5 Factors Affecting Your Daily Attitude in Motherhood

17
Apr
2014

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Motherhood is a tough job – no doubt about it.  We can all have bad days….even a few bad days all in a row.  When mom has a bad attitude it is fought for everyone in the family, but in particular your children.

I have found that when I start to see a shift in my attitude that it really is important me to take a look at a few key areas to examine if there are things lacking  It is my responsibility, not only to myself but to my spouse and children to be caring for what my body needs so that my spirit can be in a right place.

I like peace in my home….I crave that type of environment and I know it is best for my family.  When my attitude starts to crumble I consider the following:

Sleep Habits 

I know this is a key component for all of us – we need good sleep and lots of it.  Quality and Quantity are both important.  We cannot expect our bodies to run and function properly on 4-5 hours of sleep a night.  The best recipe for a good night sleep is:

  • go to bed at the same time each night, or as close to the same time as possible
  • have a bedtime routine in place, which may include having a relaxing bath, drinking a cup of tea or using essential oils to help the body relax and wind down.
  • try to get up near the same time each morning, your body will get acclimated to that pattern and it will set itself up for a pattern of sleep that will be restful and regenerating, which is what our bodies need.
  • have a nice quiet room that is comfortable – take care to nourish your space where you spend time allowing your body to refresh itself.

Your Power Source

We all know this one, but it is often the last thing we think about during our day to make sure it happens.  Spending 5-15 minutes with The Lord is critical to the success of your day, your attitude and allowing Him to direct your path during the day.  I can tell the days that I end up sleeping later than I know I should and then do not get my time alone with Him.

By reading scripture, jotting down a few lines in my journal and praying, I can completely change my entire day – so why do we often disregard this time?  Connecting with the only ONE who can truly change your day from the inside out is important….so why not treat it that way and make it a priority?

Self-Care

Taking the time to fill your energy tank up with what actually nourishes you is important.  It cannot be left at the bottom of the list.  I have been doing this the past few days, and I have been experiencing the depleted feelings and lack of energy that I normally have otherwise, when I take time to care for my self.

I am an introvert, and when I don’t take the time to get quiet time alone, or go for a run, get outside for a walk or even have some time set aside to do errands all alone, I suffer.  Which then in turn means my family suffers.  There are things that we can do as moms that will nourish our spirit, if we do not focus on making that happen, it is unlikely that time will magically appear to do it for us.

Stress

When all of the above things get neglected one area that grows rapidly for us is our stress level.  I can typically now recognize when my stress level is beginning to increase and I have found natural ways to combat it, but there are times when even that doesn’t tip the scale in my favor because I have allowed too much on my plate or had bigger expectations of myself that were not realistic.

Unchecked stress affects your family in ways that are very damaging.  I shared some ideas on how to protect yourself from allowing stress to take over your life, do any of these ideas resonate with you on how you can reduce stress in your day?

Nutrition

You are what you eat – we all know that.  It is especially true as we get older and our bodies begin to change and need more nutrients and better care.  I have taken huge strides in caring for my body in more natural and effective ways, especially with having a chronic disease like Lupus as well as depression.  I know that when I do not eat well, when I consume too much caffeine or sugar that my body will react negatively.

I want to operate on full power – not mediocre power.  When I do not take the time to fill my body with what it needs to operate, it back fires on me.  One of the best things I ever did for myself was to begin a gluten free diet. It changed my life.  I have know went a step further and try to eat Paleo, because I can tell a difference in how I feel – both physically and mentally.  

Are you doing your body good with what you are putting in it?

Remember to give yourself grace too…….you deserve it!  We are not perfect beings and when we can remember that we will serve our family better.

Chapter TWO – The Antidote

4
Feb
2014

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In Chapter two we are talking about pride as well as confidence.  I thought this chapter was extremely critical to self-examine ourselves, but even more so, since this website and my business is “The Confident Mom.”  

“Pride, fear, insecurity, and judging perpetuate the Perfection Infection that taints our hearts and plagues our society”

Let me just clarify something first, I do consider myself a Confident Mom – but this online space is NOT where I sit and toot my own horn – as you’ve already seen I have many areas I struggle with.  If you haven’t read about it yet, just look a bit further.  

I’ve written about my struggles, my weaknesses and more – being as authentic as I can without completely embarrassing myself or others in my life {although I have embarrassed myself on several occasions!}

This venue is more a place where I can hopefully encourage you – to be a confident mom.  One who thinks clearly, knows why she chooses the choices that she does and stand firm in convictions.

In the first part of the reading you can easily begin to feel that being confident can be in fact a sin as it can easily be intertwined with pride.  The key word to keep in mind is   HUMILITY.  This is one OUCH word for me, to be quite honest. I have been known a time or two of thinking, “I can do it myself.”  Yep, also known as being a stubborn and tenacious German!

I loved this quote from Jill, it really spoke to my heart:

“Pride demands a voice.  Self-confidence is quiet, undemanding, and unassuming.  Pride believes you are better.  Self-confidence believes you are capable.  Pride is about taking.  Self-confidence is about offering.”

Jill goes onto to explain the difference between pride and self-confidence – I could relate to the examples she shared, could you?

Humility – this is a word I will pray about this week for myself.

Take off insecurity and put on confidence.

This is the exact phrase for my heart for this online venue known as “The Confident Mom.”  It is true, and certainly what I have found when I have worked with so many moms from all over the world – we all struggle with feeling competent for the job – we feel we don’t have what it takes or not enough information.  We mess up and cannot give ourselves grace.  It is those “inside our head” voices that end up being broadcast over our own loudspeaker.

Can you change that?

I am reading and studying, “Unglued” by Lisa TerKeurst right now in my bible study group.  One thing she states, which I am going to steal for this study too (and for life really!!) is: 

“Our goal isn’t to be perfect; that’s not realistic.  Our goal is to make progress – imperfect progress.”  

Doesn’t that sound good?  It is about making small changes and moving forward, little itty bitty baby steps at a time…but never the less, moving forward!

I leave you with my favorite quote of this chapter ladies, may it resonate in your heart and may you begin to feel freedom in who God created you to be – just YOU!

Tweet:     “Insecurity is bondage to who we’re not. Confidence is freedom in who we are! 

Did you download the discussion questions for this weeks chapter?  You can do that HERE.  Grab a notebook to place them in or jot them down in a journal.

Feel free to answer this question here on the blog:

Is it harder for you to be honest with yourself or honest with others?  Why?

I will be praying for each of these comments posted.

No More Perfect Moms Week TWO

3
Feb
2014

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I loved our first week together – so much conversation on the Facebook page and discovery.  The biggest one – that we all have the same thoughts inside our little heads – buzzing around.  Even though you may have thought you were the only one who had those thoughts, you are not alone.

Does this resonate with anyone?

“I think the word that often describes my day is feeling of inadequacy. I try so hard to do everything…. From cleaning to working out and mostly being mommy and a wife. Yet no matter how hard I try there is not enough time in the day and I always mis-manage my time. I hate the feeling when you have worked so hard on your home all day but feel like you missed playing with the kids. Finding the balance is so hard.”

 We all struggle with those same feelings  🙂

Here is the agenda for this week:

 

Week 2:  February 3 – 7, 2014

Monday – watch the video, download the discussion questions for WEEK TWO

Tuesday – come prepared by having read Chapter Two, join the conversation

Wednesday – check in over at Facebook for a few questions

Thursday – read the blog post on applying what we’ve learned this week; get started reading Chapter 3

Was there something that spoke to you in the video?  Please share in the comments and hop over to the Facebook page.  What have you enjoyed the most from this study so far?

No More Perfect Moms Week One

27
Jan
2014

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It’s finally here, the first day of our new study!!  If you have not invited some friends to join us yet, please do.  There is room for everyone, another great feature of an online book study – no need to provide a huge room and I don’t have to make snacks for you all – {but I would if I could!}

Today is a pretty easy start, Monday’s will always be pretty low key.  I will give you the weeks reading assignment and you get to watch a fun video – who wouldn’t love that?  

I ask that each day as you begin reading or reading the blog post that you would humbly come before The Lord and ask Him to help open your eyes to areas that may be hidden to you, to reveal struggles and hidden issues you may have that could hinder your growth during this study.  I know He will meet you during this intentional time and will push you forward and challenge you!

When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.    – Viktor E. Frankl

So grab a cup of coffee and take it in ladies.

 
 

Week 1:  January 27 – 31, 2014

Monday – watch the video, download the discussion questions for WEEK ONE

Tuesday – come prepared by having read Chapter One, join the conversation

Wednesday – check in over at Facebook for a few questions

Thursday – read the blog post on applying what we’ve learned this week; get started reading Chapter 2

Was there something that spoke to you in the video?  Please share in the comments and hop over to say hello and introduce yourself either here or on the Facebook page.

No More Perfect Moms Reading Plan

23
Jan
2014
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Here we are, about to begin our online book study for No More Perfect Moms by Jill Savage.  Our study is set to begin on Monday, January 27, 2014.  I hope you’ve had a chance to pick up your own copy of the book, which is all you’ll need to get started with us!
 

For those who didn’t participate in the previous book study, I Used to Be So Organized, by Glynnis Whitwer, let me share with you the basic information on how this will work. The study will begin Monday, January 27th.  We will be reading the book together and breaking it down into 9 weeks, here is the rough reading schedule for you:

Week 1:  January 27 – 31, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss & THUR – Apply Chapter 1

Week 2:  February 3 – 7, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss & THUR – Apply Chapter 2

Week 3:  February 10 – 14, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss & THUR – Apply Chapter 3

Week 4:  February 17 – 21, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss & THUR – Apply Chapter 4

Week 5:  February 24 – 28, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss &  THUR – Apply Chapter 5

Week 6:  March 3 – 7, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss & THUR – Apply Chapter 6

Week 7:  March 10 – 14, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss &  THUR – Apply Chapter 7

Week 8:  March 17 – 21, 2014

MON –Watch Video, TUE – Discuss Chapter 8 & THUR – Chapter 9

Week 9:  March 24 – 28, 2014

MON – Watch Video, TUE – Discuss Chapter 10, THUR – Celebrate!  Bloopers Video

As we begin the study, I will be linking all the blog posts they refer to here on this page, so if you miss any or are coming to the study late, this will be the place to get caught up!

Each Week

Each Monday I will be posting the week’s reading chapter and you will have a short video to watch.  

On Tuesday I will be discussing the chapter for the week as well as giving you some questions to consider.  

Wednesday will likely be focused on a few conversations on the Private Facebook page.

Thursday will be an application day post, where I share my perspective and how we can make practical real changes to conquer some of the areas we might be struggling with.

I love having engagement on the blog, so please feel free to leave a comment on the post and I will be sure to reply.

As you read I encourage you  to highlight or underline sentences or sections that really speak to you and perhaps changes your thinking in relation to your role as a wife and mother.  These will be important references as we go through the material each week.

Private Facebook Page

The Private Facebook Page is ready for you to request to be added to.  This group is “Secret” which means no one knows you are on the page and no one else other than the people within the group can read or comment on anything you share.  Participating in the Facebook page is an option not a requirement.  If you prefer to just comment on the blog, I will be engaged there too!   You can ask to join the Facebook page HERE.

Subscribe to Blog Posts

Make sure you are signed up to receive my blog posts in your inbox, this way you will avoid missing any posts along the way.  It is up to you to check the blog – my posts will be live by 7 AM EST.  There is no set time you have to check in, just do so when it works for you, that is the beauty of an online study.

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The study is FREE for you to participate, but you must have your own copy of No More Perfect Moms in order to participate in this Online Study.  I will be using the book, referencing it and you will be lost otherwise.  

You can pick the book up locally or order it online at amazon – here is the link to the paperback copy – here is the kindle version.  

If you are purchasing online and can’t wait to get started reading, you can access the introduction as well as a good portion of the first chapter on the amazon sales page!

If you purchase using the link  I provide, I get a small *bonus* from amazon as my thank you for referring you, which does not add any additional cost to you with your purchase.  {This is also the case when you purchase any items from amazon using my referral link!}

I appreciate it when you use this link, it helps me keep doing what I am doing for FREE.

Other Supplies

Other items that will be helpful for this study:  a Bible, a notebook, pen or pencil, and highlighter, if you have a print version.

Pinterest
 
I have created a Pinterest Board where I will be posting all the blog posts, any resources or inspiration that I find helpful as eel go through the study.  It will be a great place to share the study together.  If you are on Pinterest, make sure you follow the board here:  No More Perfect Moms Online Study
 
A side note, you will get out of this study exactly what you put in to it. I am your encourager, leader, coach – but I cannot do any of this work for you.  I encourage you to start thinking now when you will set aside intentional time to fully participate in this study, make it a priority.  I tried to break the reading down so that it can be achieved, I know you can do it!
 
Here is a graphic with our reading schedule – you can right click the image, save the image and print if you like.  
 
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Welcome to the study ladies, it is certain to be a growing 9 weeks and I am looking forward to meeting you all.  Know that I will be praying for this group every day – that is how we will experience the most changes – not by our own power but HIS!
 
Please read the introduction before Monday if you have your book.  If not feel free to read it online at amazon!