When Self-Care is Non-Negotiable


I’ve been away from blogging for two weeks – remember me?  My last post shared about the essential oils I planned to bring on my international trip.  Well, I returned from said trip on Sunday, having had a much larger adventure than I planned.

I arrived in Venice with a pulsing finger, infected from an earlier simple procedure my dermatologist had done – a huge bummer to deal with while overseas, but I did come armed and prepared!  Then I began having digestive issues which became a much bigger issue and I spent two days in a Croatian clinic dealing with that (the entire experience will be a complete blog post, so stay tuned for that!).  

We returned to our cruise ship after a crazy day of “The Amazing Race” type travel to enjoy the last three days of the cruise and had a great time.

But on the day of return our flight was delayed, we missed our connection and had one more day away from home.  I was exhausted, worn out and depleted beyond what I could ever imagine.

Usually I tend to just ‘buck up’ and keep pushing when things get a bit tough.  My plan was to come back to blogging Monday – yes, three days ago…..but that didn’t happen.  I was tired and I needed some time to adjust back to normal life.  I was away for 13 days – crazy!

But here I sit, trying to ‘get back to normal’ and I am severely struggling.  41XVyWa4iyL

While I was away on my vacation I read the book,  “Nourished:  A Search for Health, Happiness, and a Full Night’s Sleep” by Becky Johnson and Rachel Randolph.  It was just what my mind needed to hear and my heart needed to have permission to feel.  I know see the timing of me reading this book, was not a by chance encounter, but a divine intervention.

So, instead of rushing back to a blogging schedule I am taking some time for self-care – to nourish my soul and get the rest my body was craving when I left on vacation, but certainly did not receive.  The saying, “I need a vacation from my vacation,” is certainly true for me this time around.

So I may be a bit infrequent here, but know I am caring for myself in ways I so encourage other moms to do, but rarely allow myself the grace to fit it in. 

I will be:

Sleeping when I am tired

Allowing God to speak to my worn out heart

Taking time to enjoy my kids during the first part of summer

Supporting and reviving my body – all naturally so it can serve me well  

Focusing on my marriage and being more intentional

Those are just a few of the things I will be more worried about than writing a blog post.  I am afraid if I don’t allow the time and space for my body to recover and fall in place, things could get rather ugly.

I love that word, Nourished.  I don’t know that I have ever even put it in the same sentence as myself – but for now….I am taking time to Nourish myself so I can be who God wants and desires me to be.

I’ll be back to share my adventure and some fabulous pictures with you too!

Week Four : The Fringe Hours – Relationships


 Week four a

This week will run a bit different, you have all week to read three chapters as we discuss them on the Facebook page.  I will do a final closing post on Friday – so really take your time and allow this week to fill your heart, energize you and allow the message to sink in.

Being an introvert, I find it hard to be around a lot of people at a time – but I do enjoy doing activities and spending time with smaller groups.  Community – that is what we are truly made for – relationships.  

As a mom who works from mom, does most of her interactions online and has a husband who travels 3-4 days a week, I find myself in a little cocoon.   I find myself alone all week long, so this chapter was encouragement for me to stretch myself and make time to get out and meet up with friends.

I can’t wait to discuss what elements of these chapters truly resonate with you!

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand to be understood.”  Lucius Annaeus Seneca


Part 4, Live Well

Chapter 11, Cultivating Community

Chapter 12, Finding Rest

Chapter 13, Living Well

(you’ll need to click through to the website to view the video)

Hop over to the Facebook page and join in the discussion.  This is where the majority of the community will happen, although you are certainly welcome to comment here on the blog too!


The Fringe Hours Manifesto as a beautiful printable – what better way to remember what you are reading and trying to change in your life?  Click the link and download a copy right away. It will be an on-going source of encouragement and inspiration to help you pursue the kind of time for yourself that energizes your heart, soul and spirit.

Week Three : The Fringe Hours – Overcoming Obstacles


Week three bI have never been one that finds it easy to ask for help, just ask my husband.  It’s like pulling teeth!  For me to stop and open my mouth to physically ask for help  is almost seriously impossible for me.  I am sure there are some big reasons as to why – but it has created problems for me.

I have to get better in this area.

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that I waste time when I have to focus my brain on tasks that need done.  That is why I love things like the Weekly Household Planner, which spell tasks out and I can decide whether I want to do them or not.  However, I do not waste time trying to figure out what needs to be done each week.  Relief!

I also know that asking my family for help would relieve me of many stressful tasks and I know they would be wiling to help too, but I have an underlying issue that is spelled…. C-O-N-T-R-O-L.  Yep, I like to be in control.

In this chapter there are some great tips to focus on and remember as we head into our days with long lists.  The work of many will help ease the tasks of just one person.  When a family can share in the work, it makes it better for all.

Several years ago I relinquished to hiring a housecleaner.  Yes, the one who faithfully puts out a cleaning schedule has a housecleaner!!  But you know, it was an area that I had to give up and allow someone else to help with so that my strengths and passions could be used elsewhere (on this blog and mentoring others with Young Living.)  It was pivotal in my business and family life.

I still do many of the home keeping activities, but it is a relief to know that I can be reaching out to another mom on a phone call and or writing a blog post rather than mop my floor.  God has gifted me, just like he has you and during this season, He has blessed me with a housecleaner so I can be used in different ways.

“You can’t do everything, so don’t fall into the trap of trying.  Instead, find the moments in each aspect of your life that invigorate you, and imbalance your life toward those.”  –  Marcus Buckingham


Chapter 9, Embracing Help

Chapter 10, Overcoming Obstacles


(you’ll need to click through to the website to view the video)


Hop over to the Facebook page and join in the discussion.  This is where the majority of the community will happen, although you are certainly welcome to comment here on the blog too!


Here is a blog post I wrote about Delegating – I think I need to go back and read what I wrote before!! 

Week Two – The Fringe Hours – Finding Your Time


Week 2 Chapt 6

This is YOUR time for a new beginning….. how does that make you feel?

  • Are you inspired?
  • Deflated?
  • Uplifted?
  • Significant?

For me I feel all of those things.  I love to come up with new plans and be inspired for a new routine, but to be honest I tend to allow life to squeeze right back in where I tried to make a u-turn.   Follow thru is not a big strong point for me, but I know one day there will be a shift so I continue to push forward.  🙂

I have gotten out of my habit of rising early – I used to get up before 5:30 AM and it has slowly shifted to 6:30 AM – UGH!!  I miss it.  I need to be more disciplined to get back to my routine…. so that is my goal this week… to slowly shift my alarm 15 minutes earlier each day.

I also have never tracked my time.  I will be doing this task as well.


Part 2, Discover

Chapter 6, Finding Your Time



Are you a morning person or do you love the evenings?

Did you download the Time Log mentioned from the last post?  Do it!

I look forward to the conversation in the Private Facebook page – you all have been amazing at sharing your heart and being supportive of others situations.  I love that!

Week TWO : The Fringe Hours – DISCOVER


Week 2 Chapt 4-5

As we move forward into this section of the book, you will be challenged to begin to be proactive in finding pockets of time to include your self-care needs into your day.  This is where building upon open tid-bits of time with small habit changes will help you develop new routines.

Change is hard.  We fight against it even when it is good for us!  Do you agree?  I have the hardest time to incorporate new routines even when it is things I enjoy.  We are creatures of habit.  Let’s burst forward with new energy to make a new reality!


Part 2, Discover

Chapter 4, Shifting Your Perspective

Chapter 5, Identifying How to Care for Yourself


(Click through to the website to view the video)


Jessica wanted to make sure you have the tools you need to help you find your fringe hours, so click here for a printable version of  the Fringe Hours Time Log to help you identify extra time in your day!

This will be very helpful for you as we move forward to truly making lasting change.

Hop over to the Facebook page and join in the discussion.  This is where the majority of the community will happen, although you are certainly welcome to comment here on the blog too!

I have a couple more important announcements too!


Today launches the fabulous ULTIMATE Homemaking Bundle, where I contributed my “Become a Frugalista – Money-Saving Secrets for the Frugal Family Managerbook.  FUN!  

You know my heart is for the home and helping equip moms to make a difference, but hey – we all know it can be overwhelming and filled with some struggles along the way.

This is where this homemaking bundle comes in.  I feel the material offered will help you find just the area to focus on, one step at a time!  You’ll be equipped to nurture the beauty and productivity in your home along with family relationships with proven, simple, and effective tools that really give you a boost as a homemaker – help, inspiration, useful tips, much needed encouragement, and resources at your fingertips.  All in one simple bundle – no shopping around!  What a time saver!

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is a complete library of carefully selected eBooks, eCourses, audios, online conferences, and printable packs designed to help you turn your house into a home… without all the overwhelm.

What’s in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle?

The first step in putting together this collection was to find the critical homemaking skills that you need to transform your house into a home.

Here they are:

  • Cleaning… create a healthy, toxin-free home
  • DIY/Homemade… fun and frugal ways to express your personal style
  • Devotionals and Faith… take a break from the daily grind to renew yourself
  • Finances… build a budget that works
  • Cooking & Meal Planning… serve easier, tastier meals in less time
  • Holidays & Special Events… brighten up old family traditions and create new
  • Homeschooling… homeschool with grace and ease
  • Marriage… heat up your marriage
  • Motherhood… find peace, balance & joy in mothering
  • Organizing… conquer the clutter and simplify your life
  • Pregnancy & Babies… enjoy a healthy pregnancy and prepare to nurture your baby
  • Health & Wellness… soothe aches & pains with natural remedies
  • Working from Home… hone your talents, live your passions and earn money to help your family

… a complete library of 99 eBooks and eCourses to help you nurture the beauty and productivity in your home and family relationships.

One of the things I really love about this resource is the collection is a fraction of the price of what someone would pay for each resource individually!

For a short time, the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle includes a complete library of:

  • 76 eBooks
  • 6 eCourses
  • 1 audio download
  • 2 online conferences, and
  • 14 printable packs

99 carefully selected resources designed to help you nurture the beauty and productivity in your home and family relationships… is only $29.97. (A total value of $984.74.)

That breaks down to 30 cents per book.

Your 30-Day 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

If for any reason, you decide that the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is not for you, then please send an email to customerservice@Ultimate-Bundles.com and you will be refunded 100% of your investment. No questions asked.

Don’t Forget the Bonuses… (I love bonuses!)

Of course, no Ultimate Homemaking Bundle would be complete without the generous, inspiring gifts donated by companies that understand homemakers like you. Every gift is yours to keep and enjoy.

  • Choose 1 FREE Online Class from Craftsy (Select from 24 of Their Most Popular Classes – Up to $60 Value)
  • 1 FREE Kids Discovery Box from Green Kid Crafts ($19.95 Value)
  • FREE $15 Credit to Hope Ink PLUS 2 FREE 8×10 Art Prints ($71 Value)
  • FREE 90-Day “Good Deal” Subscription to She Plans Dinner ($15 Value)
  • Choose 1 FREE Stylish Spring Scarf from Deborah & Co. ($20 Value)
  • FREE $80 Healthy Moving Class Credit ($80 Value)
  • FREE 90-Day Pro Membership to ListPlanIt ($30 Value)
  • FREE 65 Tyndale Rewards Points to Be Used for a FREE Book or Towards Any Book of Your Choice ($15 Value)

This is your chance to get all the love, support, guidance and inspiration you need to nurture the beauty and productivity in your home and family relationships with proven, simple, and effective tools that really give you a boost as a homemaker.

But time is running out! The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle will only be available from 8:00 a.m. EST on Monday, April 20 until 11:59 p.m. EST on Monday, April 27.

After that, the shopping cart closes and the deeply discounted price is gone.

Act now!

Click here for more info or to buy now.

Read the fine print about this bundle and read the answers to frequently asked questions about the bundle.  As an author and a contributor, I do earn commission from the sale of the bundles – but please read my disclosure statement to know that I only truly recommend products that I would use and buy myself.

And now another FREE bonus to snag today!


I’ve got a free mini-course to share with you moms, from Erin at The Humbled Homemaker.  It is a FREE 4 part video mini-course about Stress-Free Homemaking HERE 

It’s only available for a limited time, so don’t miss out! 

The videos are delivered via email every few days, and are less than 10 minutes each, but pack a lot of information into them. I hope you enjoy the series!