Increasing Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship – Tamara Wilhelm M.A., L.M.H.C.


One of the most discussed topics in our counseling office (besides finances & infidelity) is sex. Most couples we counsel are dissatisfied with their sex life in some form, and it’s our job to get them back on the same page. One of the ways to do this is to first explain the major differences between men and women when it comes to sexual experiences, and exactly what sex means to males and females. Although it is not completely accurate to break this down by gender, most of the research and feedback can be divided in this manner. [Read more…]

One Size Does Not Fit All


“We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take from us or spare us.”     -Marcel Proust (1871-1922)

Jenny’s Take: Becoming ScreamFree looks different for each parent. You are an individual with a particular upbringing and a particular relationship with the co-parent of your child. You live in a specific region, you have a specific occupation, and last, but not least…you have a unique child. So, while the principles we offer are universal, the application of those principles must be personal.

We may wish for a better relationship with our child. That is all well and good. But the difficult truth is this: wishing doesn’t really get us anywhere. If you want to improve your relationship (and who doesn’t?) you are the one who has to embark on this journey. No one can tell you exactly what to do or what to say. It’s the discovery of those things that really does make the difference. So, get in there and make mistakes. As long as you are holding true to the ScreamFree principles, you’re headed in the right direction. -Jenny Runkel  Director of Content for The ScreamFree Institute

The Confident Mom’s Take: I love how Jenny gives credit to the reality that everyone is different, every child is different and every home has a different comfort level for management.  This is one of the best things about coaching and what I love most about the entire process.  A book tells you just what to do, step 1, step 2 and so on – not taking into account how unique your child is or your family dynamic.  When I work with moms I get them to bring me into their home (not literally, but some wish I was like SuperNanny!) and give me a real feeling of what is going on and how their family is unique.  Then we can start to introduce principles, which are different than instructions – principles  are truths that give you the “why” and allows you to reason. You can apply these ScreamFree principles however they fit for you and your family.  That is one reason why it works so well, but not the only.  The basis of focusing on only yourself and realizing that you can only control your own emotions and actions is key.  A new ScreamFree series for Busy Moms is starting in about a month, sign up by August 13th for a special rate!  Will you finally take the step to change what may not be working in your home?  I would love to have you join us, there is always celebrated success to share!

Are you going to saw the sawdust today?


From Screamfree Parenting by Hal Runkel

” All the king’s horses and all the king’s men can’t put the past together again. So let’s remember. Don’t try to saw sawdust. ”      –    Dale Carnegie

Oh, how much easier and more pleasant would life be if we could live by this principle. Each day really is a new start both for you and your child. If you flipped out over something stupid yesterday, apologize and put it behind you. If your kid had a particularly trying day and managed to stomp on every last one of your nerves, allow your resentment to slide out of you as you slide under the covers.

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