“Home is the place where boys and girls first learn how to limit their wishes, abide by rules, and consider the rights and needs of others.” – Sidonie Gruenberg, author
Jenny’s Take: I talked to a woman the other day who said to me, “I can’t tell my 6 year old son no. He throws tantrums if I do.” I may be preaching to the choir here, but even the choir members sometimes need a little encouragement. Kids need to know that they not the most powerful members in your family. When your child starts acting entitled, don’t feel guilty for correcting them. That’s your job.
Let junior know what is and what isn’t acceptable in very clear terms and then follow through on your consequences. Who cares if they don’t like having limits? That doesn’t mean they don’t need them. Be matter of fact and calm in your actions and don’t take their protests personally. Kids are craving this kind of leadership – tantrums are just immature ways of asking for it. – Jenny Runkel, Director of Content for The ScreamFree Institute
The Confident Mom’s Take: Can I just get an “Amen”? I don’t know about you, but when I am out doing errands it seems I am constantly in the presence of moms who feel like it is the worse thing if they say no, or perhaps make little Johnny wait. Or even more……suggest and follow through with the thought that they could at least contain their screaming and fit throwing until after they have gone through the check out!
We are guilty of raising a generation who does feel entitled and even more so, feels that they can manipulate their parents to get what THEY want – not what they NEED! Our kids are constantly testing us, seeing how far they can push us and honestly – they don’t want you to fail. Even though it may seem they want to be able to control when they eat, how much they eat, when they go to bed, how they go to bed, they are really craving leadership. You need to step up to the plate and start leading them and giving them an example of what it means to be a parent and someone they can trust and have confidence in.
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