4 Things I Learned from My Dad



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Day Sixteen

I am so excited to share with you a post written by my dear husband.  This just made sense to me, to allow my husband to share about his father, one who was so important to him and our entire family – especially in honor of Father’s Day. I think his message is a great father/son related one, but I also took away some great tid-bits that are true for us all.

I can’t believe that I’ve been given the chance to post to my lovely bride’s blog.  For years, I’ve asked to participate and share with her audience, and of course to call myself “The Confident Dad”.  Makes sense right?  Well, she’s finally relented for Father’s Day and I’ll try not to embarrass her.

My dad Victor passed away last week after a very short, but acute battle with cancer.  From diagnosis to death, 2 weeks.  Wow!  It’s been a whirlwind that our family has had to navigate through.  Most of us have or will go through the death of a parent, and fortunately my bride has been a rock in supporting me.  Thanks Babe.  🙂

As our family shared memories, I was constantly reminded of how many traits and skills I share with my father.  It’s always been right there in front of me, but sadly I’ve never fully appreciated them until after he was gone.  There’s no way to list them all, but here are some of more important life skills I’ve learned from my dad:

Stay Organized

Lists, Calendars, Reminders.  We all stay organized differently, but what’s important is to get your act together.  How can you support your spouse or lead your family if you’re constantly putting out your own personal fires?  We’ll never be perfectly prepared for everything, but it sure is easier to roll with the punches when problems arise when we’re organized.

Accept that you’re not perfect

My dad had lots of faults; we all do.  However, he knew his limitations and worked around them instead of letting them slow him down.  The only perfect person I know was Jesus Christ, so accept how God has made you.  When you screw up, dust yourself off and keep going.  Quit dwelling on the past or being a victim.  Courageously apologize if you get it wrong, and learn from your mistakes.

Be Generous

This one drives my wife batty sometimes.  She’ll be looking for me and I’ve suddenly disappeared to help a neighbor out.  (Note to Self…Be more considerate and carry my cell phone).  My dad always put our family first, but was also exceedingly generous and always willing to help a friend or complete stranger.  I love to bless others when they have an unfilled need.

Build Relationships

I think it’s human nature for us to get wrapped up in our own world.  I don’t know how many times I’ve heard “I don’t have time”; in fact I’m guilty of this one myself.  However, what’s really more important than taking the time to build relationships and friendships?  My dad loved the Lord and had a successful marriage of 47 years, but I’m absolutely flabbergasted by the amount of true friends he had and the love that has been showered on my mother in her grief.

Reach UP to Him, Reach IN to your family, but don’t forget to Reach OUT to those around you.

Isn’t that what Jesus did?

OK.  That’s it.  Solemnly stepping off my soapbox now.  I love my dad and know that he’s with the Lord.  But more importantly, I’m comforted to know that I’m a living testament to my dad and how he lived his life.  My dad truly reaped a bountiful harvest by sowing abundantly with his life (2 Corinthians 9:6).

If your parents are still around, don’t forget to tell them how much you appreciate all they’ve taught you.  Happy Father’s Day and thanks for allowing me to share.

Heid 30-2094-2Don

“The Confident Dad”





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