Are You a Thermometer or Thermostat?


This is a first for me – to recommend and share a book with you all that I haven’t even finished reading!  But I honestly could not wait any longer – it is that good!

Replenish 3d closerI was thrilled when I was contacted by my friend and colleague, Lisa Grace Byrne who I’ve had the pleasure of knowing for over 4 years to take a sneak peek at her new book, Replenish:  Experience Radiant Calm and True Vitality in Your Everyday Life.  This has been something she has passionately worked on for quite some time and I knew it would be F*A*B*U*L*O*U*S!

I’ve shared some of her other resources for moms to take control of their life and live from a place of passion and purpose through interactive workshops and programs, such as:

Cleanse Your Life – A program for Whole Body – Whole Life Cleanse and Detox

Teach Your Life to Be Extraordinary –  Live a purposeful and passionate life as a modern mother without compromising your family

Designed for Wellness – Healthy Eating, Whole Living for Busy Moms

Harmonize Your Hormones –  Balance your hormones for a calm, productive, energized life

Happy Mom, Healthy Family Meal Planning Workshop and Cookbook – Meal Planning Made Easy

Her programs are so rich and her genuine spirit to offer support and encouragement overflows, which makes her work so effective for tired and overwhelmed moms.  I have learned a lot over the years from her expertise in the field of self-care, natural living and finding true balance with our self – oh, and having GRACE with our bodies.

So, of course I was anxious to see what more she had to offer in her new book – and like I said, I could not wait to share it with you.  I am only 1/3 of the way into it and I am being blown away by some of the exercises she shares to practically implement what she is sharing – this ladies is life changing material!  And it doesn’t cost you a ton of money.

I love this quote from the book I just read yesterday:

“Remember that every time you make a choice to more deeply care for yourself, you are turning on a hose.  All those trickles add up and before you know it you’re feeling lighter and more buoyant.”

Let me share with you just a bit more from the book:

The following is an edited excerpt from Lisa Grace Byrne’s newly released book, Replenish: Experience Radiant Calm and True Vitality in Your Everyday Life.

I saw a bumper sticker once that read, “Thermometers react to the temperature, thermostats control the temperature. Which are you?”

It’s a good question, right? It helped me see how crucial my emotional tone was to the temperature of my home. When Jackson, my oldest, triggers me with his behavior or attitude, I feel like I can become six years old again myself. This, of course, is just another way of saying I lose all capability of setting the emotional tone of the interaction and shift into reactionary mode. I simply want to lash back at him with the same behavior or attitude.

Have you ever found yourself yelling at your child not to raise his voice at you? Even as I do it I feel so foolish, and yet, it’s also a huge sign for me that I’m stuck in a stress state and need to shift myself into a calm before I can ever hope to regain my composure.

Kids are expert thermometers. They receive the energy, tone, and “temperature” from those around them. In fact, they’re constantly trying to figure out what they’re supposed to do by watching, modeling, and exploring our reactions to the world and to them.

Think about what happens when kids are in tense or anxiety filled situations. Or when they are tired or hungry or it is just too hot outside. They are receiving the temperature around them and simply reacting to that rising heat. They often need a lot of help and guidance from us to cool off because they can’t do it themselves. It’s in their nature to siphon from us the tone and energy of their worlds.

Ever feel like kids suck you dry? Well, it’s because they do, literally–and incidentally, that’s their job. They’re feeding directly off of whoever is closest to them in their worlds.

One of the things I believe we’re meant to do for our children is to help them develop and strengthen their internal locus of control, help them learn to replenish their stores and stay well and vital. But here’s the thing—we as parents can’t help them if we haven’t crossed over from a thermometer to a thermostat. And for many adults, we weren’t taught how to replenish and remain calm, particularly when we’re in high stress situations. That’s when this gets sticky because stress causes us to become reactionary.

So the key to being a thermostat in today’s stress-crazed culture is to learn how to maintain an inner calm amidst the storm.

Trying to care for yourself while you’re in full blown stress response is like throwing a small cup of water on a blazing fire. Technically it’s helping, a little. But in the grand scheme of things it doesn’t feel like it’s done much at all. That’s why it’s crucial that we come to learn and practice calming techniques that can shift our body and mind into a calm state first, before we do the important work of handling “hot” situations with our kids.

In my book, Replenish: Experience Radiant Calm and True Vitality, I explore 7 core essentials of wellness that are critical parts of a vital self care practice. The first core essential I explore is a Calm Mind, which speaks directly to this capacity to turn on a calm response when you’ve been triggered by an intense situation.  In my experience this one area of self care has transformed my well being more than any other. It’s part of our design to be able to calm ourselves from the inside out, and once we get familiar with the tools to do this, our work of mothering becomes much easier to do on a daily basis.

LisaGraceByrne (1)Lisa Grace Byrne is a mother to three and founder of, an exceptional online community where she equips busy moms to live vibrant lives.  She is also a speaker, coach and teacher with a degree from Cal Poly State University in Biochemistry with an emphasis in Nutrition and Metabolism. She holds a Masters in Public Health from Boston University and is a Certified Holistic Health Counselor through the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and Columbia University.


Lisa’s debut book is now available – and there’s FREE gifts if you purchase now!!

If you purchase the book by August 25, 2013 you’ll get a seat in Lisa’s LIVE 7 Days to Calm video class(value $59) beginning Sept 1, 2013 — it’s her gift to you!


Simply forward your email receipt of the book to [email protected] and she’ll get you all signed up for the class, for free!  If you purchase Replenish for a friend and want her to be gifted 7 Days to Calm, you can still forward your receipt and then complete the registration for her.

I know you will be truly blessed and inspired with this book – let HOPE arise in your spirit weary mama!!!

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