. 

You know  how I have been sharing my journey to better health and wellness – well, I want to share with you even more ways to make it easier for you and your family to make the adjustment!

Does this resonate with you?

We all want to lose some weight, have more energy, use greener products, create nutritious meals for our families, get fit, and feel confident that we’re doing all we can to prevent serious diseases. But it’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and intimidated by the masses of healthy living advice out there – to the point where we’re frozen into complete inaction instead!

That’s where The Ultimate Healthy Living Bundle comes in.

For the ridiculously low price of just $29.97 (for the PDF version) or $39.97 (for the eReader version), you can get access to a carefully curated collection of eBooks and eCourses with a total combined value of $1,030. The bundle contains a wealth of information from the very finest healthy living writers out there – but there’s no risk of getting overwhelmed!

A useful Getting Started Guide is included with your purchase, which will help you identify the most valuable resources for your specific health priorities.

The Ultimate Bundles team has done all the hard work for you – finding the top experts across a number of healthy living fields and combining their products into one essential collection. If you want to take control of your health, there’s no better way to start!  I am excited about Home Remedies – that is where my heart is right now, as well as the natural beauty and skincare books!!

The Ultimate Healthy Living Bundle will only be on sale for 6 days – from 8am EST on Wednesday, September 10 until 11:59pm EST on Monday, September 15. But don’t wait until the last moment – there are only 30,000 bundles available and once they’re gone, they’re gone!

You can buy with confidence because your purchase is covered by the Ultimate Bundles one-year guarantee: you have a full year to enjoy all the books and courses in the bundle, and if you don’t feel like it’s made a huge difference to your family’s health, you’ll get your money back in full!

Click here for more info or to buy now.

As if this great collection of eBooks and eCourses wasn’t enough, the Ultimate Bundles team has also partnered with 10 fantastic companies who’ve each agreed to give a special bonus to every buyer. The bonuses have a total value of over $200 – more than 5 times the price of the Ultimate Healthy Living Bundle itself!  

The bonuses include free goodies aplenty: a bottle of Healthy Mouth Blend from OraWellness, a baltic amber bracelet from Sweetbottoms Boutique, and a starter culture from Cultures For Health.

You’ll also get gift sets from Made On Skin Care Products and Homegrown Collective. There are virtual goodies, too – a 4-month membership to StayAtHomeYoga.com and a 3-month premium membership to meal planning service Tradishen. And as if all that weren’t enough, there are also $15 gift certificates for TheJoyfulGiraffe.com, Strawesome.com and Trilight Health. There is a nominal shipping charge for many of the bonuses, based on each company’s standard shipping rates, and is usually $3-5.

Here’s what you need to know about the sale: When? 7 a.m. EST Wednesday, September 10 until 11:59 p.m. EST Monday, September 15 What? 73 eBooks and 7 audio & eCourses, PLUS over $200 worth of bonus products you’ll really use! Where? Purchase the bundle HERE. How much? Well now, that’s the best part. The entire package is worth $1030, and it’s selling for less than $30. Sweet deal, right?

We think there’s something here for everyone, and don’t forget… our Getting Started Guide will show you exactly which resources cover the topics and health concerns that matter most to you! We know you’re eager to see exactly what’s included in this bundle, so head on over to the website, where you can see the full list of eBooks, eCourses, and bonus offers. When you’re ready, you can either buy here directly, or right through the website. It’s fast and easy, and you’ll have your bundle sent to you via email within minutes. Click here for more info or to buy now.

Remember, this bundle is available for 6 days only, from 7 a.m. (EST) on Wednesday, September 10th to 11:59 p.m. (EST) on Monday, September 15th. Disclosure: I have included affiliate links in this post.   I would never suggest or share a product that I would not have purchased or used myself – I was lucky enough to get an advanced copy of this bundle!!  It is awesome!   Read the fine print about this bundle and read the answers to frequently asked questions about the bundle.  

My Struggle with Sin

14
Oct
2013

I have felt it over the few months…..

A growing discontentment with a lot of things…..my home, my marriage, my kids, my routines, my ministry here at The Confident Mom, my retreating into isolation due to a long list of ‘things’ to do and not having time to reach out.

I am bitter, restless, feel beat down and angry.  I am angry at myself for allowing me to get to this point, and even more angry that I have to admit this to others outside my close knit group.  But this is one of the steps to rid sin of it’s place….

Whether you know it or not, this community is one outlet that I depend on.  You are a bit of my family here…..I like to share the positive and encourage you all the best I can, I do truly believe it is a gift that The Lord has given me, but the other part of the equation is being completely and vulnerably honest and truthful when things aren’t so perfect.

This is reality and I know in my heart I have to be honest and authentic  in my walk, my struggles as well as with my successes.

This gig of motherhood is hard, and it’s even harder when you are trying to be the wife and mother that God intends you to be – I feel the expectations sometimes just overwhelm me, but I know it is my given role.  I also realize when my senses are truly engaged and I am tuning in, that satan loves to have my feeling inadequate and insufficient.

Last week I poured my heart out to The Lord during my morning devotional time, asking Him to help me determine what was the problem, or problems causing this anger, frustration and plain exhaustion in my role as Keeper of my Home.  Being a mom lacked any enthusiasm on my part; a wife – serving my husband, even less enthusiasm, even down right disgust.  Now, please do not get me wrong, I love my husband and I know we are a gift to each other – but I was not feeling like serving – in fact I was really wanting someone to serve me.  

What about me?  That ugly selfish thinking…..

I was losing patience with my toddler, feeling lonely and upset that often times I am alone with my little guy 3-4 days per week doing life on my own because my husband travels.  Everyone has their story and every has their struggle, but for me right now, I am struggling.  And it runs deep.

It was revealed to me clearly after I read a post that was written actually several years ago by Mandy over at Biblical Homemaking, it was about an experiment she had done called, “The Complaining Experiment.”  The post was up on my Facebook feed on Friday and I am so thankful that I happen to be on Facebook at that time to run across it.

She spoke of many things that resonated clearly with me and struck a cord, these are direct quotes taken from her article:

“I was being deceived by the father of lies.  In so many ways.”

“And it hit me- the father of lies will do anything to make me give up on being a mother

Satan wants me to stop caring. To disengage. He wants me to want to mentally quit, and not even know he was there. And he kept whispering in my heart, “you are not good at this. This is not who you are.”

And it took me a few years, but I fell for it.

And that’s why I think I believed the second thing God showed me was a lie in my life:

I shouldn’t have to do this.”

This was at the very core of my complaining spirit.”

It was like I had words to put to my anger and frustration.  I was exhausted and felt like I ‘shouldn’t have to do any of this. That was the bitterness, spread out like dirty laundry…..my feeling of entitlement.

I realized from her article and what she shared, that not only did I have a selfish heart (which had been revealed to me earlier in the week by The Lord) but I had a complaining heart.  I was full of sin and it was poisoning everything I did.  

Everything.

I feel like I need an overhaul from a selfish spirit.  I want time for me – period.  And you know what, this is not my time to have time for me necessarily.  I have been called to mother children and be a submissive wife to my husband.  I agreed to this and even when it becomes hard, I need to grasp for Jesus’ hand and keep pushing forward.  Period.  Stop the complaining, seek His word and carry on.

When I lose my temper for the 10th time in a day, I need to sit down and hold my 3 year old and cry asking for forgiveness.  

When I don’t feel like serving my husband because I have been ‘served out’, I need to ask for strength to serve him even more.

I need to pray this verse – hourly….

Create in me a pure heart, O God,
    and renew a steadfast spirit within me.  Psalm 51:10

After I shared Mandy’s article on my Facebook page, I received a message from another mom who had also been struck by Mandy’s post.  I knew it was my time to share my feelings…..I knew I wasn’t the only one and that other’s needed to know they were not also.

I find it interesting that I felt led to share my struggle with you right now, just days before I lead you all in a book and Bible study to regain control in our homes and find peace.  I realize too, that when we step out in obedience that we are prime targets for Satan’s attacks.  I know that I am being attacked, because of the self-talk that I can continually say to myself all day that discourages me from believing God’s word, believing His truths and knowing that He loves me more than anyone can.

But I also know that in the midst of this all, I am still a sinner and will struggle with constantly keeping it all in check.

So, as we venture on this journey together, would you join me in praying, not only for myself and my struggle, but the other ladies who will join this study.  Satan would love nothing more than to have us realize and believe his lies that we are not good enough and we will never be able to provide a calm and peaceful home that is organized for our families.

Ladies, we are going in for battle and we are going to WIN!

I also love that when we admit and ask forgiveness that The Lord blesses us – He meets us and fills our needs.  As I went was writing this post, even in my struggle to share my imperfection and feelings of being unworthy and not good enough, an email came in from a mom who just finished my 5 part FREE mini series.  

Dear Susan,

I just finished your 5 video series! Thank you so much for all of your work and for your heart in offering them for free! I am a homeschooling mom and have four kids ages 10 – 19, and love it it all!  However, we had a very challenging summer with mental illness issues and I’m quite frankly – exhausted! My husband sent me out on a 2 night over-nighter yesterday, to rest, relax and refresh myself. This morning I was able to finish your videos that were waiting for me in my inbox.  Yay! They were JUST what I needed. THANK YOU!
 
I also just sent out an email with your link, recommending your website and video series to the yahoo group of homeschoolers at our church. I’m praying some of these tired mommies will click on your link and prepare themselves to be refreshed.
 
This renewed my spirit ladies and gave me the courage to tackle new challenges here.  I am so thankful when I hear stories like this and can be reassured that I am helping others.  
 
I pray my post today touches someone who needs just that – a kind touch from another mom who knows her struggle and wants her to be a conqueror too.
 

Won’t you join us?  Details to come this week!

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