No More Perfect Moms Week SEVEN

10
Mar
2014

Main-No-More-Perfect-MomsOh, boy……this week will really hit home for so many of you.  It sure did for me – especially watching the video to kick things off.  We juggle so many things as moms and there is hardly a spare minute ever!

I had to laugh at my husband the other night, as he was a bit upset as the past few weeks I have just wanted to sit down in the evening to watch the Olympics with my family and have a glass of wine!  He was miffed that I didn’t want to “do an activity” like a game, or go bowling or ________  {fill in the blank}.  

Okay, let me explain a bit, I am often very tired in the evening, I will admit that – but in the past month we have spent only about 10 days in our home as we’ve been having painting and hardwood floors refinished, I was behind on writing blog posts as I have had no “work hours” to actually write – I’ve squeezed writing into my day and it means it takes me 3 times as long to write a posts as it would be otherwise, when I don’t have a 4 year old needing me too, interrupting me.  Plus, I was out of town for 5 days in a lovely vacation.  I am not complaining, but this old mom can only take so much!!

My house is a mess, furniture is not back where it needs to be, pictures are not on walls and dust is everywhere!  So, I just laugh at the fact that he doesn’t quite see my day as I do and pray that maybe he will – one day!

Motherhood is the ministry of Interruptions – I loved that!

 

Here is the agenda for this week:

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Week 7:  March 10 – 14 , 2014

Monday – watch the video, download the discussion questions for WEEK SEVEN  

Tuesday – come prepared by having read Chapter Seven, join the conversation

Wednesday – check in over at Facebook for a few questions 

Thursday – read the blog post on applying what we’ve learned this week; get started reading Chapter 8 {next week we will be doing chapters 8 and 9, so get ahead!!}

Was there something that spoke to you in the video?  

Are you a mom who can roll with the punches during the day or are you better with schedule and routine?

Please share in the comments and hop over to the Facebook page.   

Simple Strategies for a Clean and Organized Home

7
Jan
2014

Simple Strategies for a Clean and Organized Home

Hopefully, you’ve managed to grab yourself a copy of the Confident Mom Weekly Household Planner for FREE (and perhaps even grabbed the Supplemental Kit) and are ready to tackle the New Year. I am thrilled with what you all are sharing with me on how your first week went:

This is my second year using your planner and I love it! I also am currently reading The Christian Homemakers Handbook, after you had posted on it this past summer, and I love it! Thank you!!!

LOVE the planner!! I’ve been looking forward to doing my planned “chores” each day and no longer feel like I need to do EVERYTHING EVERY DAY! I suddenly have so much more time in my day and my house is still getting taken care of Thank you so much for offering this to us for free!!

So excited! My first week of the new year with The Confident Mom Household planner was a success. Along with help from my boys, we crossed everything off the list.

Love my Confident Mom planner. I went with the free one and it’s perfect for keeping me organized. Not everything gets crossed off…but that’s okay.  The world won’t end.

So, how can you find happiness and success among your to-do list in the planner?

Get a Plan

Whether you print one page of the planner out a week, or print the entire contents out and put it in a binder, find a method that will work for you. No one likes to get re-organized each week – so pick a method and go with it. My method is to print the year out, take it to Staples, and spiral bind it for $4. I can then write all over it and I actually will keep my previous years planners because of all the notes I’ve written on the pages. I am also a big fan of the “just tell me what to do” version – that is my kinda gig!

 The "Just Tell Me What to Do" Version

Maybe you are a “print each week as you go so you can type in the editable fields” kind of gal – then do that. Post it on the refrigerator or place it in a notebook. I have also heard from moms that have been able to use the planner pages on their tablets:

  • If you have a tablet like an iPad, you can use the Weekly Household planner “paperless” with any app that allows you to “write” on a PDF – for example Notability.
  • On the Kindle, you can download “Note Everything” for free and use it too!

I have not done this myself, and will likely experiment with this, but if you have had success please share in the comments so you might be able to help another mom out. In addition, many have downsized the planner pages by changing the printer settings on their printers, for example – printing two of the pages on one 8 X 11 page. If you have done that, please share here too!

Give Yourself Grace

I especially love the last comment. She is right. If all the tasks do not get crossed off each day, the world won’t end! You need to be real with yourself and have realistic expectations each day. I shared a post on this last year that was very helpful. Your home is not like your friends’ homes or the mom who is sharing on Facebook about how she managed to get all ten of her kids to complete the entire task list for the week in one day – you are you.

You need to realize each day is different and if you do not get it crossed off – oh well! This is a guide – not a mandate! I have placed tasks on the planner in a reasonable order and frequency to allow your home to stay picked up, tidy, and in order, but if you miss a few things here and there – things will not fall apart. Just pick up the next day and move on.

Delegate

You will need to gain help – in one form or another. I shared a post last year about delegating more tasks in your Weekly Household Planner – this is key. You are doing a big favor for yourself, but also one for your children if you bring the entire family into play when helping to keep your home in order. They will earn life skills that will anchor them to be responsible adults when they leave home.

You can use color coded highlighters to delegate tasks for each child – this is one way to share in the process. Allow your children to pick one task out of each day that they can help with and then when all the tasks are done, do something fun together – like a game, make a snack, or get outside to ride bikes. Working together for the better good of the whole is a great family lesson to teach at home.

Quick Tips

For many weeks on end I posted a Weekly Household Quick Tip each Monday as we ventured through the planner the past two years. If you need some inspiration, just type Weekly Household Quick Tip in the search bar in the upper right corner and get some encouragement or find a tip for a certain task listed in the planner. Need a natural Laundry Rinse that is inexpensive and easy to use? How about some ideas on how to begin your quiet time routine, or cleaning the garage? There is a lot of great information buried in these pages – just type a search word and phrase and hit go! 

Keeping It Real

4
Dec
2013

 Keeping It Real in the Home

Chapter Twenty One:

Wow, can you believe we are at the end?  Well….it may be the end of the study, but it certainly is not the end of the process.  We have a lot of tips, strategies and the like from the book that can be revisited over and over again, keeping us on track – or getting us back on track!

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“I want to leave you with encouragement from the Word of God for the challenges you will face to bring order and pear into your life

“Insecurity plagues the most confident woman at times.”

“Only with God can you start over more than once with an unblemished, untarnished, 100 percent, still-intact potential.”

The big one for me:

“To stay on course and live a life or priorities, order and peace, we will need strength beyond ourselves.  many don’t believe that and are certain of their own power.  I know – I lived that way for many years.  Believing in your own strength keeps you walking on a path parallel to a life of victory.

I think for me one of the areas I am left with as a continual battle will be one of the things Glynnis talks about during this last chapter – Learn to Finish Well.  I am not the best finisher – in fact today, I got home after dropping my little guy at preschool knowing I had a set agenda for what “work” items I need to work on, and I felt the need to clean my carpets.  I have a procrastination problem at times and then will procrastinate finishing!

“Great intentions are easy, but establishing consistent follow-through has taken years of work.”

This is an area of great diligence ladies.  We must focus moving ahead and changing bad habits.  What does that look like for you?

Remembering that it is not our call to do it all – “For every yes there is a no.”  Remember that.  I have to – even in the midst of wanting to please others.  What do I need to remember:

  • Keeping my commitments simple and within my realistic ability.

  • I need to finish something before I start the next – this will solve a lot of my problems – self-discipline.

  • Realizing that I do not have to be perfect and not allowing what others think of me to jeopardize my self-confidence.

Getting over the hurdles – I especially loved this section, as I am right now going through a hurdle time in my life, but I can take heart knowing that I can learn to overcome, or the other option is to allow it to consume me.  When given time to think about it, I know I want to overcome, not sink.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • What is your biggest lesson from reading this book?
  • How can you challenge yourself in the weeks to come to stay on track and conquer more areas?
  • To finish your race well, what needs to happen?
  • What goal do you have for yourself – what can you start doing today to make it a habit?

I did mention on the Facebook page that I am considering another study after the New Year.  I would love your input, suggestions and ideas on how to do this again.  I was very happy with the success of my first online study and look forward to serving you in this way.  I currently have started reading, “Choose Joy, Because Happiness Isn’t Enough” by Kay Warren.  I think it would be a great focus to begin 2014.

I Used to Be So Organized Book Study – Week 7

2
Dec
2013

 

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Week Seven Reading Assignment:

Read Chapters 20, 21

I will be posting my thoughts on Chapter 20 on Tuesday and Chapter 21 on Wednesday.   Oh, and for those who have been so patiently waiting –  I will be sharing my miracle story about our dog Riley on Thursday.  You won’t want to miss it, even if you are not a dog lover – grab some tissues because it is an amazing story – really!  (If you are new here you can read this post I wrote 3 years ago about our dog and our heartbreaking battle).

We will be talking about one more area in the home for staying on top of organizing as well as truly grasping the reality of what it means to be organized and have grace with ourselves.  I do not want anyone to leave this study feeling even more discourage then when they came.

This study and the 7 weeks we’ve shared together are a journey….a path to get you back on track with a few strategies to impact some change.  I hope you’ve taken a few ideas and started to implement them and as you grow those into habits, then take a hold of a few more and venture forward.  Growing is a process ladies.

Here is the bible verse for this week.  

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Also, for those who signed up for the “Getting Real – Conversations that Spark Change” Conference Calls, we have a call tonight!  

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What a fun and relaxing call we will have tonight – you will love wrapping up our study with a conversation to inspire you to make your home a place of peace and refreshment.  Myra is who I want to be when I grow up – seriously!  She is crafty, an adorable decorator, cooks wonderful down-home recipes and loves to share it all.

If you didn’t purchase it before now – don’t worry, you can run over and get it now  and the rest of the series too.

Also, a quick note – if you are doing any online shopping I would greatly appreciate you using my amazon affiliate link, which is always shown below in my posts.  I do not accept paid advertising on my site and will only ever share products or resources that I would pay for myself.  Each time you order an item and use my amazon link, I earn a small percentage of the purchase price, but it doesn’t not cost you anymore.  It is one way I can keep my site going and offer free products, resources and especially this online study.  My biggest FREE resource will be released shortly and you will love it!

Cyber Monday!!! If you have procrastinated getting eMeals – don’t miss the 30% off sale – use CYBER to get your discount!

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Closets and Storage Spaces

28
Nov
2013

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Chapter Nineteen:

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“Storage spaces are the foundation of home organization.

“We delay making decisions about things when we don’t’ have the space to store them.  So, we stack boxes on the floor of a closet, pile bags on top of each other, or throw things in bins.  It’s easier.”

“It can be painful to release things you’ve loved, but you will be lighter in spirit afterward.”

“The problem most of us have is too much stored in too little space.”

The big one for me:

“When I find it hard to part with a skirt I once loved, there’s an image I bring to my mind.  It motivates me to make the right decision.  The image is of a single mother who is trying to get a job.  She knows she needs to provide for her daughter, but she doesn’t have anything nice to ear, nor the money to run to the mall and pick up a cute outfit.  She needs something.  Then I look at the lovely skirt I no longer wear.  That skirt can either hang in my closet gathering dust, or it can help a sister I haven’t met.

I honestly do not have that much trouble going through my closet and getting rid of clothes.  This has not always been the case though.  I used to have a lot more clothes than I do now, but you know, my life is simpler if I have less.   It is the same for my kids too – a few basic items are better than a ton of many items.  Less to wash, less to put away and less to find somewhere to store them!

I like Glynnis’ suggestions to store items that you are not using in that season, somewhere else.  I have a bin that is up high in my closet for out of season clothing, it helps free up space and brings about an ordered look to my closet.  Which lowers my anxiety!

Removing what you are not wearing is a key strategy to keeping things in order.  If I haven’t worn something in a year -bye bye!  It is gone, period.  It is a good rule to have.

I do not have a linen closet in my entire house! Seriously, not anywhere.  I use the space below my bathroom sink to store towels and one cabinet that we installed above our toilet in a bathroom to keep spare sheets.  Not much space, but it works.  I think by having less space we accumulate less stuff – amazing how that happens.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • Do you need to work in your linen closet or hall closet first?
  • Do you feel you have too many items of clothing?  What could you donate or take to a consignment shop in the next week?
  • Are you in a habit of putting away items in the closet in an orderly fashion, or is keeping a closet organized a challenge for you?

For those in the US – enjoy your day with family – Happy Thanksgiving!  Say a prayer for me as I will be flying back home tonight after leaving my dog with his new family.  I am sure I will be quite the mess – a blubbering mom on a 6 hour flight!