When we yell, our kids hear one thing, “Calm Me Down!!!”. We convey to them that we cannot handle their behavior and they’d better change so that we can get a grip on things. The rest of our message, no matter how valuable it may be, is lost in translation. It’s much more productive to discipline with our actions in a calm manner, so that our kids really get the message loud and clear.
I was not shocked when I saw this posting with this article reference on Twitter Friday. As I work with parents and have struggled myself with yelling at my kids, I know how difficult this habit is to change. Reactive behavior of any kind with your children is damaging, why not take a new step to change this behavior? Discovering what sets you off and how to manage that stress is key to learning to approach your kids in a new way. One of the topics I try to help busy mom’s discover the value in is the idea of self-care. Carving out time to fill your energy tank is extremely important in keeping the stress level down and in turn keeping your voice level down. I have found this true for me and mom’s I have coached have seen the impact as well.
I am passionate about this revolutionary movement to become Screamfree in our homes. Look for workshops and teleseminars on this topic so you can learn more and discover the joy of being Screamfree in your home too!
