One of the biggest pain points that comes into the conversation when I coach moms is the lack of time for self-care. I have written in the past about the benefits of being a selfish mom, and it’s a tongue-in-cheek post, but the message is clear. Most moms are so busy taking care of everyone else that they don’t care for themselves and then become worn down, bitter, and oftentimes very ill from being exhausted.
There is nothing that says you love your role as a mom most than to find time to nurture you. You will be a better mom, wife, friend, and your body will thank you.
When was the last time you did something for you?
What did you do?
How did it affect your day or your week?
I want you to really think about these questions. If you had trouble answering them, it’s time to stop the train and fix the problem. Your family needs you to show up as your best self, and constantly running on empty will not produce the best version of you.
Here are a few ideas in ways you can nourish your spirit and show up for you. Some are short and not very time consuming and some need a bit more planning. I urge you to plan, ask for help, and delegate some things so you can carve out space to nourish your soul and take in some self-care.
Get outside and take a walk—alone
This is one simple and no-cost option for those needing to tend to their self-care. This is not a spa day (however those are nice!), but to be honest, they are not in reach for most families right now. So what can you do in small increments of time? Be aware of your surroundings and be proactive.
Devotion and prayer
I begin every morning with a quiet time of devotions and prayer. I URGE you…make this a habit. When you provide that space for God to calm your heart and speak truth into your soul, your entire day is better. Believe me, I have had the days from h*ll when I have not taken the time to sit with God. Please…get the YouVersion bible app so you can easily access the bible, reading plans, and scripture.
Unplug from your electronic devices
Oh, yes, I said that!!! Even me, one who runs two business with a big influence on social media. I unplug. It’s critical to keep myself sane. Especially right now—so much ugliness on social media. Take an afternoon or an entire day and leave your phone alone. This can be hard at first, but you will begin to enjoy this time!
Meet a friend
There is nothing like meeting a friend for coffee and sharing our hearts. Now, remember, these do not have to be in-person gatherings, but I much prefer that! However, I do have a sweet friend from years ago and we’ve recently reconnected. She lives across the country, so we’ve taken to using Facebook video messenger to sit and have a chat every few weeks. I block this out on my calendar just like any other important appointment. It’s nurturing to me, brings life to bones, and warms my heart so much. Who can you make a friendship date with this week? Maybe they need some self-care time too!
This is something I was not really a fan of nor really practiced until about a year ago. It’s a wonderful way to calm my mind and refocus. I have used the Calm app, which you can get for free for seven days, or I find meditations on YouTube. This one, Inheritance by Graham Cooke…it’s not a traditional meditation, but it fills my tired heart something fierce. I will lay down, close my eyes, and let the words go into every nook and cranny of my body. Take a listen today (I keep the link to this video in my notes section in my phone so I can listen any chance I get!).
Play worship music
Do you play worship music in your home? Do you know music carries a vibrational frequency that can help your emotional well-being? It’s true. Worship music is some of the best music you can play to help create a positive mindset. Here is a video by Dr. Masaru Emoto showing how different music can impact our bodies and our well-being because our bodies are 80% water. Go take a look; it’s fascinating! Worship music speaks of love—which carries a high frequency. When you listen and that fills your home, it’s amazing how the presence of calm can be felt. Try it!
I would be amiss to not mention how using essential oils can help you with self-care for your body, especially from a spiritual standpoint. Diffusing essential oils like Frankincense, Lavender, Cedarwood, and Blue Spruce can dramatically help your mood and energy levels. When you inhale oils, they enter the limbic part of the brain, which is the part that holds and stores emotions. If you aren’t familiar, there is real evidence that shows that inhaling and applying oils topically can help you destress, relax, and improve moods naturally. They are life-giving to me!
I hope you found some new ways to nurture yourself in this season.