Keeping It Real


 Keeping It Real in the Home

Chapter Twenty One:

Wow, can you believe we are at the end?  Well….it may be the end of the study, but it certainly is not the end of the process.  We have a lot of tips, strategies and the like from the book that can be revisited over and over again, keeping us on track – or getting us back on track!

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“I want to leave you with encouragement from the Word of God for the challenges you will face to bring order and pear into your life

“Insecurity plagues the most confident woman at times.”

“Only with God can you start over more than once with an unblemished, untarnished, 100 percent, still-intact potential.”

The big one for me:

“To stay on course and live a life or priorities, order and peace, we will need strength beyond ourselves.  many don’t believe that and are certain of their own power.  I know – I lived that way for many years.  Believing in your own strength keeps you walking on a path parallel to a life of victory.

I think for me one of the areas I am left with as a continual battle will be one of the things Glynnis talks about during this last chapter – Learn to Finish Well.  I am not the best finisher – in fact today, I got home after dropping my little guy at preschool knowing I had a set agenda for what “work” items I need to work on, and I felt the need to clean my carpets.  I have a procrastination problem at times and then will procrastinate finishing!

“Great intentions are easy, but establishing consistent follow-through has taken years of work.”

This is an area of great diligence ladies.  We must focus moving ahead and changing bad habits.  What does that look like for you?

Remembering that it is not our call to do it all – “For every yes there is a no.”  Remember that.  I have to – even in the midst of wanting to please others.  What do I need to remember:

  • Keeping my commitments simple and within my realistic ability.

  • I need to finish something before I start the next – this will solve a lot of my problems – self-discipline.

  • Realizing that I do not have to be perfect and not allowing what others think of me to jeopardize my self-confidence.

Getting over the hurdles – I especially loved this section, as I am right now going through a hurdle time in my life, but I can take heart knowing that I can learn to overcome, or the other option is to allow it to consume me.  When given time to think about it, I know I want to overcome, not sink.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • What is your biggest lesson from reading this book?
  • How can you challenge yourself in the weeks to come to stay on track and conquer more areas?
  • To finish your race well, what needs to happen?
  • What goal do you have for yourself – what can you start doing today to make it a habit?

I did mention on the Facebook page that I am considering another study after the New Year.  I would love your input, suggestions and ideas on how to do this again.  I was very happy with the success of my first online study and look forward to serving you in this way.  I currently have started reading, “Choose Joy, Because Happiness Isn’t Enough” by Kay Warren.  I think it would be a great focus to begin 2014.

Functional Living Areas



Chapter Eighteen:

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“Sensory adaptation is to blame for numbing us visually to things in our home as well.  It’s a God-given gift to adapt to our surroundings.

To maximize organization and increase effectiveness of the general living areas, we may need to define their purposes.”

“You see, the goal or organization isn’t to have a pristine home, it’s to free you to live the life you want and to obey God’s calling for you and your family.  With that in mind, consider each general room in your home.  Ask yourself two questions:

1. What does my family currently do in this room?

2.  What do I wish my family could do in this room?

“Ask God to give you a vision for your home and living spaces.”

The big one for me:

“Creating a comfortable, welcoming home is a priority goal for me.  It’s not about interior design or having a floor you can eat off of; it’s more about the heart of the hostess and stress-free places to gather.  I f your heart longs for a home where family and friends breathe a sigh of relief upon entering, then consider starting your organizing with your common areas.”

I have lived in my home now for a little over 6 years and you know what, little has changed since I moved in after my husband and I got married.  We’ve talked and talked about the things we would like to change and it seems that when we get ready to start changing things, something happens which prevents us.  Whether it is a budget constraint, something consuming our time, or just a turn in lack of interest.   My home still looks much like the bachelor pad that it was when my husband was single!

This chapter was a good wake up call for me to truly consider what I want my home to say and share when people come in.  I loved how Glynnis suggested that you pray and ask God to show you the vision for your home, I have never done that.  I think He can direct us in ways that will provide way more value than we just try to ‘wing it’.  

I know we have just a bit more stuff than we need, geez, I think everyone does!  But even still, I can place things better and find ways to brighten up my space without spending thousands of dollars and over consuming to make my home feel “homey”.  My challenge to myself is to go through my rooms and consider if something truly has a purpose or it is a space consumer.  Things in my home need to have personal value, not just a decorative touch.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • Do you feel you have a vision for your home?
  • What one tip that Glynnis shared really stuck out to you?
  • Is your entryway a welcoming spot?
  • What do you think someone feels when they enter your home now?  What would you like them to feel?

The Heart of the Home



Chapter Fifteen:

A few key sentences that got my attention:

“An organized kitchen helps me focus on what’s important, instead of being mentally drained by a mess.”
…I’m discouraged from starting anything….. It just takes too much mental energy for me to overcome clutter.”
“Not only does clutter drain energy from me, but there is no room for anything beautiful when there’s stuff all over my counters.” 


The big one for me:


“Allow yourself to envision your ideal purpose for your kitchen”

I think one of the areas that I can actually keep somewhat clean and organized is my kitchen, but I know this is an area which can be very stressful for most families.  I am fortunate that I have a large space in our kitchen and it also has an eating area and it is connected to a family room.  I love the open space and ability to have everyone in the room while I am cooking or preparing other things in the kitchen.

But it does create a ‘larger’ space for junk to congregate too, especially with my older kids.  They come in and drop their backpacks, papers, computers, phones, etc.  You get it!  My goal I guess it to come up with a plan to show them where they can put their items without clogging up my nice island.  In fact, we just put in a new counter top, and I love to see the counter top – so coming up with a drawer, or area for them is better than for me to continuing nagging them!

I am pretty good with organizing food and keeping a pantry that is fairly easy to navigate.  Is that a struggle for you?

Don’t get overwhelmed with all the tasks that Glynnis lists in this chapter to cover.  You can take one or two this week and add a few for the next few weeks, allowing time to sort through areas that are a concern for you.  I do love her tips:

Invest in a few really good kitchen items, and you will find you need less – so true!

Using a basket on the counter for odd and end items to help them find a place.

Keeping a permanent marker to date food – this one is a MUST for me, I freeze a lot of leftover items and my worst nightmare is opening the freezer and finding stuff that doe snot have a label.  I have no idea what it is and it will then likely be left unused.

Consider these questions, answer them in your journal, comment here or you can leave your comment on the private Facebook page.  

  • What is your vision for your kitchen?
  • Can you provide a place for your family members to place things and then gently train them to use those spaces?
  • Does simplifying your kitchen with less spark an interest?  How can you take away some of the items that may have been bought with a sense of providing an ‘easier’ way to do things, but ultimately just took up space and time cleaning up?
  • Can you take some time this week to clear out a pantry, cupboard or other area which has been haunting you? 

Finding Your Happy Place


“We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.  We cannot change our past…..we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.  We cannot change the inevitable.  The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.  I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.” – Charles Swindoll

I think I need to read that quote everyday, how about you?

It is so easy to begin our day fresh and full of energy, but soon things begin to happen ‘to us’ and our attitude is quickly altered by those around us.  I think this is one of the key things to keep in mind when trying to be the CALM mom we all want to be.  Managing our attitude in the midst of all the drama! [Read more…]

Tips to Plan “Thriving Breaks” with our Kids – Laurie Wallin


I am on vacation with my family from July 21st – August 9th traveling in our RV to Yellowstone, Glacier National Park and a few spots in between. I will be sure to have some adventures to share when I return, in the meantime enjoy a guest post from Laurie Wallin of  Living Power:

“Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.”

– Maya Angelou

This is my favorite quote. Ever. As a woman, wife, mom, friend, speaker, life coach – whatever role I’m in, I long to thrive. To live my life fully, with joy and humor, no matter what comes my way. To be courageous in challenges. To be radiant from the very core. That’s the me I see in my mind. [Read more…]