Romancing the Home


This is a post from Guest Columnist Lori Byerly of The Generous Wife

I am romanced challenged.

My husband was born a romantic.  Our relationship has been … interesting.

Our first year of marriage, he couldn’t understand why flowers and gifts weren’t winning my heart.  I couldn’t understand why he wouldn’t pick up his socks.

Years later, I am still unraveling the mystery of romance, but along the way I have learned a few things and, in an effort not to pass on my romance disability, I began to “teach romance” to our kids (yes, it can be taught). [Read more…]

More Modeling, Less Cowbell


“Children have more need of models than of critics.”  – Carolyn Coats, author


Hal’s Take: My “self” is an abstract compilation of my feelings, principles, and experiences. It changes on a regular basis as those things shift and change. We are never “done” as people and this is important to remember for several reasons. If we convince ourselves that we are set in stone, then we are shortchanging ourselves tremendously. We are complicated beings, capable of growth and change. So are our kids. Avoid, at all costs, backing your child into a corner by labeling them in one form or another. Labels only limit; they never help. You are not creating a stone statue that will be “finished” when it turns 18. That’s good news. It should enable you to relax a bit and enjoy the ride.

-Hal Runkel, LMFT author of ScreamFree Parenting [Read more…]