My Motherhood Resolutions for 2016

4
Jan
2016

My Motherhood resolutions 2016

I would not say I am all about making outrageous New Year’s resolutions, but I do take time to evaluate my previous year.  Reviewing and making some intentional changes are where new habits are created and you break free from habits which do not serve you well.

Do you have a list of things you are intentionally working on in 2016?  Here is my list and a few tips on why I chose them and how I will implement them.

Have an Effective Morning Routine

I have shared the importance of a morning routine many times over the years….and I will just say “DO IT”.  Over the past few months I have neglected my routine and began getting up later and later.  I did not have the time or space to set my attitude for the day and get my much needed quiet time.  Today was the first day back and it felt really good!

Giving Myself Grace

As a recovering perfectionist, I am the worst at giving myself the grace I so desperately need.  Why do we treat ourselves the worst at times when things don’t go as planned or we make a mistake?  This is an area I am working on.  This book has been enlightening for me “The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are” by Brene Brown.

Be Silly More Often

I am pretty darn serious, and when you have a six year old in the house, you have to let things go sometimes.  I struggle with trivial games, silly songs and non-sense activities – but I know they are what kids love.  I need to be more like a kid sometimes and let lose!

Schedule Time for Me

Big FAIL in this area.  I am a big one for self-care and being an introvert makes it especially important for me to get time alone, and I have done a terrible job at scheduling this in so it actually happens.  As we know, if we do not schedule things into our calendar, the time will not just magically appear.  And if we look to others to fulfill that need – meaning a magic fairy will just come and take care of it all and arrange childcare to allow you time away, it will not happen.  I must put it in my calendar and take care of finding childcare so I can get refreshment.

Get Off Facebook

OUCH, yes …. I did say that.  As a blogger who thrives on community as well as a business owner who helps empower others with supporting their Wellness, social media is a two edge sword.  It is a fabulous tool for interaction with others, when you guard you time.  I have done a poor job with that and have recently set up some boundaries for myself on when I can access Facebook and when it will be off-limits.

Enjoy a Hobby

This goes along with scheduling time for me, but in a different way.  I have some ideas on activities I would love to do and they have fallen by the wayside because I do not allow time for them.  As a Work At Home Mom, it can be very easy to work way more hours than needed because their is no schedule, unless you make one.  I would love to get back into my running routine and train for a race or learn to snowshoe this winter.  I have a desire to read more and enjoy some activities that are new to me.

Invest in Community

I am doing good in this area, but need to keep it on the top of my list.  Having others to walk alongside you in life is critically important.  This fall my husband and I started a life team in our home, meeting weekly.  This was a step in obedience and it has been a wonderful blessing to making new friends and connecting in new ways.  I was intentional in attending a new bible study at my church as well, which has been a huge blessing too.  As moms, and women in general – I do feel we do better in our life when we are in community with others.

10 Secrets Every Mom Should Know

29
Jan
2015

10-secrets-for-moms

Trust Your Intuition

My biggest secret tops the list!  So many moms are overwhelmed with trying to fit in everyone else’s advice and afraid of doing the wrong thing.  I get it – it is a constant struggle.  We feel we are under a microscope all the time.  You were given unique gifts as a mother and the intuitive wisdom of moms is not an accident.  I cover this more in my book, “Becoming the Confident Mom You’ve Always Wanted to Be.”

Counting to TEN is okay

Face it – we lose our tempers, unless you have exceptional control and temperament.  I struggle with maintaining my calm when things get a little dicey.  Over time I have learned to ‘stop the train‘, count to ten and then respond to the situation at hand, unless its truly an emergency.  This has been so helpful for me and made for much happier days.

Do-Over’s are Encouraged 

Okay, so I am not the perfect mom so I often will take a “do-over”.  I believe they are totally fine for me as well as my children.  We all mess up and when you have the chance to try again, it helps the learning process and gives opportunity for forgiveness too.

Be Flexible

I love me some routine, but I have also learned that as a mom you are FAR better off to go with the flow at times.  Being in a place where you can allow the schedule to change and you can adapt is truly important to helping your kids develop those skills.  If they see you freak out over and over with small changes, then they will learn to do the same.

Playing Matters More than Work

I admit, I still struggle with this area, especially as the work at home mom of two businesses. Whether you work from home or managing your home is your full time job, we all can relate.  My word this year is MARGIN, which means I need to carve out that time I need to enjoy all the other things that make life enjoyable.  Not just work.  I want to enjoy getting down on the floor with the Lego’s – even when it would not be my first choice. 🙂

Be a Yes Mom

This is a Jill Savage saying and I love it.  Instead of always being the fuddy-duddy mom saying no to those messy projects or tasks that require just a bit more, why not say YES?  It will make your day a bit more interesting I am sure and give your kids a surprise!

Delegation is Good

In other words, it is okay to ask for help, not only ASK for help but be specific with what you need and who can do it.  This can entail your children helping around house to asking a friend to stop by the store for you.  When you reach out to ask for help it does not mean you are weak, it means you just could use some help right then.  Be willing to not only ask for help but offer it when you can as well.

Intentional Joy

There are days which are harder than others, but when I stop myself and decide to seek out the joyful parts and focus on those, my demeanor changes as well as everyone around me.  The mom is the thermostat of the home…. so be careful to choose Joy – seek out those things that lift your spirit and be intentional.  I have my secret weapon of JOY – and when I diffuse it in my family room it is amazing how everyone else’s attitude changes too!

Be Selfish

In other words, take care of yourself.  You need time to re-charge your mom battery for everyone’s sake.  You cannot take care of others when you are feeling exhausted,  worn out and completely drained.  I know this is a tough subject, but you are your best advocate, this sacred space you need will not just fall in your lap.  Be creative in ways you can nurture yourself.

Receive Grace

Out of all the secrets here, this is the biggest and hardest for a lot of us to receive is grace.  We are the hardest on ourselves…..never giving ourselves a break when we mess up.  I expect a lot of myself and I am my worst critic.  But I am learning, the the wonderful reminders of my husband to give myself grace.  Tomorrow is a new day and it sure is a glorious thing!