A Heart to Heart – Mom to Mom


As I approach the 2 year anniversary of The Confident Mom, I am reflecting on my goals for this journey I feel God has mapped out for me.  I am contemplating recent changes in my personal life that certainly could not and were not seen over two years ago.  Let me just say, I have had a lot to contemplate!

I am reminded today, that I do not need to know all the answers – but rather let The Lord guide me and touch my heart as He only can.  This verse came up today on my perpetual calendar:

If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask Him and He will gladly tell you.  James 1:15 TLB [Read more…]

Increasing Your Child’s Self-Esteem


“Kind words are short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless” Mother Theresa

One of the most valuable things you can do as a parent is to build your child’s self-esteem.  Self-esteem is the collection of beliefs or feelings we have about ourselves.  How we define or think of ourselves influences our motivations, attitudes, and behaviors and affects our emotional adjustment.

Healthy self-esteem is a child’s armor against the peer pressure and challenges of society.

Kids who feel good about themselves seem to have an easier time handling conflicts, persevering and resisting negative pressures. They tend to smile more readily and enjoy life – isn’t that what you would like for your child?

Patterns of self-esteem start very early in life – beginning when your child is a toddler and develops even more as they get older.  You play a major role in this development – as with most things, it all begins in the home.

There are sure-fire ways to increase your child’s self-esteem and when you take the time to focus on the positive things you see in your child, the negative or troubling things begin to fade away.

Simple ways you can build your child’s self-esteem include:

  • Appreciating your child
  • Tell your child that you love them
  • Spend time with your child
  • Encouraging your child to make choices – this leads to confidence and independence
  • Really listen to your child’s opinion
  • Take the time to explain reasons, when it is appropriate
  • Feed your child daily with positive encouragement – not general  praise, but specific encouragement
  • Encourage your child to try new and challenging activities – this builds perseverance

Recently I was introduced to a wonderful tool that makes it much easier for parents to recognize and record the positive things about those they love.  The “I like book” for kids as well as the “I like book” for couples are perfect for busy families who do not want to miss the opportunity to capture the positive!


The books are easy to use – broken down by 12 months (you can start anytime) and have an entry available for each parent per day.  I love that you can write a short line or phrase for each day and have it as a record to look back on.  Wouldn’t it be fun to look back at these 10 years from now?  I know it will become a treasure that your child will hold close to their heart!

I am thrilled to share that I was given two of the books to giveaway – one for children and one for spouses.  Please leave a comment to enter – share with me one thing you can appreciate about your child today – I can’t wait to read them!  Entries close midnight May 17th and will be announced.

You can find out more about the books at www.theilikebook.com .  They are offering a discount of 40% when you use the code kids2010 when you register at checkout.  Get one at a discount and start investing in your child today!

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Making Your Goals Stick! – Nikki Kinzer


For many of us, the New Year brings renewal.  It can be a time for a fresh start and the beginning of a better life.  It’s where we decide this is the time to exercise more, eat better and get organized!  All of these goals and any other you may choose can be mean great changes for you in the upcoming year.

I remember several years ago in the winter, I was looking at joining a gym.  The representative said to me, now would be a better time to join, because in the end of December the prices would increase, due to the increase of memberships.  The gyms are really busy the month of January, start to slow down in February, and then in March it’s at their normal capacity. [Read more…]

Parenting is a Marathon – not a Sprint!!


Some of you who have followed me know I  ran a half-marathon last Sunday.  I had been training for about 8 weeks, actually with a much bigger goal of entering the Seattle Marathon in late November – but this half-marathon fit right into my scheduled training for mileage so I signed up.  A small event, only about 600 participants, it was a breath of fresh air compared to my last half-marathons;  Seattle in ’06 with something like 5000 and the same with the Rock ‘n Roll Half Marathon in Phoenix with ridiculous amounts of half clothed runners all around me!  I was excited to shoot for a personal best time because this particular course was FLAT – a runners dream.  Held in the beautiful Skagit Valley north of Seattle I was looking forward to it.

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