When Self-Care is Non-Negotiable


I’ve been away from blogging for two weeks – remember me?  My last post shared about the essential oils I planned to bring on my international trip.  Well, I returned from said trip on Sunday, having had a much larger adventure than I planned.

I arrived in Venice with a pulsing finger, infected from an earlier simple procedure my dermatologist had done – a huge bummer to deal with while overseas, but I did come armed and prepared!  Then I began having digestive issues which became a much bigger issue and I spent two days in a Croatian clinic dealing with that (the entire experience will be a complete blog post, so stay tuned for that!).  

We returned to our cruise ship after a crazy day of “The Amazing Race” type travel to enjoy the last three days of the cruise and had a great time.

But on the day of return our flight was delayed, we missed our connection and had one more day away from home.  I was exhausted, worn out and depleted beyond what I could ever imagine.

Usually I tend to just ‘buck up’ and keep pushing when things get a bit tough.  My plan was to come back to blogging Monday – yes, three days ago…..but that didn’t happen.  I was tired and I needed some time to adjust back to normal life.  I was away for 13 days – crazy!

But here I sit, trying to ‘get back to normal’ and I am severely struggling.  41XVyWa4iyL

While I was away on my vacation I read the book,  “Nourished:  A Search for Health, Happiness, and a Full Night’s Sleep” by Becky Johnson and Rachel Randolph.  It was just what my mind needed to hear and my heart needed to have permission to feel.  I know see the timing of me reading this book, was not a by chance encounter, but a divine intervention.

So, instead of rushing back to a blogging schedule I am taking some time for self-care – to nourish my soul and get the rest my body was craving when I left on vacation, but certainly did not receive.  The saying, “I need a vacation from my vacation,” is certainly true for me this time around.

So I may be a bit infrequent here, but know I am caring for myself in ways I so encourage other moms to do, but rarely allow myself the grace to fit it in. 

I will be:

Sleeping when I am tired

Allowing God to speak to my worn out heart

Taking time to enjoy my kids during the first part of summer

Supporting and reviving my body – all naturally so it can serve me well  

Focusing on my marriage and being more intentional

Those are just a few of the things I will be more worried about than writing a blog post.  I am afraid if I don’t allow the time and space for my body to recover and fall in place, things could get rather ugly.

I love that word, Nourished.  I don’t know that I have ever even put it in the same sentence as myself – but for now….I am taking time to Nourish myself so I can be who God wants and desires me to be.

I’ll be back to share my adventure and some fabulous pictures with you too!

5 Tips for Overcoming a Lack of Motivation


5 Tips for Overcoming a Lack of Motivation

It happens to us all. One day we’re motivated and have a great attitude and the next day we’re in a not so good place, finding it hard to even make it through the day. Being a mom has its challenges and when you add in trying to work from home or take on a challenging project it can be overwhelming. I can easily become paralyzed with my lack of motivation and feel like giving up.

Over the years I have struggled with emotional imbalance and finally I have some freedom in this area, but I do still have days which overwhelm me. So what to I do on those days? I want to share with you five little secrets.

Finding Grace with Yourself

This is by far the biggest “secret” tip I have to offer and one we ALL find the most difficult giving to ourselves. My Bible study is just beginning the book One Way Love by Tullian Tchividjian and I am so excited to read it because it is all about real life and how most of us carry burden rather than allow grace to fill us.

On those days were I find myself weak, overwhelmed, and with maybe too many expectations, I sit back and try to give myself grace. This has taken me quite a while to begin to make part of my ritual in my process of daily living, but it make a huge difference.

Take Action Daily

For me, lacking motivation is not really an issue with a big project, so that is not really what I am addressing here, but more along the lines of being overwhelmed and paralyzed. So something that I do is to do SOMETHING! Even when I feel like one thing is a big step, I will find one small thing to do which can often times propel me forward. That is how the Confident Mom Weekly Household Planner actually came into existence – because of the dread and feeling of not knowing where to start. Even if I only can cross off two things on my daily list, it is more than I otherwise would have, so I can know I took some action.

Lift Your Spirit

There are many things you can do when your spirit needs a boost – pray, read Scripture, find motivational quotes, phone a friend, or go for a walk. I have also added into my list of ideas – diffusing essential oils. I love Orange, Lemon, Joy, and a few others for positively influencing my mood and my mind (there is actually an oil blend called Motivation too). This has become a life-line for me!

This is just not “feel good” stuff either. It is science. Aroma inhaled causes the olfactory bulb to send messages to the limbic part of the brain, which activates memories and emotions. It takes only 22 seconds for an inhaled oil to reach the brain. It is crazy fast! The limbic system supports a variety of functions including adrenaline flow, emotions, behavior, motivation, and long-term memory. (source) Our emotional life is largely housed in the limbic system, and it has a great deal to do with the formation of memories. The only way to get to the limbic system is through smell.

Celebrate Success

Whatever you are struggling with, find ways to be encouraged in the small victories. Some days we can perhaps only find success in getting a shower under our belt or maybe a quick run to the grocery store. Finding and celebrating small steps is good – progress, however small, is still progress. We can easily keep the negative undertone or we can shift our thought process to find celebration – sometimes just that small shift can make a big difference.

Make a List

Do you ever find your mind so full of ideas and things to remember that it almost bursts? Find a way to get those ideas, tasks, things you need to remember OUT of your brain. I have a system of lists on my smart phone now which all sync with my computer and iPad. I am still learning the process of getting it out of my head and into a list when I think of it, but it has helped tremendously to not feel bogged down and unmotivated.

Find a system that works for you. It may be just a spiral notebook you keep in your purse and on your counter, depending where you are, but this will hep ease your mind and keep ideas from clogging your thinking.

What tips do you have that might encourage another mom?

Top 10 Posts of 2014


top 10 posts 2014

I am back!!  Just for a quick post that will wrap up the year.  It is so fun to see what you loved to see and what rated as the top for posts for the year.  

An update on my son, he is doing just as expected and we are so happy.  His recovery will take awhile but each day gets better.  He has loved using oils to help his recovery….. who would have thought he would be begging for some Copaiba and Deep Relief, yep – it is a fact, my entire family has jumped on the oily train!  🙂

Here are the most popular posts f0r 2014 – perhaps you missed a few and it’s the perfect time to catch up!


6 Simple Devotions for Busy Moms


Keep An Organized Home in 2015 – Yes, Really!


Stocking a Natural Winter Wellness Cabinet


7 Healthy Habit Changes for Busy Moms


DIY Morning Citrus Blast Body Wash


Making a Difference with Compassion


15 Ways to Connect with Your Child


Free Your Sinuses in Two Days

More manageable mornings

9 Musts For Manageable Mornings


5 Time Management Hacks

Week Three – The Best Yes



We are in week three – really – yes, WEEK THREE!!  I have found as we begin to get further into a study, as with most things in life, the excitement of something “new and shiny” begins to fade and people tend to falter in their reading and then fizzle out.

Ladies, let’s keep this going!!  Even if you are not caught up on the reading – no worries.  Just get into chapter seven and read on.  You can go back to the previous chapters at some other point, but if you don’t get into the conversation now, you’ll miss the community and sharing.

This week we are reading Chapters 7-9 of The Best Yes.  

I am excited to dive in a bit deeper to some actual steps to helping make better decisions.

  1. Trusting in God by placing my desire under His authority
  2. Analyzing the decision.
  3. Making the decision.
  4. Owning the decision.
  5. Trusting God to work good even from the not-so-good parts.

My favorite verse, my life verse…… was one that Lysa mentions and focuses on this week too, Proverbs 3: 5-6 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight.  Proverbs 3: 5-6

If you are participating in the extra reading of Proverbs, you’ll want to be sure to read Proverbs 14 – 19.  I am so enjoying reading through and have jotted down some real treasures in my journal.  I’d love for you to  share any insight you have either here or in the Private Facebook group.

When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility coms wisdom.  Proverbs  11:2

I will see you back here tomorrow with my thoughts on this weeks reading.  Be sure to hop over to the Facebook page and share in the community!

Week Two – The Best Yes


weektwoThis week we are reading Chapters 4-6 of The Best Yes.  

We are also having a LIVE Facebook chat on our private page tomorrow evening, Tuesday – October 28th – 6:15 PM PACIFIC TIME / 9:15 PM EASTERN TIME.   We will be sharing a few questions, a worship song or two and connect with each other for about 45 minutes.  I would love to see you!

A sermon Lysa shared at New Spring church on being overwhelmed.  I am watching this one this week!  You can see a video beginning at 11:30 in the taping, or go straight to where Lysa begins at 15:27.

Have you enjoyed the community over on the Private Facebook Page?  Oh my word – it has been so rich with everyone sharing and feeling comfortable being vulnerable.  I thank you to everyone for sharing from you heart and your desire to change.

I saw this yesterday and it really struck me and I wanted to share.  This is so true – in so many areas of our lives, change will only occur when we are truly fed up with the way things are.  I am ready for change and I know you wouldn’t be here if you were not either!  We desire transformation – Lord, help us hear from you and learn to make better decisions. 


This week, read Proverbs 8-13 – be sure to journal and share any insight you have either here on this page or the Private Facebook group.

I will see you back here tomorrow with my thoughts on this weeks reading.  Be sure to hop over to the Facebook page and share in the community!