Do you like having a fresh start or do you dread it?
For me, having a regrouping at the end of a year is rather refreshing and exhilarating – I truly enjoy looking at what has happened behind me and consider what things could be going forward.
It is the end of 2013 and it is time to consider some resolutions for 2014. Having set goals and expectations for yourself as a mom, wife and woman will help keep you focused and driven rather than just floating along with no real measurable progress.
If you don’t know where you are going, you will probably end up somewhere else. ~Lawrence J. Peter
That quote is so true, if you allow things to just come at you, you will be subject to just float along.
Here are some tips and ideas on what you can consider as you set some goals for 2014. Tomorrow, come back because I will be specifically focusing on how to care for your body….and ladies, it is not all about losing weight, although that seems to be one on everyone’s list each year.
Pray it through
The worst thing one can do when setting a goal is to be hasty when making it. Take the time to truly pray about what God may have in store for you and allow Him to reveal areas that He thinks should be a focus. We can always come up with our own plan, but often times it is just that, OUR plan….not Him working in us.
You can spend a lot of time working toward a goal that perhaps isn’t really where God wants you to spend your time. I know I have a lot of great ideas, but if they aren’t truly goals that are from God, then I can sit spinning my wheels and get no where. I end up frustrated and feeling less than because I did not involve Him in the process.
Another reason a lot of people don’t achieve their New Year’s resolutions is because they set unreasonable goals that aren’t practical. I know for me, I can set some pretty lofty goals and then when I do not see any progress I tend to get real discouraged. Examine whether it is truly the season for you to focus on a certain goal. We moms can do a lot, but you cannot do it all – all the time.
Instead of setting a goal of getting some exercise in 7 days a week, start with a smaller increment and move up. If you have little ones at home, it can be literally impossible to set aside that time to do it every single day, but perhaps carving out 30 minutes three times a week is more manageable? If you are just starting a new morning routine devotional time, instead of starting with an hour 5 days a week, pick a smaller goal. You can always go up from there! How about 10 minutes, 5 days a week?
I love this one! It is my favorite and I think last year it became a bit more popular and I joined in. Picking a word that is your “theme” for the year is one simple way to have a focus. I felt led last year to pick the word PERSEVERANCE.
Not only so, but we[a] also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. – Romans 5: 3-5 NIV
Let me just say, last year was a year that was like no others. I was met with many obstacles throughout the year like never before and I know the Lord helped me pick that word and also I dove into finding scripture that would help me walk through troubles and live it out. It was hard, often overwhelming….but if I had not had my word of the year…..I think I would have gone a bit whacko! It was something solid I could grasp onto when I felt things tumbling down around me.
So what will your word for 2014 be? I am praying about mine now!
As a mom, you understand what it means to start small. We do this all the times with our kids, but we can often forget that to is okay for us to start small too. I mentioned this above about taking baby steps towards goals instead of biting off big chunks. It can be very overwhelming to feel like you need to begin a morning devotional routine, lose 20 pounds, declutter your bedroom and start a home based business all at the same time. So take some of those ideas (after you have prayed about them) and break them down into truly bite size pieces. Then you can cross off smaller goals and feel accomplishment along the way.
When small goals are set, and met, we can stay motivated. We all love the feeling of success and celebrating!
Make a plan
I know you’ve heard the phrase, “Failing to plan is planning to fail?”
Well, it’s true! Especially, when setting goals. And, it’s even more true for mothers making goals. There are so many factors that have to be considered by moms when they set goals for themselves because they don’t just have themselves to worry about. They have the entire family to worry about too.
Therefore, if you want to make some New Year’s resolutions for yourself, and achieve them, you need to make a plan. Look at your family’s schedule and figure out when you will be able to carve out time for yourself so you can work towards your goal. For example, if losing weight, getting fit or eating better is your goal, you are going to have to make time to exercise, plan meals and shop with more determination. This can be difficult with kids, but it’s still possible when you look at your schedule and purposely schedule time in to accomplish and work toward a goal.
As a mother, it doesn’t matter what your New Year’s resolutions are, you have to have a plan for achieving them or they will never be more than goals. Why? All of the life stresses (kids, spouse, bills, busy schedules, etc.) you are constantly dealing with will continue to get in the way of you reaching your goals.
However, if you purposely make a plan and carve out a little time every day to devote to your goals, you will make your New Year’s resolutions a reality! Not sure where to start? Read this post I shared last year for a few ideas!
If you’ve already chosen your word for 2014, I would love for you to leave a comment below as to what it is and your inspiration for choosing that.