Together in Hard Places

25
Nov
2014

Making the Best Yes Decisions 

I am in love with Chapter Seventeen, “The Very Best Yes,” in The Best Yes.

There have been so many great pieces to this book, really – so many, but as we close out the book study this week I am almost in dumbfounded awe of how this chapter is speaking to my worn out heart.

I am in a season where I am having to make some big decisions, decisions that may really make me sad, make others disappointed and honestly be life changing, but not necessarily positive.  It is a hard place to be in.

But as I read about Lysa and her sharing the experience with her daughter and the big heartbreak, it really brought me back to those times when I could barely function because of so much angst. I haven’t been in that place for a long time, but there are many times I get close to that place.  Do you know what I mean?

I shared a while back about a period of time when I struggled with hopelessness to a big degree and it was debilitating.  Those are hard times.  I’ve struggled with losing a parent, an in-law, putting one through alcohol rehabilitation treatment and a few other big events that can knock you down.  Life is hard, but I have to remember this, and I shared it yesterday:

“Together is a really good word.  Together is what we need when we hit tough patches in life.  Making decisions when life is making you cry shouldn’t be done alone.”

I am the first to admit, I am a loner and I like to do this myself.  I hate to ask for help.  This really struck me as well the other day on the Facebook page as one of the other moderators shared this definition of herself:

“As someone who can be a reclusive, overwhelmed introvert.”

I almost spit out my coffee – that is me!!!  Seriously!

And it’s not really all that great of a thing.  I try to do this thing called life on my own, even to the point of not letting my husband know a lot of those things that are bothering me.  It’s easier to just take care of it myself.  Wrong, I know.

So if there is one thing, ONE BIG THING I have learned in this book, it is this:

“In those moments when we feel swept away in a current of fast-moving feelings, we need to pause.  Wait.  Let someone else be there as a voice of clarity.”

And then this:

“Smart enough to know to pause and take extra time when life takes on extenuating circumstances that are hard.”

I want to tattoo that on my palms.

“When we can rise up on the wisdom of others and get a new view of our situations, our next steps seem a little clearer.”

I need relationships that are deeper, more frequent and more meaningful.  Period.  I honestly feel having those will help me with my Best Yes decisions.  Does that resonate with you too?

So as I wrap up this study and our time together, I want you to know how much I value you – those of you I may meet in person and many of you who I never will.  You make my life sweet and rich in ways that no one else can understand who does not have an online community.

I feel your presence as I write on the page of my blog and even when I am admitting things I would rather tuck away deep in my heart…. I do it anyhow, because I know you won’t make assumptions or accusations.  You are sweet and appreciative of me bearing myself with you and hoping that it may help another mom, somewhere out there who feels alone and hurt.

Please join us tonight for the LIVE Facebook chat at 6:15 PM Pacific time/ 9:15 PM Eastern time.  We will share, have some worship music and celebrate this journey together.  Thank you so much for coming along!

Week Five – The Best Yes

17
Nov
2014

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This week we are talking about avoiding the traps of people pleasing.  I honestly never really thought of myself as a people pleaser, but now that I am examining different areas of my life and why I feel led to say YES to so many, I can see that I fit in as a people pleaser too.

If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.  Galatians 1:10 NLT

This week we are reading Chapters 13-15 of The Best Yes.  

I loved listening to these chapters while I drove back ALONE in my car from doing an essential oils class last week.  It’s not very often, as I know you all can relate, that I am in the car alone with silence enough to do such a marvelous thing!

I went back and re-read the chapters briefly, underlining and highlighting so I can share some key points from my perspective with you all tomorrow.  I love how our discussions on the Facebook page bring in so many different viewpoints and really open up the discussion.  I think about things that were not even on my radar when someone else shares from their heart.  Community is key in getting even more out of a study.  🙂

I was especially touched with this line of the book this week, “Don’t waste it.  Let it make you aware.  be an extension of God’s love right now.”   I want to keep this close to my heart and be used – open to His whispers.

Did you see where our blog, this space is opening up to care for another Compassion child??!!!!  I am thrilled.  Everyone is making a difference, every little bit and I am so thankful I was aware and open to hear His whisper to use this place for that calling.

“We want big directional signs from God.  God just wants us to pay attention.”  pg 170

If you are participating in the extra reading of Proverbs, you’ll want to be sure to read Proverbs 26 – 31.

I will see you back here tomorrow with my thoughts on this weeks reading.  Be sure to hop over to the Facebook page and share in the community!

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Seven

14
Jul
2014

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We begin week seven of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.  

Week Seven

Read  Chapter Seven – Replacing My Manipulation with God’s Goodness

Trait 1:  Goodness

I am sure this chapter will bring up some areas in our life that are painful.   We try so hard as parents to do “just the right thing or make just the right decision” and honestly – our kids are in control of their actions and choices.  It can be so frustrating and defeating.  I hope we all can explore this area throughout the week.

“Hope in the Goodness of God”

God is good and remembering that can be hard when you are in difficult situations.  Like when your child is diagnosed with a brain tumor, or you lose your home to bankruptcy or even when disaster strikes your small town.  It is hard to remember and feel His presence – I have a very difficult time in those situations for sure.  I want to grab hold no matter the circumstance and know – truly know deep down how good God is.

I will be back tomorrow with a quick post on my thoughts about Chapter Seven and will introduce some questions through out the week on the private Facebook page.  

If you haven’t printed out the prayers that are covered in the chapters click HERE on Sue’s website.  Here is this trait for Goodness!

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Chapter Seven Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Seven and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Six

7
Jul
2014

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We begin week six of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.  

Week Six

Read  Chapter Six – Replacing My Negativity with God’s Kindness

Trait:  Kindness

“Kindness is love in motion.”

I love that simple definition for Kindness.  How I wish I could remember that all the time.  I think I will write it on sticky notes and post it in key places so I can see it, read it and embed it in my heart.

I find that I get busy and can easily get short with my kids and my husband.  I tend to get stressed and anxious, which heightens my inability to actively share kind words and actions.  UGH!  I hate to remember all the times I have fallen short.

Feel free to begin the questions in the Study Guide, which can be found in the back of your book, Lesson 6.  Have a journal you can write down your answers and reflections to the questions – be honest and spend some time here ladies.  Have you taken the time during the study to thoroughly visit each trait and actively allow God to work?

I will be back tomorrow with a quick post on my thoughts about Chapter Six and will introduce some questions through out the week on the private Facebook page.  

If you haven’t printed out the prayers that are covered in the chapters click HERE on Sue’s website.  Here is this week’s trait of Kindness – it’s a good one! 

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Chapter Six Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Six and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!

9 Traits of a Life-Giving Mom – Week Five

30
Jun
2014

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We begin week five of our journey reading Sue Detweiler’s book, 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom: Replacing My Worst with God’s Best.   

Week Five

Read  Chapter Five – Replacing My Frustration with God’s Patience

Trait 1:  Patience

This one is always a tough one for moms, I am not sure there is ONE mom out there that feels they are patient and have this one down!!  If you do, please tell!!

As I contemplate my areas of growth in how I can become a more Life-Giving Mom, this is certainly at the top.  I often lose my temper, feel frustrated and hopeless.  It is tough.  I know this topic will provide a lot of discussion and sharing this week as we learn and grow from each other.

I will be back tomorrow with a quick post on my thoughts about Chapter Five and will introduce some questions through out the week on the private Facebook page.  

(you will need to click through to the main blog to view the videos)

Chapter Five Video

 

I will be back tomorrow with my thoughts as I read Chapter Five and I’ll see you on the Facebook page!