Keeping It Positive


There is so much to be concerned about when raising children.

Will they be healthy, happy and well-adjusted?

How much do the things done by parents affect them?

What is nature and what is nurture?

Is it possible to keep things positive and raise positive children today?

Even if you feel like you’ve made some mistakes as a parent, don’t despair. There are definitely things you can do to raise positive children. Children are very resilient and learn quickly.

Here are a few tips you can follow to raise children that are optimistic and creative. [Read more…]

Confident Moms Raise Confident Kids


As I get ready to kick off the release of my new kindle book, “Become the Confident Mom You’ve Always Wanted to Be,” I thought it would be nice to preface it by sharing why your role as a mom is so critical to your children’s success.  How you view yourself, display your ideals and consistently parent does make a difference and when you are confident in your decisions, well… makes all the difference in the world.

Confidence is a crucial part of our lives; as children and adults. Without it, we are left with a low self-esteem; feelings of unworthiness; and vulnerable to the pitfalls life sometimes doles out.

Confident moms raise confident kids and this, above all else, is the very foundation which will determine the future success or failure of your children.

Here are some tips on how you can increase your child’s confidence.

Be a role model for your child [Read more…]

Understanding Motivation


One of the most common frustrations I hear parents speak about is the lack of motivation in their children.  It is frustrating, confusing and very disheartening.  You know your child is capable – but they just don’t seem to try.

One thing that is helpful is to understand the different types of motivation and understanding which fits your child best.  You have two basic forms of motivation – Extrinsic and Intrinsic.

Understanding Extrinsic Motivation?

Extrinsic Motivation is one of the oldest and most common forms of motivation in the world.  Simply stated, when we experience extrinsic motivation we expect to be rewarded. [Read more…]

Creating a Positive Self Image


A lot of things in our lives trace back to childhood. Whether it is pain or happiness, it has a basis there. Help your child to create and maintain a positive self-image of themselves from an early age.

What is the importance of self-image?

It is how we see ourselves in our own eyes. What we think of ourselves is linked to how we allow the perceptions of others affect us. If it has been instilled in you by parents that you are a worthwhile person, and then it will be harder for someone else to undo that. When you start with no image of yourself, then others have a greater influence and it can build up or destroy you at a fragile time in your life.

Helping your Child with their Self-Image

We know that kids will encounter all sorts of people in their lives. Children are not known for their sensitivity. They do tease others and this teasing can be hurtful and leave scars that are not visible to the naked eye.

As parents, we can help. From the beginning of their lives, we can bring encouragement and a sense of self worth to our children whenever possible. Here are some ways to do that.

Offer praiseWhen your child does something new or noteworthy, show them specific praise. Don’t say “good job” rather be specific, “I can tell it took a lot of time to paint that picture, that shows you have perseverance.” Let them know how important it was to you to be a part of it. It is already important to them and they shared the moment with you. [Read more…]

Successful Homework Strategies


As we begin a new school year, I typically get a lot of questions on how to handle homework.  You cannot avoid it – if you are a parent you will be involved in homework with your child at some level.  The biggest thing I reiterate to parents when I work with them is, your child’s homework is just that – your child’s homework.

If you are not careful you can be manipulated into taking a larger portion of the ownership of that homework than is good for you and most importantly in the best interest of your child.  You can certainly be involved without talking complete control over it and I totally recommend being available to help your child make corrections and ask questions, but doing your child’s homework for them certainly defeats the purpose of homework.

Take it from a mom who is now sending one off to college, I am hoping to see that what I did as a parent truly set her up for success.  That is our desire as parents, to give our children the skills and motivation they will need when they no longer are within the safety of the four walls we call home. [Read more…]